7 yo boy wants to wear dress and tights to school

How about, you have a penis and testicles trousers keep your testicles warmer. The added fabric protects them a bit more in the playground as well.

Let him wear a dress otherwise you are saying dresses are just for girls and therefore playing into the whole trans bullshit.

Teach him boys can wear dresses without thinking they have to have their dicks chopped off.

My son is similar and honestly I had the same feelings. They're just ingrained into us that our boys just shouldn't wear a dress for school but when you really try to think up a justifiable answer as to why they can't it's impossible. So let him wear a dress, just let him know he's a boy in a dress.

Our school got rid of boys and girls uniform and just let anyone wear anything from the uniform list.

We're in Scotland and I feel like we have to be extra careful how we discuss sex and gender with the children.

OP unless you know of other specific reasons, I think it is possible he has been having PSHE lessons and trans gender ideology books ( a new industry) muddling him.

I know of a mixed sex private English school with a uniform policy that says both sexes can wear any of the uniform, but they have trousers and kilts. Obviously kilts do not take a boy out of a social norm in the same way as a dress does, on the contrary.

Yep me too , this shit is getting out of control . Parents terrified to tell kids they can't do something.

“Hmm DS, going to the loo is super easy in trousers isn’t it. Hmm, have you every tried it in a winter dress and tights? No? Oh well you might just find it’s a bit too tricky to manage at school. You wouldn’t want to get in a pickle would you.”

@VeronicaBeccabunga
Couldn't agree more.
And I would add:
Ffs parent your child and say No . There's a time and a place!

Why does he want to? Does he realise that polyester pinafores and scratchy tights are actually awful? A pita for PE changing, cold, uncomfortable. I wish schools would just have a rule that uniform is joggers and a t shirt and then shorts for summer.

You could try telling DD the social truth: boys do not wear pinafores. Sexist, I know, but it saves a lot of hassle. My DCs are grown up, one with children. It would never have occurred to me or exDH to have girls' dressing up things for our DS. He went to ballet lessons (a friend ridiculed him, which was a huge pity and I was so angry) and had girls' toys as well as boys'. Helped, perhaps, that exDH's cultural clothes were not so trousers = boys, skirts = girls as European fashions are now.

Just tell him trousers are for doing a wee the boy way and skirts are easier for doing a wee the girl way, so thats why girls are more likely to wear skirts and dresses to school

Tricky though

Actually saying boys can't wear dresses is nonsense
It's a social convention that has little to justify it and lots of reasons to deprecate it

However yes disobey the social rules and you can expect bullying until the rules get broken down
Which is possibly an action more suited to an older teen / adult than a smaller child
?

I would say no. The boys wear X and the girls wear Y. Sometimes we have to wear stuff we don't like, that's part of life. Just don't make a big deal about it.

The world has gone mad. Whatever happened to just saying NO to your kids. Why does everyone seem to be pandering to this nonsense these days

You have not said why he wants to wear a dress to school. Do you know why?

I agree @JacquelinePot there are activist teachers out there ringing their hands just waiting for kids like this . Please do not put your child in a position where they will be mocked by other kids & parents .

That's a good question considering the gender ideology capture in Scotland. OP needs to check what the school is teaching.

It’s easy, you just say “no” and he continues to wear the uniform he already owns.

It's important to make children aware of the norms and expectations in society. That doesn't mean you have to make them follow all of them, but at certain times in certain situations they will have to follow them or will choose to, or you will choose it on their behalf.

The nonsense idea that we can suddenly tell young children norms are just irrelevant and they can throw them out to be their true selves is partly what's led to the extremist individualistic Trans movement of be whoever you want, don't be hemmed in by norms, language or even biology.

Young children shouldn't be used to try to change norms, norms will change gradually over time. Children should be socialised to understand the norms of their society and then as they get older they should question and challenge them to work out how they'll live their lives as adults.

Our norm is that boys don't wear dresses at schools. Liking dresses, dressing up, all understandable but parents should be confident to be the adults who say: No. Where we live boys don't wear dresses to school so you can't.

Just say it's not appropriate for school. It's too cold for tights

My only worry with him wearing a dress would be an activist-teacher taking it upon their self to indoctrinate my son and set the wheels in motion towards childhood transition. Sorry, no advice, so that's not much help.

Sorry that was the automatic spelling. What has your son’s school been teaching?

My 8 year old son is very similar to yours and we have always taught him that colours/clothes/glitter etc is for everyone but that he will always be male. I would casually steer him towards appropriate clothes for the activity or weather though. I've often said to him not to wear hair clips outside in case they get lost or no tights at school on pe day, so you could say it's too cold for a dress today etc.

What has your DD’s son been teaching on PSHE? What resources if any do they use? Which books?

My concern wouldn't be the other pupils or ridicule particularly - my worry would be how the staff would read it and whether they would push him towards social transition.

I am following your thread with interest. We have a 7yo girl and 4yo boy. DD questioned why I was giving away her pinafores and not keeping them for DS. She has pinafores and trousers. DS wears her sparkly hand me downs (and some of his own choosing). He has occasionally put one of DDs dresses on at home. He hasn't asked to wear dresses out the house and maybe never will. I feel like I did a great job telling DD she could wear whatever she wanted and now it's trickier!

Once the big concern would be teasing. Now, you need to be aware that he may be enthusiastically swept up by the school's trans affirmation policies. Which may be fine with you, but think it through.