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Can MNHQ set up a new discussion category called Feminism: sex & gender discussion (inclusive, non-GC)

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PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 14:59

MN, will you please create a talk group/category of Feminism: sex & gender discussion (inclusive, non-GC)?

MN appears to currently have only 2 feminism categories:
Feminism: chat
Feminism: sex & gender discussions

But the Feminism: sex & gender category on MN is predominantly GC, with its emphasis on trans exclusion ideology. Feminists who do not subscribe to those beliefs are often unwelcome and treated with derision and hostility in discussions. Certainly not always as some GC posters do enjoy open, intellectual discussions but often enough that engagement can be toxic & intimidating all around.

It is almost impossible for non-GC feminists to find inclusive/non-GC feminist discussions, and we have to wade through unpleasant (for us) GC threads while attempting to do so.

GC feminism dominates on UK parenting sites in particular. However, inclusive/non-GC feminism is extremely popular around the world (especially in places like the US, NZ, and AU) and in the UK among younger feminists and those who do not see trans rights as a threat to women & girls’ safety. Many UK feminists are non-GC but may feel silenced on MN.

The addition of another category will help open up and improve MN discussions while reducing the toxicity and hostility that many feminists on both sides experience in discussions.

So I propose the following feminism discussion categories:
Feminism: chat (general)
Feminism: sex & gender discussions (GC)
Feminism: sex & gender discussion (inclusive, non-GC)

@MNHQ

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PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 18:27

AskMeMore · 04/04/2023 18:09

OP I do not agree with your views, but I agree the feminist board is highly toxic to anyone who does not agree with the dominant viewpoint. The only woman accepted are those who are gender critical, very supportive of Posie Parker and who think the trans issue is the most important issue facing women.

Thanks for your replies, @AskMeMore.

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Helleofabore · 04/04/2023 18:26

TheShellBeach · 04/04/2023 18:20

Eh?
That is exactly the point, though.
This, right here, THIS BOARD, was set up for GC women.
If anyone is unsupportive of that, of course their views will be robustly challenged and unwelcome here.
That, OP, is the raison d'etre for the existence of Feminism Chat.

No. This board was never set up for GC women. I must point out that is not correct.

This board was always for all feminist discussions about sex and gender. For all posters of both sexes as long as it remained within the feminist parameters.

PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 18:26

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Floisme · 04/04/2023 18:25

Do you need anything further from us op, now that you know the board you were looking for already exists?

Helleofabore · 04/04/2023 18:24

Oh. And this post above also doesn't constitute 'stalking' you either.

midgemadgemodge · 04/04/2023 18:23

Op has it ever crossed your mind that the vast majority of people who are active feminists might disagree with your premise that feminism should be inclusive of male bodied people ? Maybes that's why you feel drowned out ?

Helleofabore · 04/04/2023 18:23

PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 18:18

Thanks for that, @AskMeMore.

I’m confident there are many who don’t agree with me who would engage constructively and in good faith on a board that is tolerant and supportive of non-GC points of view.

They would engage with you constructively here if you could stop denigrating those who disagree with you. Tell us why you think any poster should engage when your opening post is basically denigrating this board?

FKATondelayo · 04/04/2023 18:23

I don't know if you've heard of LinkedIn, Instagram and Facebook OP. These obscure rather niche platforms all have lots of "non-GC feminism" boards where "GC feminists" are banned. Maybe they are more up your street. Let me know if you want links.

Random789 · 04/04/2023 18:22

I would certainly hope that MN do NOT split the Feminism: Sex& Gender topic into GC and non-GC categories. How utterly damning of all of us would it be if we needed two echo chambers instead of one genuine forum. If you want an echo chamber, go on twitter and curate your feed.

And in any case, if we were to do as the OP suggests, why just binary single-view spaces. What about all the various non-binary shades of opinion (aka nuance)? Are we just going to rule that out by fiat, through chat room architecture? Or are we going to proliferate topics every time there is profound disagreement?

What we need is civil discussion between varying views, and MN already work pretty hard to enfoce civility by removing abusive posts. I can certainly understand that it feels uncomfortable to be posting as the representitive of a minority view, but so long as abusive posts are disallowed, we surely need to tolerate that discomfort as the price of participating in discussion of contentious issues.

TheShellBeach · 04/04/2023 18:22

anna2101 · 04/04/2023 18:20

wow - the level of rudeness and passive aggressiveness on this thread is beyond me. Who knew people can be so passionate about a new discussion sub category 😅

Yes, weird that - as the sub-category already exists.

Hepwo · 04/04/2023 18:22

anna2101 · 04/04/2023 18:20

wow - the level of rudeness and passive aggressiveness on this thread is beyond me. Who knew people can be so passionate about a new discussion sub category 😅

I think we are just entertained by the attempted land grab going on.

This is a tough board to post on.

For a reason.

TheShellBeach · 04/04/2023 18:20

PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 18:06

Hi there, JG.

If you think that my query to MN was in any way controversial or I’m going to “have my ass handed to me”, it rather proves my point that discussions unsupportive of GC feminism are unwelcome in this category.

Also not surprised at your take. Cheers.

Eh?
That is exactly the point, though.
This, right here, THIS BOARD, was set up for GC women.
If anyone is unsupportive of that, of course their views will be robustly challenged and unwelcome here.
That, OP, is the raison d'etre for the existence of Feminism Chat.

nepeta · 04/04/2023 18:20

Happylittlechicken · 04/04/2023 18:15

err.how is this place not safe? What do you think is going to happen? Or do you mean, the irony of someone wanting an inclusive board but wanting some people excluded? Or someone wanting a board that only discusses what they want to discuss and only people with the right opinions will be able to post?

Aren't support threads created for topics where someone wants to feel safe in the sense of most not arguing against the concerns the OP expresses?

Safe spaces are now often used in quite different meanings, ranging from someone not truly being physically safe to demanding no debate that might make a person uncomfortable.

But another definition of a safe space seems important here, and this is the idea that a debate should be a safe space for all to express courteous disagreement without being silenced.

Hepwo · 04/04/2023 18:20

AHyenaofMN · 04/04/2023 15:53

At least this thread has brought us a new insult, which is always nice. On a Monday, too!

Is it only Monday?

anna2101 · 04/04/2023 18:20

wow - the level of rudeness and passive aggressiveness on this thread is beyond me. Who knew people can be so passionate about a new discussion sub category 😅

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 04/04/2023 18:20

PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 18:18

Thanks for that, @AskMeMore.

I’m confident there are many who don’t agree with me who would engage constructively and in good faith on a board that is tolerant and supportive of non-GC points of view.

man alive woman, the board exists, it's right here

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/feminism

have at it and stop whinging

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dimorphism · 04/04/2023 18:19

So, OP, you want a board that's 'inclusive' but that specifically EXCLUDES a group of women on MN? I don't think you know what 'inclusive' means.

The 'sex and gender' board isn't the 'GC' board - anyone can post there, and do. People with different opinions can post anywhere on MN. Plenty of non GC people post on sex and gender, the fact that most posters are GC just reflects MN users.

How would it work - MN can't ban people from certain boards and not others. Are you just asking that all women (and men, presumably) who believe in biological reality should be banned from a parenting website? You do realise that since Maya's case GC beliefs are protected?

You're essentially asking for the equivalent of a board that excludes Muslims, or Christians, or Jewish people.

RoseslnTheHospital · 04/04/2023 18:19

When you say "feminism board" which one do you mean? Chat or S&G?

Helleofabore · 04/04/2023 18:19

I find the suggestion that MN is not a safe space to be rather concerning. Here people have the opportunity to voice their opinions, and to have discussion within the talk guidelines. They are not doxxed. There is no threats of any kind allowed. And if you don't like the discussion, you can hide the thread.

I really wonder at people who want a 'safe space' on a commercial website forum to discuss things or who want the people who post on that website to be welcoming and agreeable.

How do people who expect this deal with real life issues?

PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 18:18

AskMeMore · 04/04/2023 18:09

OP I do not agree with your views, but I agree the feminist board is highly toxic to anyone who does not agree with the dominant viewpoint. The only woman accepted are those who are gender critical, very supportive of Posie Parker and who think the trans issue is the most important issue facing women.

Thanks for that, @AskMeMore.

I’m confident there are many who don’t agree with me who would engage constructively and in good faith on a board that is tolerant and supportive of non-GC points of view.

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BernardBlacksMolluscs · 04/04/2023 18:16

AskMeMore · 04/04/2023 18:14

@TheShellBeach Plenty of women disagree.

it's kind of implicit that unless someone says 'this is a fact and here's the proof' the stuff they type here is their opinion.

you have an opinion, so does the other poster. I really don't see the problem here

Happylittlechicken · 04/04/2023 18:15

PinkyU · 04/04/2023 18:13

The irony of a woman saying “I’m looking for a safe space to speak” and being ripped to shreds 🙄

err.how is this place not safe? What do you think is going to happen? Or do you mean, the irony of someone wanting an inclusive board but wanting some people excluded? Or someone wanting a board that only discusses what they want to discuss and only people with the right opinions will be able to post?

Signalbox · 04/04/2023 18:15

Waitwhat23 · 04/04/2023 18:07

This whole thread is just giving me flashbacks to the threads about the main board splitting.

There were so, so many posters who came on to say that all they desired was a space to talk about feminism without GC views. They were given that space - the Feminism:Chat board. They made it clear that those with GC views were not welcome to post on that particular thread, in very clear terms. I saw several posters with known GC views being told to 'piss off back to your own board'.

And all those threads and subjects they were so desperate to talk about? Never materialised. The many posters desperate for such a space apparently never felt the need to actually use the space.

I can completely understand the OP, as a new poster, not knowing the history of the split or thinking that the name of the board (I.e. chat) might not fit the needs of what she is looking for, might not know this, hence setting up this thread.

What I don't understand is the subsequent posts from other posters who have (presumably) read the thread, decrying the lack of such a space.

There is one.

Yes me too wit the flashbacks. Didn’t some people suggest at the time that FWR stayed as it was and a second board was set up for the lib fems to allow inclusion of penis havers. Perhaps just change the S&G board back to FWR and rename chat for the lib fems.

RoseslnTheHospital · 04/04/2023 18:14

onegirlandherdog · 04/04/2023 18:09

And seriously, thank you OP for raising this. Sorry for deluge of comments you're getting. Sex and gender in the context of feminism has sooooo many more facets than the GC angle that need discussion.

Why are you sorry for the OPs thread getting lots of replies? Isn't that half the point of starting a discussion thread?

EmotionalSupportHyena · 04/04/2023 18:14

AskMeMore · 04/04/2023 18:11

@Happylittlechicken Why that snidy comment?

Because we already average around 2 threads a day on this topic on the S&G board (and if you were to post one elsewhere, it would likely be shunted over here by mods within the first hour).