Well, since this is where we should post on the subject, I just want to write one more post about it. It has made me very sad. I have been trying to leave MN for months (because I felt it was no longer working for me) and perhaps that was my downfall because I was not around much when the Moldies were expressing dissatisfaction (otherwise I probably would have done the same and who knows? might have been invited to join them). I have wasted 3 precious days on this argument (my fault) and I have been by turns outraged, jealous, hurt, upset, amused and now I am upset and feel abandoned because I liked virtually all the people who left and miss them. As each one pops up to say they are posting on the other side, I find myself sagging just a little more and thinking "oh yes, there is another name I enjoyed talking to in the old days".
That said, there are some old names who are definitely staying here 100% which does help to mitigate the pain somewhat. And, having spent so long here the last 3 days, I have also come to know one or two new names of people who seem to be fun to talk to. All of which is good and will probably see me posting here again in the new year.
If the truth be known though, I don't want to start all over again on MN (which is what it feels like to me) and now not even an invite to Moldies would be worth anything as I would never be able to forget I was not anyone's first choice. How I envy those people from Moldies who say "I am enjoying being able to talk more openly in a safer environment". I hope you always continue to reap the benefits, even though you seem incapable of understanding that what you have is what others want too.
I can see that the majority view is now that we should shut up about this subject and I respect that even though I don't feel I have finished talking about it yet. What I would really like now is a list of all the Moldies. Not because I want to ostracise them. One or two people have been kind enough to let me know privately that they are Moldies and I respect them for that and have no intention of dropping them from my list of contacts. But I still want to know who all the others are as I feel deeply uncomfortable talking to people now, wondering if they are Moldies or not. If there is nothing to hide, I wonder why a list made public would be so awful? Though I can of course see that some would not want their status known. But that says more about the circumstances than the fact that a list is a bad idea.
Now I am going to log off. I have very few hours left in which to finish the present I am making for my husband for Christmas. The poor man will probably have to imagine half of it as I am never going to get it finished now . Not anyone's fault but mine of course.
Anyway, Merry Christmas to anyone who has bothered to read this, and thank you to MN for letting me have one more chance to write down my feelings. If (when!) I come back in the new year, I am sure none of this will seem important to me anymore.