I wondered if we might talk about ditching AIBU, please

I think the topics list should be alphabetical - but we've asked for this before

Yep. Ditch it.

It's not the replies that upset me. It's the fact that the OPs don't need to be there - they are only there because no-one takes any notice if you post the in specific topics and chat disappears to quick.

And reading down the thread titles prompts me to scream 'YES YOU FUCKING ARE' and headbutt the table. Even my own.

i just remembered there had been additions to the segregation and went to adjust which threads i hide....WTF is mumsNOT?

it seems to me that if a person has so many "problems" with something, then I would wonder why they were here

is that so hard to understand ?

and I don't have a problem with you personally TIY...I find that bizarre if we are talking about bizarre things

i enjoy AIBU, but not for spleen venting but as a board of legitimate discussion, i don't think the nature of the board excuses any individual poster being nasty.

I quite like a good firm debate. Can't abide boards that are all about support, where even if the OP is being a total ijit, any suggestion they may be being unwise has to be veiled in the guise of sympathetic advice. Though of course, for a persn feeling a bit weak, AIBU relly isn't the place.

Move it over to AIBU, ladies

yes, I do have opinions on quite a lot of things actually. is that a problem?

I think mnhq do a grand job of running the site actually. that doesn't mean I am not allowed to think that the AIBU topic casts them in a bad light does it?

or do i have to pretend to LOVE everything about it in order to post here???

sorry, i am really at a loss as to why you are particularly singling me out here on a thread full of people with opinions on it...
if you have a problem with me specifically, unrelated to this thread, then please... tell me

there are FAR too many topics now

I like AIBU. I don't like S&B, so I hide it. Seems a simple solution.

you listed quite a few opinions there, actully, tiy

perhaps you think you could do a better job ?

why? because I have an opinion on it?? same goes for most people on this thread surely?

what a bizarre statement

thisisyesterday...perhaps you should oust Justine and her colleagues and take over the administration of MN yourself ?

in fact, i think we ought to get rid of a LOT of topics. Has anyone at mnhq actually pretended to be a first time user and tried to figure out where to post something???

it's impossible. there are waaaaayyy too many now.

i agree with Fliight, and wannabe, and others who have the same sentiments.

someone has already posted on this thread saying they use it after having a bad day so they can legitimately v ent their spleen- is that what it is about??? going there to pick on people because you've had a bad day yourself???? nice

there were always TONS of aibu threads, I remember when people used to always put AIBU number 498693048690386 and stuff, because we acknowledged there were lots

but those threads didn't invite the abuse and downright nastiness that the AIBU topic does. People DO take it as some kind of invitation tojust get stuck in. the disclaimer rightly points out that you ought to expect some people to disagree with you, which is fair enough. That doesn't mean that people need to be rude, spiteful, nasty and forget all about the manners which IMO apply just as much online as they do in real life

it's all well and good saying "hide it"- but that isn't the point is it? the point is that it has become a fairly nasty part of mumsnet, and as it gets a lot of traffic many NEW members are going to stumble across it first, and I think a lot would be put off.
If I were running mumsnet it wouldn't be the image I wanted to portray of my site.

we're honest straight talking
not bitches

wannaBe...I don't actually give a shit about MN's "reputation"

not my problem

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I would mind AIBU less if people did not say FFS. I don't know why, but I find FFS unnecessarily abrasive.

However, the straight talking on AIBU is very refreshing. People just don't get away with casual smuggery, racism, or judgeyness.

the problem with ibu is that it is basically seen as a free for all for people to say whatever they want to an op and the op seemingly loses the right to be upset about that because "if you didn't want a kicking then don't post in ibu."

And considering this is the first topic that comes up if you google mn this is the first impression people get of mn.

And given justine was on bbc only the other day waxing lyrical about how ibu is mn's favourite topic, it's clear that mn hq are proud of the reputation mn has of being a site full of bitches.

People are deluded if they think that mn has a good reputation elsewhere - it doesn't.

WWYD doesn't have to be closed at all, as the one I started tonight may show.

WWYD doesn't work.....it's I think this, this is what I plan to do, what do you think? Very closed.

Whereas AIBU is more gladiatorial - and sometimes lavatorial - and that's why I like it.

YABVVU

YABU.