Tell me lovely things about having a baby girl

A girl. So your mitochondrial DNA will go forward in time, mother to daughter to grand-daughter down the road of time. Only women do this. I am sad that my daughter has no children and so my mitochondrial line dies with me (not planning to die yet). My DD, though not having children, is a strong, independent woman, with a responsible job. I brought her up to stand up for herself, not to be put down, and that has worked to an extent (like me, she has confidence issues which I did not manage to cure). She takes no notice of the current fads and is her own person. I gave her books about girls who did things, let her do her own thing, ballet and football and netball. Your DD will come through as well, I am sure.

I wasn’t speaking to you,but well done for defending Islamaphobic finalist tropes.What an incredible example.

@OTheHugeManatee this thread just got resurrected 8 years on. I hope everything went OK with your pregnancy, and if so, how have you found raising your daughter compared to your fears back then?

While it's very odd that you resurrected a thread from eight years ago just to say this, I'm glad you did. It was a lovely, uplifting read. Thank you.

Congratulations!

My dd is a total ass kicker! She arrived with a massive personality and seemingly indomitable. We've been recovering ever since.

She's girly sometimes but hardly ever wears make up, she hasn't touched her eyebrows.

She is just glorious and will be fine in this world I hope.

I was determined to bring her up never feeling we loved her because of her looks. It was all about what she did and who she was. Never that her value was in her as decorative.

It was very difficult when she was little because she was cute as hell and we are deeply encultured to reward beauty.

But I kept a lot of her brother's clothes and she still wears his cast off hoodies and pjs. Wearing boys clothes can maybe help neutralize the horror pink girlyness of fashion for young girls.

It's also important that our girls don't become a vessel for our dreams and frustrations, I still struggle with that.

My ds is also a wonderful person IMO but in some ways much gentler in character. Wonderful how our kids with luck and love can become supremely themselves.

This extremely offensive and misrepresentative of the Saudi state.Shut up with your lies.

By the fact that a poster on the feminism board will admit to dressing their child in pink frilly clothes? I know!

I am quite shocked.

I quite enjoy dressing my girl in the frilly frothy things. It's a phase we're going through at the moment anyway. Maybe that means I'm not a feminist. but then I'm not really sure that I am - I'm just an individual who wants to do what they want without anyone telling me I can't ...whether that's being told I can't be an engineer or a truck driver, or being told my girl can't wear pink frilly shit.

You will raise her to be a feminist and she will be much stronger for it. My eldest DD is 8, she critiques TV shows for their male:female ratio. She plays football as well as the boys and teases her coaches when they use 'boys' instead of 'children'. She knows that women can do anything even though some silly people think otherwise and wants to be a scientist (no parental influence there at all, honest!). She came back from her Brownie camp with the nickname 'Tarzan' because of her prowess at climbing. My younger DD is a whizz at maths, loves to sing and swim and play football with her friends at football club.

I'm sure with a feminist for a mother your daughter will have the resilience to cope with the sexism the world throws at her. Because you'll be giving her positive role models, not judging her on her appearance, and giving her the opportunities that some parents don't give their daughters.

My 7 month old baby girl waved for us today for the first time, my heart melted. Having a daughter is absolutely amazing. Congratulations

Friendly communication with strangers.

I hadn't even noticed this before this thread started but thinking about it , it is something that has really struck me.

London underground excepted, random women who don't know each other will speak to each other on trains , in queues, at bus stops etc. Random men, particularly older men, will do so too- not in a threatening way/ hitting on you way but just in a "it's nice to have a conversation way ". I don't think men interact with other men in this way.

Dd is 5. She had two (girl) friends over today. They converted our new 9 ft slide into a water slide by running the hose down it and laying out the plastic wrap it came with at the bottom. They all slid about ten feet when they hit the end. They found it absolutely hysterical if they could make it all the way to the paddling pool.

The one who was in A and E with a cut head earlier in the week wore a swimming cap so that she didn't get the glue stitches wet (safety first).

Every so often one of them would slide right off the end of the plastic and through the pool and burn their bottom on the astroturf with the friction. Did I mention they were naked?

Girls are fucking great. Congratulations

Rather than grieve for your DD that she's entering a foul sexist world (which I totally agree with & funnily enough felt the same at my 20 wk scan) take joy in the fact YOU have an amazing chance to change the world as does your DD. my DD is 10 months & we are raising a fierce little fire cracker whom will fight on for the cause and won't allow herself to be treated differently because she has a vagina. We are strong women raising the next generation. Let's make it count! ✌🏼️💕

My girls are what they are. I've influenced them in a way that only I can. The wider world is a juggernaut and I can't stop its influence. I imagine they'll go through that insecure phase as teens and do whatever they will to fit in. I hope they'll come out the other side with confidence in who they are and what they can do and who they'll take shit from and who they wont.

I have a son too. My last and 'bonus' baby. He is sensitive and kind, just like his oldest sister. But I can think of a few things that are/will be very different with my daughters.

I can't raise them in a vacuum. If my son never calls me and my daughters end up stepford wives, it won't be for the want of trying on my part.

Haha, yes you're all right that it is a failure if your sons are not as close to you as your daughters. I just guess I feel this way becaus that's what I see around me, that many men call their mums less than worms call theirs. Perhaps because of gender stereotypes. But maybe it's just the people I know.

There's a wonder in having a girl. DS is my beloved boy and dd is too and there's a difference: looking at her and seeing my own physicality in her, knowing that she will feel what I have felt is an astonishing thing. I will never make her relive my life god forbid but knowing she will be a strong amazing woman is pretty special.

Congrats Manatee!

My DD is a total badass, I have to say. She will not be hurried, she will not be bossed, she will not be pushed or coerced. She takes not the slightest ounce of shit from anyone. She loves animals and tolerates some people. She does what she will do and damn the consequences.

Raising her is exhausting, but my girl's going to rattle the stars someday. Just you watch.

Fair enough, I can respect that. Although I was just giving my opinion.

Been reading this thread with interest as I have a ds but am currently 28 weeks pregnant with a girl.

And borrowed in the nicest possible way... don't join a forum and then spend your first day slagging people off, it tends to rub people up the wrong way.

How's it going Manatee?

I've been thinking about you today not stalkery and just wanted to wish you well.

Girls are fabulous, you were one, and you're brilliant

Just don't end up forcing her to act like a boy in an attempt to not be a stereotypical girl, if she likes girly things then let her. You should have a child because it's what you want and you want someone to love and raise etc we all worry about our children's future but seriously to think you'd rather not be pregnant with a girl because of fake tits is a it pathetic sounding if I'm honest. Just raise your kid and let them do what they want even if it's the most girly thing in the world a bit of dress up and play make up will not equal fake tits smh.