does mn hq have a way of finding out who people are when they name change?

I think they probably could find out esp if it was esp vile and tehy needed to deal with it Haven't seen teh thread so can't comment but this place is weird atm

I haven't even read the bloody thread, just came on to say ooooh yes like Churchill when the question was 'do MNHQ know who namechangers are?'

I guess the difference is that daftpunk wanted to be associated with those views.

It sounds like the person in question here didn't agree with the OP at all, so wouldn't want her (I assume her, we don't have many men) name linked with those opinions in people's minds.

I'd like to think that if I posted on a forum and was absolutely wrong about something that someone would stick up for me and say 'Trillian, you are wrong, very very wrong, but everyone stop calling her a cunt please, that's unnecessary'

I reported it, asked questions and all I got was We have deleted this.

Well I just hope that MNHQ has had some time to clarify what was going on and will be able to reassure posters that they do not tolerate disablist sentiment on the boards. Given that daftpunk posted similar things and was never banned, I really can't see why it would be justified to put anybody's head on a spike for asking people to stop calling their friend a cunt. MNHQ will be able to find out if they were the same person or not, presumably.

oh i didn't know the friend haed been on

The SN in a restaurant one has been deleted.

I thought, 2shoes, that they said that the OP had many good things about them but that on this they wholeheartedly disagreed. But the op was not, to them, a 100% horrible evil person with not one redeaming feature.

I understand that deleting is probably more about knowing that MNHQ feel that anti-disabled threads and comments are just as unacceptable as sexist or racist threads and comments but I for one don't think things like this - or racism, or sexism etc should be deleted. Because to me it does nothing. If the thread is deleted will we all forget it? Will none of us remember what was said? Will we think that nobody holds such views?

When I was a kid me and my friends used to 'take back' - if we'd had a fight or said something horrible, we'd "take it back" and we'd all pretend that it hadn't been said.

But it had.

And pretending it hadn't was pointless.

You know?

Some people are horrible, say horrible things, have opinions that hurt us. They do and we can't hide from that. We can try to become harder, that's all we can do. If we're feeling strong enough, or feel like it we can give our opinion and try to educate them, or if not them, then other people who might be reading.

I do think however that MNHQ should see all forms of discrimination and bigotry the same way. So if it is policy to delete racism, sexism etc (which as I said I personally disagree with) then they should delete anti-disabled remarks as well.

Well I can't show you the posts now, but they said very clearly that they completely disagreed with the OP on the issue, but that they were nonetheless a friend who they did not want to see called a cunt by mumsnetters repeatedly. As the guy had Aspergers and little empathy, despite being nice in many ways. So calling for the anonymous MNer's head on a plate seems a bit of an over-reaction to me.

This seems to be turning into a bit of a witch-hunt really. From the posts I read (and it's been deleted now), the namechanger clearly said that they disagreed with the OP and did not encourage him to post. Why they should be outed if people are determined to tar them with the same brush as the OP is beyond me really- I understand why they wanted to namechange tbh.

yes, for a start when you go to threads I'm On it's yours in all the names you have

Of course they can. They can tell all sorts of things. I could have so much fun with their databases....

why is the thread still going? surely everythiung that needs to have been said will have been said in the 1st few replies?

On their FAQ page they say -

"Please note that while we allow nickname changes for anonymity, we don't allow changes for malicious purposes."

I have contacted MNHQ, 2shoes, and asked them some questions as I am sick of them leaving things like this and never taking to task posters, or telling us who they really are when they are cowardly enough to hide behind a name change.

2shoes - I can only assume it is the thread about the person making moo noises in a restaurant and think that poster is just out for a fight and to cause trouble, as surely no one can really think posting that is okay. I have no doubt that MNHQ will not tell us who it is nor do a lot about it. They seem scared to do what needs to be done at times.

Hate that some idiot has done this and made you (and I expect others) feel this way.