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To be annoyed and offended at what this hairdresser did, and what she said about my hair? And should I complain to the owner, or just not go back?

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ILoveAGingerCat · 29/07/2026 14:07

So I have been to this particular hairdressing salon, 4 times before, (I go every 3 months for a dry cut, and 'Julie' usually cuts my hair.) My old hairdresser retired so I started going to this new one about a year and a quarter ago...

This time I had Lisa. (Julie had rang in sick.) For context, my hair is about 6" below my shoulders, and wavy/curly. It's thick and blonde and I love my hair.

I got into the hairdresser chair to sit down for my cut, and Lisa got the hair straighteners out, then spent about 15 minutes straightening my hair within an inch of its life! Several times I kept smelling burning hair, when she kept them on for too long!!! I kept saying 'my hair is burning, you need to stop.' She carried on, and didn't remove the straighteners for another 10 seconds, and kept chatting shit to her colleague who was a few feet away from her. She barely made eye contact with me, despite me trying to chat - several times!

Then - when it was all straight - she said 'that's much better now it's straight.' I said 'what? Why is it better?' She said 'it looks much better on you than the curly hair.' I said 'but that's my natural hair, it's curly and wavy.' She said 'yeah but it looks better straight.' Hmm It was 100% flat and straight because she's fucking fried it with the hair straighteners!

She then started chatting shit to her mate again, and proceeded to cut about half an inch off my hair, and a quarter inch off my fringe. No layering or feathering or any attempt to style it. She spent 5 minutes cutting it... And as I say, she cut it very little! Then she said 'all done' and walked to the till... (I could have done that at home, cut that tiny bit off! In about 2 minutes!)

And I don't believe she straightened my hair to make it easier to cut because it's wavy/curly, as every single hairdresser I have ever had, just sprays it with some water, and combs it through, to make it a easier to cut it properly. The silly mare didn't even cut it properly! And she charged me £45 for it. A shitty, non-cut, and half my hair fried!!!

AIBU to never go there again, and should I make a complaint? About the poor cut, her frying my hair, and her basically telling me that my wavy/curly hair is shit?! 2 pics included are 1) what my hair is like, and 2) how she MADE it look!

To be annoyed and offended at what this hairdresser did, and what she said about my hair? And should I complain to the owner, or just not go back?
To be annoyed and offended at what this hairdresser did, and what she said about my hair? And should I complain to the owner, or just not go back?
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Nessiesfoodprovider · 29/07/2026 14:58

You need to complain and ask for your money back. What the hairdresser did wasn't what you had requested, and you felt too intimidated to say much at the time. It's understandable and why lots of us have experience of growing out an awful haircut!

Allthegoodhorses · 29/07/2026 14:58

TheWytch · 29/07/2026 14:56

I have very wavy hair and I would be livid. It sounds like she has no idea how to cut hair like that so made it straight.

Absolutely go back and complain

I think this is it. I have found very few hairdressers can cut curly hair properly. I'm not sure why. I had the most awful haircut once - from someone with poker straight hair who was obviously used to dealing with that type of hair.

Jackiepumpkinhead · 29/07/2026 14:59

I don’t really understand the photos, both hairstyles are nice. Plus I’m sure everyone can imagine what curly and straight hair looks like.

But, yes, you should complain.

PhiladelphiaRose · 29/07/2026 15:00

Paganpentacle · 29/07/2026 14:56

Wow... my hair is curly... they cut it dry, then wash afterwards.
I bet she's not actually capable of dealing with curly hair.

Yeh this, sounds like she had no idea how to cut curly hair. I now go to a hairdresser who only cuts curls and it’s a total game changer.

Huckleberries · 29/07/2026 15:00

Why are so many hairdressers incapable of dealing with curly hair now?

On top of OP experience, we've got other posters on this thread saying that hairdressers have straightened their hair first!

@ILoveAGingerCat I understand you were unable to say anything in the moment

I would ask for a refund. And then don't go back.

To be honest, I've given up on hairdressers they will just do what they feel like - it's terrible. I only go when I really have to and then I just ask for a trim.

principalskinna · 29/07/2026 15:00

Why didn't you put a picture of yourself up? This is weird.

ILoveAGingerCat · 29/07/2026 15:01

The last few posters may be right. She can't deal with curly hair/can't cut it...

Saying it looks better straight though, and basically ignoring me for 90% of the time I was there. RUDE! Hmm

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cymruyespls · 29/07/2026 15:03

ILoveAGingerCat · 29/07/2026 14:52

Thank you. Flowers

The pics are showing now, in my first post! Only took 45 minutes, 😬

I would LOVE waves like that and if I did, I would be so annoyed if someone burned my beautiful waves! She was chatting shit telling you that straight hair looked better 😭

Definitely complain and explain that you didn’t feel comfortable complaining at the time because of Lisa’s attitude when you tried to speak up.

ILoveAGingerCat · 29/07/2026 15:03

principalskinna · 29/07/2026 15:00

Why didn't you put a picture of yourself up? This is weird.

What? Why would I put a picture of MYSELF up? Now THAT would be weird.

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ILoveAGingerCat · 29/07/2026 15:04

cymruyespls · 29/07/2026 15:03

I would LOVE waves like that and if I did, I would be so annoyed if someone burned my beautiful waves! She was chatting shit telling you that straight hair looked better 😭

Definitely complain and explain that you didn’t feel comfortable complaining at the time because of Lisa’s attitude when you tried to speak up.

Thank you. 😘

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principalskinna · 29/07/2026 15:08

Lots of people do it, but just scrub out their face
You've done some kind of weird fantasy pixie girl thing

GarlicAnywhere · 29/07/2026 15:08

I paid for the worst haircut I've ever had - it was laughably bad - and left without complaining, largely because I was full of actual rage and didn't trust myself to speak!

Sometimes you can't actually believe what's being done to you and go into a sort of stunned fugue before the full fury floods in. Complain.

principalskinna · 29/07/2026 15:09

anyway this is what you should've done. Maybe less tit

To be annoyed and offended at what this hairdresser did, and what she said about my hair? And should I complain to the owner, or just not go back?
0Thatsplenty0 · 29/07/2026 15:10

principalskinna · 29/07/2026 15:00

Why didn't you put a picture of yourself up? This is weird.

It's weird that you want to see photos of the OP. Of course she's not going to put her photo up, behave.

Duckiewasthefirstniceguy · 29/07/2026 15:11

principalskinna · 29/07/2026 15:08

Lots of people do it, but just scrub out their face
You've done some kind of weird fantasy pixie girl thing

I have never seen anyone do that. You’re being weird.

principalskinna · 29/07/2026 15:11

This is my hair

To be annoyed and offended at what this hairdresser did, and what she said about my hair? And should I complain to the owner, or just not go back?
Amandatelly · 29/07/2026 15:12

principalskinna · 29/07/2026 15:11

This is my hair

The blonde is really lovely. Compliments your horn.

Boomer55 · 29/07/2026 15:13

You let her straighten your hair without objecting. It’ll be hard to complain when you’ve sat there watching her doing it. 🤷‍♀️

florafoxtrot · 29/07/2026 15:16

I think with a dry cut for curly hair but they do either straighten or wet it in order to ensure they make a decent job - but they should check your preference.

However, it sounds like she was just quite rude generally and didn't ask what you wanted for your haircut. I'd complain about that - rather than the straightening.

ILoveAGingerCat · 29/07/2026 15:17

Amandatelly · 29/07/2026 15:12

The blonde is really lovely. Compliments your horn.

😂

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Morepositivemum · 29/07/2026 15:19

Is this a normal thing, straightening before cutting? And do you normally get a dry cut? All seems crazy! I definitely think you’re not being unreasonable!!

MajorProcrastination · 29/07/2026 15:20

Yes, you should complain. This is not how to cut curly hair.

She straightened it to make HER job easier.

Also, my fear if you wear it in its natural curly/wavy texture is that the fringe would be too short.

I say all this as someone whose hair naturally looks like the straightened version. Even I know that's not how a curly cut is handled.

Also, how fucking rude to say she thinks it looks better straight. I do all I can to give my hair volume and texture and movement so it does my nut in when hairdressers try to straighten it within an inch of its life, mine's already bloody straight!

I'd complain to the manager for sure. The stylist needs training. Not only did you not like what she did to your hair, she was rude.

Morepositivemum · 29/07/2026 15:22

GarlicAnywhere
I paid for the worst haircut I've ever had - it was laughably bad - and left without complaining, largely because I was full of actual rage and didn't trust myself to speak!
Sometimes you can't actually believe what's being done to you and go into a sort of stunned fugue before the full fury floods in. Complain.

Absolutely - you walk out in absolute shock!!!

EmeraldShamrock000 · 29/07/2026 15:22

So you went in for a dry cut and she styled it by straightening it. Surely after two sections you’d say stop. Did you actually tell her stop instead of just mentioning a burning smell which happens anyway so she probably wasn’t overly concerned that you didn’t want it straightened.

ILoveAGingerCat · 29/07/2026 15:22

MajorProcrastination · 29/07/2026 15:20

Yes, you should complain. This is not how to cut curly hair.

She straightened it to make HER job easier.

Also, my fear if you wear it in its natural curly/wavy texture is that the fringe would be too short.

I say all this as someone whose hair naturally looks like the straightened version. Even I know that's not how a curly cut is handled.

Also, how fucking rude to say she thinks it looks better straight. I do all I can to give my hair volume and texture and movement so it does my nut in when hairdressers try to straighten it within an inch of its life, mine's already bloody straight!

I'd complain to the manager for sure. The stylist needs training. Not only did you not like what she did to your hair, she was rude.

Thank you. Flowers

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