If you (still) feel the need to discuss Moldies [part 2]

No, hunker. That would have been suicide, though, wouldn't it?

And actually, there have been a few (though far fewer than did on Moldies) who have shrugged noncommitally. And there have been plenty who have waved the red herring.

I think it's been one of those things that, once you see it written down and 'out there', you realize sounds pretty crap and reflects badly on all concerned.

A bit like the Sindie..

K, well, I didn't invent the process. I got asked and it sounded good so I joined. I also post in other places with similar processes. I don't have a problem with that because it's not my board and if and when I don't like the rules someone else has on their board then I won't go there.

Some people have a problem with it, others don't.

Fair play to them all.

Although that is the magic cure for any pissed-offness, in truth. Oh look, there's Clive from the Golf Club, and his friend Barry with the very white shoes...signs himself Esq... refers to the lady wife... mein host.. engraved tankard.. Jag..

OBM, has there been a Moldie come on and say "We're totally happy with the way the site was working for the fleeting time when OBM was posting and nothing's changed since"?

I don't think there has.

this week I had a problem.
there was only one person who I knew could help me.
sadly she had left mn for pastures new.
I contacted another x mn person and asked her to ask said person to email me.
first person did and helped me solve the problem.
so just cos for what ever reason some people have decided mn is not for them and gone elsewhere, that doesn't seem to have turned them in to uncaring people(thanks to LL and twiglet)

Actually, DaddyJ, that happened in RL to me - local pub, bit down-at-heel and largely frequented by the same bunch of regulars (except at weekends), got taken over by big chain, refurbished, totally changed the atmosphere (changed the name of the pub fgs!), the regulars mostly left (a fair few spent more time at home or each others houses), but still popped back for a drink from time to time as they still lived locally.

I realise some will think this made up for the purposes of this topic, but that's up to them!

I don't think it's the posting in two places that's the problem, though, is it? That's a bit of a red herring that keeps coming up.

I don't think that there is a single person who would have a problem with a breakaway MN knitters site, for example.

It's the processes that were gone through in making the other place (and therefore the nature of the relationship between there and here) that is the problem, for most people, I think.

As nighbynight says, it's the golf club bit that's difficult.

Oh i wouldn't like to join a club. You might have to wear a tie.

I hear ya, hunker.

I post on Moldies. I didn't veto people. I did nominate. But unfortunately at the time all that was on I was offline altogether because I'd just had a baby and my folks were here.

I don't post things on there I wouldn't or haven't posted on here. I've never been one to hide my feelings and that's pretty obvious.

If that makes me persona non grata to some, well, c'est la vie.

I'm still who I am there as much as here or any of the OTHER sites or blogs, some of them invite or subscription-only and some of which have areas not every member can post on. Last I checked, that's all allowed in the cyber world.

Meh.

It's new years. There will be a lot of moving on for us as for a lot of people, not just online, but in a lot of ways.

Pub analogy is a good one.

It started with a small cosy pub, a group of regulars and two landladies.
So far so good. Pub grows and becomes more and more popular.
Landladies try and accommodate the influx but in the process a hardcore
of old regulars feel marginalised.
Eventually a group of disenchanted regulars set up their own private members pub
with only a select few (well, 150) invited from the original place.

Fair enough, things change, people change - everyone should be happy, right?

ho hum.
the other pub isnt a pub though. Its a feckin golf club. And we know what we think about those

But you can meet people and not like them can't you?

Happy New Year, Compo (and all!).

Rev, I was agreeing with you

cos there is a,ot of history btw posters like Custy who have met other posters in real life.... sorry have been at the wine and am slurring abit

Why is it so outrageous that people have not wanted someone to join? Surely if everyone were in then it would just be Mumsnet and therefore be no point.

Maybe (gasp) not everyone on mumsnet likes everyone else!

To continue the pub & beer analogy, imagine someone from the pub invites a few friends around for coffee.

Just because they like a quiet cup of coffee together sometimes, it doesn't mean they've become teetotal.

happy new year Hunker

Hey, Dodge!

Funny, rev, I thought earlier it was very much like changing which local pub you go to most often but still visiting the one that used to be your regular - maybe dropping back for the pub quiz or to talk about improving the garden (should there be a children's play area right next to the smoking area; should we put in a rattan screen with some nice plants growing up it?).

I've got the message from some that I'm not welcome, and especially not welcome to talk about MN improvements, but I'm not a shrinking violet, I haven't been rude to anybody, I have apologised if I've upset anyone and I won't feel bad for posting on another site as well as this one and certainly not whilst MSN, email, Facebook groups and passworded blogs exist - or namechangers on here that change to attack, for that matter.