If you (still) feel the need to discuss Moldies [part 2]

I said early on I didn't want to know who was in Mouldies (Peachy btw), I meant it for exactly thsoe reasons I think- I didnt want to meet somene on a thread and think 'ooh I remember that horrid comment you amde'.

but it's nt the members that bug me, just those who amde thoughtless / nasty / bizarre comments afterwards. I quite understand how someone could enter into it all without thinking; coming on and posting 'because certain people dont give enough / were voted out' etc etc is different imo.

But they were few and far between, can only think of 1 I'd avoid whom I had misgivings about anyhow, and maybe a couple i'd think things through about first. Not a lot in real terms.

And also it feels a bit like when a member of my own family pisses me off. Yes it hurts a lot and I do carry it around for a while, I don't forget - but I need them, I really do, and they are my family, and therefore i kind of push it to one side and get on with it.

Well Controlfreaky I read your post and I understand it.

On the other hand, i am one of the people who is feeling it - the 'moving on' thing - and I am not sure why.

I do still think about it occasionally and feel a bit cross, a bit hurt - but have somehow assimilated it into my mind in its own little box. So it doesn't get in the way of normal posting on here...ie I'm trying to forget all the nonsense, all the 'up the arse' posts from people who were frankly rude and arrogant in their defense of their group. (Not all by any means, I hasten to add, but there were a few dodgy posts)

and just carry onr egardless iyswim.

I don't know if it helps that I did have a nice email from a Moldie saying sorry about it all. Maybe that has helped me move on.

But I haven't forgotten it, just acknowledge that I can't do much about it and try and take people at face value when they post on here rather than bring that up in my mind when I see certain names.

Perhaps that's because I never went to any meet ups. i am sure that makes it easier for me and prob says something about the depth at which MN nestles in my consciousness, for real...ie not too deep...

Cripes is this still running?
Apart from one or two names I don't actually know who is/was a moldie, and care little.

I am quite happy for Mumsnet to be completely open, and am always disappointed when people feel they can no longer post on here, for whatever reason.

Over the past 8.5 years there are people who have come and gone on this site, and from time to time I might even shrug and think "Hmm... I wonder what happened to Tigger?" But such reminiscences rarely occupy me for long.

In the same way that if I suddenly disappeared one day, most people on here wouldn't notice, a few might wonder where I was, and even 'miss me' for a week or two. And that's fine with me - it's even one of the things I like about the site being so big now.

that is quite sad, but understandable....custardo

I missed all this Moldies nonesense but i can guarantee that they are not all evil b*stards.I know someone who was invited to join but she is such an insecure person she was just so thrilled to be wanted that she did not think of any implications.She is now so devastated by the thought of what you lot might think of her that she has de-registered from mumsnet, which is a shame for her and a huge loss to mumsnet.

Hmm, interesting point from controlfreaky. I'm inclined to agree, though there are people that I really liked and like a lover who screws you over, just because they do something you don't like doesn't mean you just stop liking them. God, I'm always so melodramatic on these threads!

controlfreaky, i wonder if you can put your post here so people can comment, i don't want to do it, cos it might be seen int he wrong light.

so inanser to what you said, i think its perfectly understandable and its definatley something i am wrestling with

i haven't got a list of people, but i have caught myself vetting who i am answering