If you (still) feel the need to discuss Moldies [part 2]

But in that very short space of time, were individuals discussed and their merits debated, Aitch?

mucho debate was had, however, as to how the new members could be decided on. you think this has been navel-gazery, well think on.

younger members, amongst whom i number, had never experienced this dinner party thing, so weren't that fussed about new members, but others really were. lots of privacy issues, genuine ones, lots of people using their real names and their kids names and a bit of putting photos up etc. i got the feeling that everyone already knew each other.

(oh, and i should've said from Day One a global posting at the top of every forum to the effect that 'this is not narniagate, please don't use this place to slag off MN or MNers).

i was late comer and missed the polling system altogether.

I think to add to what aitch is saying- it depened when one arrived on moldies what they saw as part of the process of sorting out new memberships.

It was/possibly is (i've left now) an evolving system...

Don't know what I'm doing here either as I've left Mn too- grrrr, new year's resolution out of the window
new year actually starts on Monday, doesn't it????

If you tell me there were tickers then I'll really know that you're lying ...

Avatars? Creepy.

listening Aitch. Appreciate the honesty.

next thing, people start pratting about with the new forum technology. you will be shocked to hear that it has avatars. which soon started breaking the internet so lapin started helping people with them and so got lumbered with dealing with all techie questions.

anyhoo... one of the things that the utterly crappy forum software offers is polls, so it was mooted that this might be the way to bring new people on board. (it had been decided btw in the meantime to invite justine as they never wanted to be doing it on the sly and also not to use MN or CAT becasue that would be a bit shit).

the polls... yuck. horrible. someone's name and a clicker for yes or no. MP saw this system, onebat didn't. swedes very soon started a thread saying that she didn't like the system and was joined by quite a few others agreeing, including MP who left wishing everyone luck buut saying she felt that MN was worth sticking with for her. coolio.

so that system was scrapped, like, immediately, maybe it lasted two days. there was never ever any debate.

with me so far?

Whoops - just trying to use up the last 200 posts a bit quicker

Come on Aitch - type faster!

Come on Aitch - type faster!

i should fookin' hope so, mrc...

Yes aitch, thanks for taking the trouble to go over this. So far so reasonable.

TBH, Aitch, not everyone is as obssessed with this as it would seem.

Do go on, Aitch!

'k, iorek.

i think i was invited to 'sign up to this, it looks like it might be a laugh' only a matter of a few days after the forum was found again. at that point it was a case of 'invite yer mates, anyone who you think might like it'. as i recall, the site went from about 43 memebers to a hundred and something in a few days.

now, this being a place peopled by MNers and ex-MNers alike (a substantial number of an old guard who i've never heard of, really, as well as names i realised i hadn't seen in months) there soon was a good bit of navel-gazing as to 'what this place is and are we goiing to keep growing this fast?' me? i say yes, but i like a bit of cut and thrust.

but the majority most definitely saw it as having more in common with a yahoo mailing group than MN. after all, they had MN, what would be the point of replicating it?

with me so far? i'm goiing to post this while i write the next tranche.

Sorry, mega X-post!

Oh God. Now I agree with Wilf.

My grandad had a saying "I could be a whore I'm so easy persuaded" which I'm sure is a terrible thing to say, but has sprung to mind now.

Oh well, if it's something that's been stated countless times....

But then why all the promise exhorting

Certainly not Wilf. I don't have any new lovers on mumsnet. As far as I know.

Hmmm - this whole thing is weird. For me personally, I am not bothered at all that I have not been 'invited' because I have never been to a meet up. I speak to about 3 people off list.....

I can understand though, that for people who are friends with others here, and go to meet ups with people they consider friends, it must be very hurtful for them. It's a shame, but this kind of thing happens all the time doesn't it? And people always have private conversations on MSN anyway.

What is evident, though, Sue is that some people have moved away from MN and on to Moldies and are no longer posting here. And it does feel, if you're not one of the "chosen" that they have moved on and left a void and a lot of hurt feelings behind. And yes, some are still posting here and of course there are also thousands of fab non-moldies still here but the secrecy did bother me. I mentioned a few weeks ago how I missed cod's posts and someone hinted to me that she was still around. I assumed she had re-registered under a different name and maybe improved her typing () and I feel a bit of an eejit now to know that she and others considered more worthy than me were in fact all posting elsewhere. And yes, I DO know that I should get a life, really but ii does hurt in an irrational way, particularly as I didn't stalk anyone, or reveal their personal details online but I've ended up being punished along with a lot of others.
And I was shocked to find how some people, who never did anyone any harm at all were vetoed and how apparently some prolific and genuine posters are more equal than other prolific and genuine posters.

Sorry if I've missed your other posts. There have been a lot.

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