We need your ideas on what's good for Mother's Day please

My perfect mothers day is
The dc's bringing me croissants and tea in bed then they join me up there filling my bed with crumbs sharing my breakfast
Daffodils picked from the garden (one each)
Home (or school) made cards

And last year i was taken to a local nice hotel for a 4 course meal which was fantastic but not too expensive

I do think a spa day would be an amazing gift as a mothers day present but i dont think its anywhere near as good as homemade, thoughtful gifts

When I said "day off", I didn't mean away from family. Just no cooking for fusspots, cleaning up after dc (and dh), arguing, having to coerce dd into doing her homework, stepping on lego, ironing clothes for next day, etc.

Perfect mother's day imo:

Sleep in as late as I like, have tea and croissants brought to me with fresh linen napkin(!) and smiles, kisses & hugs, some flowers would also be much appreciated along with the Sunday papers - unopened. A bubble bath and long, peaceful soak. Lunch cooked by dh, aided by dc and including a couple of glasses of very decent wine. A family walk, long one, then back for tea and cake. Good book in front of roaring fire while dc draw me lovely pictures. Bed.

Fluffy - it's not only single mothers who wouldn't get anything if it wasn't made at school

Best thing - the bizarre things DS comes up with to write in his card when told to write "Mummy Thank you for....." - and a home-cooked meal that I don't have to clear up after.

For my mother - as a teenager I would go and pick daffodils and 'force' them in secret so that they were out in time. Tellingly, the daffodils in the garden are normally out by themselves nowadays, but she still likes a nice jug/vase crammed with daffodils.

No expensive gifts.
Handmade cards.
Lie in until 10.00.
Roast dinner cooked by DH.
Have some Cava left over from Christmas will save a bottle and put some Chambord Liqueur in for a a nice coctail.
Read my book in the afternoon.
Watch a good movie in the evening.

Well yes not to bring the thread down again

But I have never had a 'mothers day'. Now a single mother so don't really care.

Surely you should get all the fuss and love every day?

We avoid rip-off restaurant meals and have started a tradition where the men cook. DH, Dad and BIL decide who will do starter, main course and pudding and (in theory) the mums relax and do nothing! We always seem to end up with the washing up though!

I would like a day with the family, doing something we all enjoy Umm maybe a day out at a wildlife park then a nice meal, doesnt have to be anything fancy (home cooked or eat out).

I would equally settle for a day at home with my teenagers not looking at their mobiles constantly!

Sleep. Sleep. SLEEEEEEEEEEEPPP.

And a nice lunch wouldn't hurt.

DH (with a bit of prompting) has so far remembered both years to get me a card "from" DS. Present has been chocolates, I think (nothing memorable, obviously!)

If I were still in England, I would like to go to Hampton Court Palace and see the daffodils (free!) and then have afternoon tea somewhere nearby, either in the Palace garden tearoom or one of the cafés outside the palace. There are some lovely shops around there too (more on the other side of the bridge) so a little light shopping for a nice memento of the day would be good!

As I will be in Australia though, and Mother's Day is some other time of year, I have no idea what to do. Just a day of DH thinking about how to help out and take the load off without needing to be asked/told would be good!

Butterflies sounds wonderful, cheegirl

Dh usually takes the dcs to choose things (he chooses shops where they are unlikely to choose tat...) - hearing them articulate why they think you'll like it is special - & sometimes they're even right.

DH bought a locket, with little photo of ds for my first mothers day (ds was about a month old) & I treasure that very much.

my best mothers day

the kids were about 8 or 9. they made me cards, i remember specifically that ds2 made me a card with a helicopter on.

they picked some flowers

they made me breakfast in bed ( dh helped)

doesn't cost much

means the world

pmsl @ mahumbug

Best pressie recieved as a card signed by dd (aged 1 just) and a bottle of the perfume i wore on my wedding day as it was stolen misplaced at the reception.

My ideal day would be having a bit of a lie in, tea and toast in bed with the papers, a lovely bath and a nice day with dd and dh, maybe a drive or walk somewhere. tbh not that bothered about going out to eat would be happy with a picnic.

I was quite upset when this wasn't remembered at ds's school a couple of years ago, a little peeved when it happened again last year. Some single parents don't get appreciated if a card is not made by their child at school.

As you would like a recommendation however:

I'd like to go out somewhere with ds, maybe to London for the weekend, stay in a really nice hotel (with some goodies waiting for me in the room , watch a show on Saturday night, wake up to a continental breakfast, then a stroll around the park , a visit to the welcome museum so I can see the gore, play with the keyhole surgery stuff and the medical toys they have there (yes, I am a nerd) followed by a nice lunch. Time to just explore until we catch the train home.

i will be happy with coffee, breakfast with my family (not in bed, creates crumbs!) and the day with my family, walk on the beach or something, a day to relax and do not very much, with my family not doing very much. I do not want DH and DD to spend all day in the kitchen to make me something special, with me on my own. I would prefer sarnies and their company. Being a mum is about being a family. I am not interested in grand gestures of greatness just on that day, i do not want big presents, lots of money we do not have spent on things i do not want. I do not want pressure for it to be just right or else it will be ruined.

I can have that special something to say I am a good mother on any day, and tbh it will be more special if its just because, not because my family have been told that is The Day.

I have revenge suggestions for the forgetting of Mothers Day....

Last year DH went away on a stag weekend, no card, no present.

I changed all of his bookmark links on the computer to threads on mumsnet about forgetting mothers day.

A few days later he gave me a voucher for the local beauty salon.

a day off!

A bunch of daffodils NOT forecourt flowers

handmade card

no cooking for the day

Ticket to see Oliver! in the West End followed by/preceded by a nice meal.

Taxi there and back too.

Have I won and is my prize what I asked for?

Time alone in a hot bath, with a cup of tea.

A card that says Mummy, and not Mum.

Freesias, not chrysanths.

A DH who remembers the above, instead of having to be told. Again. Big children who remember as well, or get a nudge from their father.

(Don't want much, do I?)

Butterflies. What better?

So if no London trip should turn up, I'll just grab my dd's and have a big squeeze and a huge smell of their hair. Perfect.

Please, please dont feel like that isthatthetime. I really dont expect anybody to. You have every right to enjoy your Dcs and wish for what you want on mother's day.

Thank you tree. She often sends me butterflies (now I sound all woo woo but its true )

X-post with chegirls and now feeling super-shallow and very fortunate, to be honest it had never even occurred to me. I'm so sorry

Oh darling. Listen to the weather - maybe she sends that to you. Breezes, or warm sun, or clouds zipping by in the wind.

Cup of tea in bed, card from kids (would involve DH having to plan a bit and supervise the making of, fairly unlikely TBH), and to not have to plan ANYTHING (what to do, where to go, what to eat, what to take, when those that need sleep will sleep etc etc) for ANYONE all day.
Pref followed by a shiney new Wallander before an early, uninterrupted night!