Dear MNHQ, I didn't see all the problems kick off over poor Revjustabout...

Ach, Zophable. Zat is nussing more zan my own vish-vulvillment, my dear.

funnily enough, foxy, the only person on here whose job we know for definite IS the rev, cos MNHQ have seen her credentials.

and she's the one being told to change her name...

Justa (Rev) - I am so sorry that you had to go through that hideous thread. You have commented on some of my threads before I have found you to be caring, sincere and kind.

I am very upset that there are people like this on MN when there are also lots of very sad and worried people who truly need help who may be put off posting because of some idiots.

Please keep going, I will make sure I look out for you in the future.

As for the name change:
"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet."

My work is hush hush

I dont know if others feel like this but i think it is a wee bit like an all girls school and the teacher telling someone to change their skirt style becasue the big bullish popular girl has teased her over it...

kind of ' 'I know its awful of Susan but you know what she is like - lets keep the peace'

x-post with Jute.

pmsl littlebella.

are you flying squad?

onebat are you a psychoanalyst?

i'm getting excited now.

what a weird thing

if someone hasn't pointed out already, can I point out that the cod on this thead isn't cod (although probably obvious to those who realise codthemag can spell ;-)).

how very odd this all is

Thing is, no-one really knows who anyone is on here. I am, of course, a fox but I think you already knew that.

For example.

If I were a qualified psychoanalytic psychotherapist I would have monthly sessions with a supervisory psychotherapist to talk through issues which might affect me, arising from the things that I would hear in the course of my practise.

Were I to be posting online, as an individual with acknowledged professional expertise,both I and my professional body would definitely want a disinterested observer to oversee my online life in a general way. They would not, obviously, be standing over my shoulder as I posted - but they would expect to be informed of anything which went beyond the most anodyne advice.

And in any freaking case, I've never seen the Rev give out advice or speak from a posit of authority.

I had no idea rev was a rev until Enid and PPH came on and started telling her she wasn't.

swedes thing is everyone knows rev is a rev. she leads the reluctant worshippers threads and makes no attempt to hide what she does for a living. so how does it protect her?

I am a humanist, and I understand that a rev on here would be posting in a personal capacity.

There are semi official MN people, they have MNHQ after their name.

Morning paper does a round up

Carm does receipts

if there was any doubt that justabout was a MN OFFICIAL surely the fact we didn't have prayer of the day in the weekly round up would have cleared that up.

jeeze

oops

The more I think about it the more annoyed I am with MNHQ on this matter. Requesting Rev to change her name does seem to imply (without cause) that she brought the bullying on herself.

There are other poster names with job titles in them (scienceteacher a good example). Rev's posts have been interesting and suppportive and have not overstepped the position of one MNer giving advice to another, equal, MNer. Others have given 'expert' advice much more vociferously.

She was bullied on more than one thread by posters who disliked her lack of regard for moldies and who (presumably) disliked the high-profile and popularity she has, which used to be the preserve of now-superannuated MNers.

Hardly anyone (if indeed anyone at all other than the aggressive trollhunter posters) has objected to her name, and yet MNHQ's response is to ask her to change it. I really hope MNHQ will rethink this.

Is it possible that MNHQ are advising Justabout to drop the rev from her name because they are trying to help her protect her real life identity in future? I feel certain that Justabout would only agree if she truly agreed.

jute are you a moldie?

i'm asking because it would be one thing if rev had come to your notice because of some interest in religious postings on mn...that would be in some way relevant.

how she came to yours isn't really relevant to this is it? in that her 'claim to expertise through choice of name' only really applies to her posts on religious subjects doesn't it?

onebat- yes I know how counselling works (and supervision), I know nothing about the clergy other than being at the receiving end of some rather full on recruitment attempts. I assumed it was a novel way to meet the masses. I'm afraid I am rather cynical when it comes to the christian church in particular.

Had I realised that it was a counselling type supervision then of course I wouldn't have made the mistake.

"winky! MrEniddo accused her of making up the fact that she had relatives in the Holocaust. For which she later apologised.

That's pretty much a personal attack doncha think?"

Of course it is a personal attack. I didn't see this though.

I missed all of this and have now spent way too much time linking threads and reading up on it. Too bad about all of the nasty comments

And now I have a question. Is the moldies site actually a private part of the MN site? I thought it was just a group who privately set up a forum on their own. Seems a bit odd if it's really an invitation only part of MN

er no -very big leap there sophable. Nothing bothered me. I just noticed what she said about her supervision because I thought it was strange. I did think she meant that she was on MN with supervision (to put this in some context someone has repeatedly tried to recruit me to their church over the last 2 years).

I found out today that I misunderstood the nature of her supervision.

exactly, ruty. this is all bollocks tbh, the posters concerned were WRONG, they should apologise. and the rev shouldn't change her name unless she wants to.

Jute:What made me think? The things she said about the Sindie- about how she was worried because her supervisor knew her MN name and how she talked to him about her mn posts. I don't remember the exact words, but I thought it was odd.

Have you any idea about how the modern church/psychotherapy/counselling profession works?

This is very common and is intended to protect the individual concerned as much as those to whom she speaks.

winky! MrEniddo accused her of making up the fact that she had relatives in the Holocaust. For which she later apologised.

That's pretty much a personal attack doncha think?

she is lying low