MT I WILL look at those links later (have a 2 minute MN window whilst ds3 who is skiving was sent home from school is using his potty LOl; but can I without being antagonistic haul you up on this:
'They need your help in getting the positive message about disablity over to the mainstream. People without imparments or family members with imparements just have other things to do with their time'
COz sometimes the very people who are expected t do this work just can't- we've got too much on! There's a reason we get carers allowance etc and that because compared to the other famillies we usually even more to do with our time; plus the general constant sleep deprivation and wory that being an SN arents carries with it. SOmetimes we can't be the educators or the rational ones. Sometimes all w care about is sleep (specifically today fopr me- hourly all night, had all 4 in my bed in the end). We can go about teaching and sharing and that's fab but sometimes we can't.. Sometimes we're regular aprents with too much on our plates IYSWIM?
Actually that has been a side effect of some of these thteads: I found today I needed a rant in SN about generally being exhausted etc and I can't, because I worry that people will see it and not read it in context but as evidence that having a child with SN ruins your life (threads relating to an article claiming that were on a few weeks ago) or my life would have been better if screening had allowed me to abort (even though I never would have). I worry there's a Mum making that decision today about whether t terminate and who will never have met a person with the condition her child has, only read my message about how shattered I am....
I guess that in a nutshell is where it comes to for me. I did say it on the original thread but it got buried:
I am pro screening but only if people are enabled to meet people with sn (not just in school integration because that often is counter productive when it fails, but in social sits, hobbies, inter school events that I never see here certainly) from ayoung age so that people can learn the positives, and also HP's reduce rpessure on aprents to take action if screening comes back positive- the pressure I was put ounder when ds3's bloods came back high risk DS was very intense. that's wrong IMO; parents should be left to choose for themselves and offered genuinely impartial advice if they ask.
From my own experience there was a child in my calss with severe CP and taht totally normalised SN for me. But of course he ahd adequate support to maximise his own chances too: if he;d been left alcking a 1-1 it would have had the reverse effect perhaps? Which is an efect of alck of support really whci seems to be growing now (only seen an overview of SS review out today but that said less poelpe qualified for support- I know we don't so lots of left-t-cope people out there)
Anyway back to the waffling again and ds3 is back for his adored PC!
I'm not of the get rid of threads camp tbh: wouldn't have done my whole uni time if I hadn't have beleived education changes things (albeit that racism / inter religious tolerance) but I think MN has a too black and white attitude. I don't think the phrase super race should have been allowed to sdtand without MN requesting (and publishing) confirmation that the OP knew the history of the phrase. If she didnt they should perhaps have asked her to modify that. the title 'AIBU is thinnking that screening would give people more chance to reduce the suffering of the diabled' would ahve spraked debate: super race is a phrase inextricably linked to eugenics and the whole Nazi usage. That may be a shame but that's reality. You can't really expect people to read it without thinking back to a time and country where disability was a reason to kill a person (isn't there a memorial service this week in bristol for the other- than- Jewish groups targeted by the Nazi regime btw?)
There is a palce for debate but that has to be used with balance and consideration rememberingt hat we are not nameless PC's but real people on the end of these computers.
Which makes me think of another thing: if we believe that racism and disablism are equally damaging (and I do) we should at least consider that a thread about removing black people using the phrase super race would be possibly illegal under the Racial and Religious Hatred Bill (2005); until disabled people have similar protection we will always be on alert and feel that ourselves or our loved ones are a less- cared for group at risk in society. Debate is good but only in a protected environment with rules: there do not seem to have been any rules or restrictions in place here. Too worried about whther someone is a Rev even though nobody is harmed perhaps? It can feel like this.
Anyway a prediction: the SN crowd will be alienated and then a hge amount of shred info lost. And it would be wrong to ask poeple to keep posting for educations sake if it diorectly ahrms their own feelings and even upsets them.
That's just a guess mind, nothing more.