I’m 50 and became a sex worker last month AMA

What?! You mean.... you're not jealous of her? 😉

As I said, you didn't read the thread. The first few pages are fixated on OP's age.

Do you think if a 25 year old made a thread about working as a prostitute, people would be expressing their suprise at men wanting to have a sex with a 25 year old? No, they wouldn't.

As I said, there is absolutely nothing unusual or strange about men wanting to have sex with a 50 year old. People who think otherwise live on another planet.

I'm not sure I am up to a full AMA, honestly, and it was a very long time ago (a little over 20 years) for only several months, so there's a lot I've wilfully forgotten – and I know so many women have had it so much worse than I did.

In short, my older, abusive boyfriend coerced me into it when I was 16. Initially I was very against it, and then I think as a defence mechanism, I tried to frame it as me being grown up, progressive, and modern, in an attempted to embrace the inevitable. The fact that it was legal for over-18s made it easier for my boyfriend to make me feel prudish and invalid for feeling uncomfortable about it – after all, it was legal!
I worked at a brothel where most of the women were aged 20 – 35, and it was arranged such that the clients 'rented' the rooms from the brothel owner – probably so that we weren't legally employees, although we were treated that way, with expected working hours.
We were paid cash by the clients, who showered in the room prior to sex. There was a large emphasis on the fact that if a woman felt threatened she could call for security, but in practice you didn't want to upset a client, and would try to keep them sweet. The clients usually weren't too pushy, though, ime, but then I tended to get a cherry-picked bunch. While many women just tried to pick up clients who came in to 'browse', the owners often called regular clients and offered appointments with me (in addition, some women went on call-outs, often for clients who wanted two women, or for the rare female client).
Most clients were middle-aged men and very average – loads appeared to be married men on business trips, but there were a lot of lonely singles too. A few young, attractive men, and a few elderly men, but they were outliers.
The women who had been working there long term mostly seemed to be functional drug addicts, and they almost all appeared to have the sort of mental health issues that made holding down a regular job impossible.
I was extremely popular, especially with older men, as although I had a fake ID it was very obvious I was younger than 18, as I looked young for 16, and they loved the chance to have sex with an attractive underage girl. Many of them were weirdly chivalrous and 'kind', which was disturbing in its own way, and most of them wanted to believe that I loved it/they were pleasing me.
It took me a long time to untangle just how fucked up it was.

I know a lot of women (especially if they're still working in the industry) talk about it positively, but I think laws need to be made with the most vulnerable in mind, and normalising sex work by legalising it puts the most vulnerable at higher risk, imo.

No-one is saying that!!! (That men don't want to have sex with women over 50!)

And you accuse others of not reading the thread! Go figure!

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Thank you for that, @OtterlyAstounding. Both illuminating and depressing.
I hope you're ok now and have moved on successfully with your life 💐

Nobody says there is anything unusual about men wanting to have sex with a 50 year old! Women honestly, genuinely don't need men to tell us that they want to have sex with us even if we're old. We know, I promise.

You're talking about something different. First you were talking about websites to find a partner for sex.
You accuse me of watching TV to know about online sites for sex?
Nope, I am a mature woman who has lived a bit.

As for never talking to men- what a ridiculous comment. Do you not think we work, have hobbies, relatives, friends who are men?

And as I only watch a bit of BBC (usually BBC2) I have no idea about the TV progs you're on about.

Now you've changed it to a discussion about age.

I am older than OP. So are my friends. Many are very much in demand from men sometimes younger, for a new relationship and, if they want it, just strings-free sex.

Maybe, maybe not. But sticking the boot into somebody who was forced to do this to put food on the table isnt exactly useful or kind.

The OP started the thread.

What did she expect? It's AMA.

No one forced her.

@AllezAllezPronto You accuse me of watching TV to know about online sites for sex?

That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying the idea that men just meet completely random men for sex comes from American TV shows and dramas. Obviously, this does not happen in real life due to safety considerations.

Escorts often put themselves down on their tax form as a model or entertainer. Or massage therapist.

well my brother’s first wife was an exotic dancer when they first met…

Loads of other things you could do rather than open your legs for sex.

I know women who do.

Im in my 50s and certainly had men in 40s/50s hit on me. (I do look a bit younger due to not having grey hair)

What are food banks for? And OP sounds relatively intelligent, not like she’s unqualified and no work experience.

Yes but it wasn't a question, was it, it was a moral superiority statement.

I have, thank you 🧡

Any clients today?

Have you never heard the expression "I'm working on it" with regards to improving skills and abilities in those areas?

Are you very alone in the world @AnyonesAnna ?

Bit foolish to be cancelling at short notice when you're so new to the scene isnt it? I'd have thought the first few weeks in a job like this is your peak - when everyone wants a go. You dont want a poor reputation when the shine wears off do you?