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Right MNHQ, I'm looking at you.

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ShowOfHands · 02/02/2010 13:55

You know what I want. Enough with the delayed gratification.

I will not be moved. I have a banner.

Do it.

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Nymphadora · 07/02/2010 19:05

Have MNHQ abandoned us to be weird debate?

BelleDameSansMerci · 07/02/2010 18:37

I am, it seems, the only person who thinks DP telling people to "sodomize off" when talking about anal sex is funny.

dawntigga · 07/02/2010 18:27

daftpunk there are 5 things in the world that are perverted:

Sex with animals
Sex with children
Sex with dead people/animals
Rape
Incest

Everything else, as long as it's between consenting, informed adults is just kinky. So as long at the above topics aren't discussed, what's the problem?

Not talking about rape fantasies, accidental incest or abuse being out of the arena for discussion btw. These are topics that some people may need to discuss.

There'sAWholeHeapOfStuffIWouldn'tDoTiggaxx

daftpunk · 07/02/2010 11:34

Showofhands;

Sorry I didn't have time to reply to you fully on Friday....

Bella32 · 07/02/2010 10:47

Surely a MN poll is the way to go?

Surely?

Although, tbh, I don't see how anyone can object to grouping existing threads into their own category which can then be hidden.

largeginandtonic · 07/02/2010 09:46

I am for it. Makes perfect sense.

Hope MNHQ see reason.

SOH you must be bloody exhausted with all this.

Nymphadora · 07/02/2010 09:23

Back to the point for a minute

is it possible to make a topic only viewable to members? And with 24 hour delay for new members then people won't 'stumble across' sex threads and if they have to wait to see & post they should be sober by the time they are allowed. It won't stop all trollsbut surely it would limit them?

Now back to David Teninchnant .......

Bella32 · 05/02/2010 19:13

LOL - I've just posted my Eddie Stobart link by mistake in answer to a serious query on Pets - thank feck it wasn't Mr Tumble & the Range Rover!

dawntigga · 05/02/2010 19:06

SDTG I have, frankly, excellent taste

HasFanciedMrTennantSinceCasanunderCasanoverYumTiggaxx

Bella32 · 05/02/2010 19:02

hairy trucker magnate

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 05/02/2010 18:56

That picture is rather yummy, dawntigga - I am weak at the knees!

dawntigga · 05/02/2010 18:49

Erm, I prefer David Tennant like this. All cheeky smile and come to bed eyes. I'd rather he kept his clothes on

Vanilla, loving that.

ShuddersAtSomeOfTheThingsShe'sSeenAroundTheSceneTiggaxx

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ShowOfHands · 05/02/2010 18:09

Oh it's like celebrity death match but with people I'm interested in.

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ShowOfHands · 05/02/2010 18:07

And if you're still reading Justine, I'd be interested in how many the 'lots' are that don't want this and their reasons. Because 3 people have been against it on here and many, many for. The thread I started ages ago nobody was against the idea and lots were for it. A couple of posters on this thread have also said they were anti but then read the thread and changed their minds.

If their reasons are the same as the other dissenters then I think there are good arguments against that and also good reasons why the topic might actually improve the site. I know a lot of people are worried about encouraging trolls but I think trolls come here because we we're larely unmoderated, swearing, graphic content etc is not regulated. Netmums, to use as an example again, has heavy moderation, a swearing ban and a greater set of rules, all this with a sex topic and they don't have the troll problem we do.

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StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 05/02/2010 17:59

Lololol!!

Radished · 05/02/2010 17:56

So, Daftpunk had unwritable sexual habits which would cause the server to erupt and webfilters to dissolve and mumsnetters to lose consciousness, but then solidgoldbrass has had some pretty saucy experiences adn even writes rude books and reviews - so, who is the least vanilla?

There's only one way to find out...

FFFFFIIIIIIGGGGGGHHHHHTTTTTT!!!!!

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ShowOfHands · 05/02/2010 17:50

I shudder to think what she's up to in her spare time. We limit marital conjugations to lights out, lie back and think of David Cameron type affairs. Well dh at least. I'm permitted to think about laundry and running the hoover over the ground floor.

Bella, there would be no difference. People like daftpunk could hide the vanilla practices of the MN majority and sex would be treated as a legitimate topic that we're capable of having on a parenting site without sprouting hairy knuckles and smearing ourselves in lard as we log on to trick people into sharing stories about dildos.

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StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 05/02/2010 17:37

Yep, Radished - daftpunk is looking down on the rest of us and our nambypamby, wishy-washy attempts at sex and sex talk.

Radished · 05/02/2010 17:27

What do you mean daftpunk - about every post of yours would be deleted if you were to talk about sex? Are you saying that your sexual practices are much more extreme and shocking and unreadable than anyone elses and no one could handle it?

I am intrigued by this.

Bella32 · 05/02/2010 17:24

serious question

What difference would there be, other than sex threads being assigned their own topic?

Forgive me if I'm missing the obvious, but the threads are there now - all we're suggesting is they get grouped into their own subject area.

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ShowOfHands · 05/02/2010 16:59

You make the mistake of assuming that everybody who wants to talk about sex is after titillation and descriptions of favourite practices. What about people who are genuinely worried or concerned, who have nobody to ask in real life. Sex isn't filthy or dirty or depraved and why shouldn't adult women be able to ask questions without fear of judgement from you?

Not everybody who has questions about sex is secretly asking the best place to buy a gimp mask and lube (gimpmasksandlube.com?)

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StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 05/02/2010 16:58

That's a bit of a wild generalisation, daftpunk - I seriously doubt that all of mumsnet can be as vanilla as you think they are. I talk about sex here (and elsewhere) and am not afraid to have a proper drink when I want one - so I, for one, confound your theory.

To me, your attitude smacks a bit of condescension - that the people here who talk about sex are lightweights who daren't have a proper discussion about it, and also of the attitude that mums are supposed to be virtuous madonnas, with never an unclean thought - and I don't agree with either of these.

daftpunk · 05/02/2010 16:50

Oh I dunno...I think the people who talk about sex on here are like people who drink non alcoholic wine...

If you want a drink....have a bloody proper drink...

If you want to talk about sex......talk about it... because if I talked about sex on here...every post would be deleted.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 05/02/2010 16:32

Why is it sad to talk about sex on mumsnet? Surely sex is fundamental to parenthood, and therefore to mumsnet?

I think that discussing sex on mumsnet shows that people feel safe to open up about things they might not be able to discuss in real life - and it is important that people have that, because not everyone is going to go off to an 'adult' site, if they need or want information, advice or reassurance on something.

For the record, I do belong to a couple of adult sites, have met quite a lot of people from them, and consider some to be my closest friends. Does that make me a wierdo who should be banished from mumsnet forthwith? I am a mother as well, and believe I have both things to offer and things to gain from mumsnet, but if I am not welcome here......

daftpunk · 05/02/2010 15:51

Ummmm...I remember that thread...I went on it agreeing with the op...I thought she was real...turned out it was a wind-up...(hilarious)

I don't know what the answer is.. I just don't think MN is the right place to talk about certain sexual practices....if you introduce a sex topic...it will just encourage more weirdos....

Talking about sex on MN is really really sad, the people who talk about it on here wouldn't last 5 minutes a proper adult site....