Thank you bread I’m aware of that sub stack - it’s a life saver - like you guys all are. This is also good - from a detransitioner, the link is here https://pitt.substack.com/p/back-from-the-other-side. They’ve written..
When any tragedy hits a child, parents are usually surrounded by family members, friends, medical team, social groups and institutions that provide help navigating this difficult journey. But when you are the common-sensical parent who is not jumping on the trans band wagon, who is not buying the trans narrative, who asks the right questions, exposes the inconvenient facts and urges caution regarding gender affirming practices of all kinds (or should I say more accurately mental illness affirming), you become the villain of the story. And those very folks and institutions that used to be there for you now label you as an intolerant hateful bigot who wants their kid to die. As a result, you get socially ostracized and alienated from your own kid.
yup. Also by your woke mates.
and this, by Helen joyce…
The specific people who are going to be most angry are those who have made irrevocable choices on the basis that the rest of us would go along with those choices. Most of all the parents who transitioned their own children, because if you transition your own child you are in effect making a promise to that child that the whole world is going to step in line for the entire rest of that child’s life, and now there’s people like me saying, actually that’s not going to happen. You can tell your boy that he’s your daughter if you like but he’s not going to be able to play in women’s sports, and I’m going to fight tooth and nail to get him out of women’s changing rooms as well. Those people are all in. They’ve bet the house. They bet their lives on an ideology that we’re now fighting back against. They’re going to fight to the death on this.”
and of course, this is who DD is living with.
what is a massive concern is that we went to the family therapist. He tells us we are overreacting and NHS queues are long. He didnt believe me that you can buy it online, that gender gp was a thing. I mean what?
it seems DD has been seeing someone at the same place running the LGBTQ project. How do we know she’s not being affirmed? They say not, but there’s also an LGBTQ club which I have concerns about - buried in the website is their link to LGBTyouth Scotland, who push this stuff everywhere with their ‘silver charter’ and dodgy puberty blocker and grooming side issues.
she’s being immersed in this stuff 24/7.
Last week the family therapist talked to DD on her own - they won’t say what she said, ffs. But apparently she’d like to take it slowly and she’s willing to talk to me. So of course DH is in bits. I am worried about his health - he won’t take time off, and has tons of work on, and this.
red and delp that is a great approach and I’ll use it if she does deign to talk.
mum thanks, that’s good advice. I don’t want to start and then let them down again. I’m also mucking up my One day a week job atm. I was too upset to go to a jolly/meeting, which didn’t go down too well. And barely scraped through the actual day. F nose how DH is managing. His friend said , oh what I do is difficult but nothing like what your DH does.’
i can’t believe this! DH has form for being anxious but every OTT prediction he has made is happening.