If you (still) feel the need to discuss Moldies, please do it here so folks can hide this if they want to.

the rev might get in trouble for something she didn't actually say -t hat was printed in the papers.

i thnk its fair to comment on that

PLease someone explain the argument - i dont get it

is the argument that if the are a 'expert' in something, that you shouldnt post across board.

and if so..why is that even an argument?

well it wouldn't have been an issue if THE INDEPENDENT HADN'T RUN A FRONT PAGE STORY MISQUOTING HER

You see, LAST week, she probably thought the chances of that were fairly slim

FBB hasn't posted to say she might get in RL trouble about posting re HR stuff. Therein lies the difference.

Anyway, really going out now. Feel free to dissect my motivation for posting and find me lacking in moral fibre all you like.

As a confirmed Atheist, can I leap in and say how interesting the Rev's Reluctant Worshippers threads are? Yes, she's certainly taken something of a gamble with her anonymity but it was a very valuable gamble, I think, in terms of what she brings to MN. Her threads make you stop and think for a bit, are inclusive and informative. I'm very grateful for what she brings to MN, and if she needs external support then why not?

And she was very careful with her words and measured in her responses on the Moldies threads. I make notes, you realise .

I was only trying to be helpful - she is worried about her RL supervisor/mentor reading her posts (and those wrongly attributed to her) so it would make sense for her to have a different name for the posts that are not in her Rev professional capacity. That was all I was trying to say!

yes but most of our 'experts' don't make it clear that by posting on MN they are putting themseles on the line professionally and have to seek supervision from higher orders.
I mean Solidgoldbrass doesn't have to check in with Cynthia Payne every time she talks about the rights of sex workers, does she?

indeed. If rev enjoys being able to offer her expertiose and experience on a message board, then it does make the message board more interesting for posters.

She does need to make sure she doesn't feel vulnerable in any way for doing so. I suppose, though, if you get to a stage when you do feel vulnerable, it might be too late.

tiktok doesn't post on a lot else to be fair. some maybe self appointed experts but some are kind of generaly assigned that role from others who gather that they have lots of knowledge and wisdom in that area - am thinking hunker and BF, aitch and BLW, and a lot more - some do post across the board and some don't - there is a HR font of knowledge that we all know for instnace - she doesn't post on a hell of a lot else.

i don't mean to be difficult - but what is the argument here - regarding this?

Sheesh.

Am off out.

Really wasn't having a go at Rev - have nothing personally against her, or any of you.

This feels like it might be about something else.

you are right

we need a psychoanalyst

let's wait until one gets back from therapy and they can talk us through to some sort of closure

I was just wondering the same thing, dittany

You are being a bit MEAN. Do you ask whether MNHQ are okay about Floerybeanbag having "the role" of Person-Who-Knows-About-HR? Or the bf counsellors or the people who work in any area at all and offer advice? People want ADVICE and ask PEOPLE WHO KNOW STUFF for advice.

i.e. Stop poking her with sticks just cos she's a vicar innit

she ain't getting in the neck from me, I was just about to wish her the best of british, if she is MN pastoral care Talk about spreading yourself thinly!

its a risk a lot of us take. i give advice about what i know in my field ( which isn't a lot ) i suppose if you open yourself and your knowledge in your professional capacity - whatever that may be, rev, lawyer, doctor, you can be identified. it rather depends on the person - personal choice i feel.

It must be doubly cruel to have a post attributed to you that puts you in the spotlight when it isn't yours.

god works in mysterious ways.

That is rather a disigenious post Onebat- is there any reason for you to get involved in what seems to be a perfectly amicable conversation between other posters?

religious job people, like mental health job people, spend their whole lives seeking spiritual direction / psychotherapeutic supervision and therefore reflecting on / decronstructing their every decision. It's just part of the way they operate innit. The examined life and all that. And accountability.

Although I know some people panic a bit when they discover that their therapist is in therapy

if you were, for example, a practising counsellor, then you would need supervision,(a non-involved, professional third party 'ear' to help you support others, ensuring you adhere to whatever professional or ethical guidelines you are ruled by) which I imagine is similar for Revs.
However, I do find it odd that you need to do the same in a non-formal capacity on a parenting website.
Are you our new, self-appointed pastoral care on here?

Saint George - you are sounding unpleasantly smug.

I think the Rev is showing more of the milk of human kindness to both you and hunkermunker than I would have done.

Rev, some of the GPs, for example, who post on here have a name for posting in their professional capacity and change it when they post as themselves. It might be worth considering having a different name for your general chatting and keeping the Rev name for your religious thread?

V good point rev - there are lots of mumsnetters who give advice that relates to their own line of work. INcluding the BFCs, lawyers and teachers.

I'm not having a go at you, honest. Just that self-appointed "experts" (wrong word, but there's a bottom upstairs that needs wiping) have caused issues on MN in the past. And bf counsellors generally stick to bf counselling on here imo and ime - I haven't seen eg Tiktok post on the Moldies stuff!

ahhh. You're doing a religion thread. Weeell, you do leave yourself vulnerable, doing something in a professional capacity on a public messga e board. Have you reconsidered?