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Miscarriage guidelines - fabulous - but...

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hunkermunker · 24/06/2008 14:59

mumsnet.com/miscarriagecodeofpractice.html

..will you be putting together some breastfeeding support ones?

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hunkermunker · 24/06/2008 15:20

What do you want said at antenatal classes?

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CountessDracula · 24/06/2008 15:19

Funny
I was just thinking how you were totally missing my point!

CountessDracula · 24/06/2008 15:19

I mean at ante natal classes etc
just present them with the facts
it's a no-brainer if you can breast feed!

If you can't then you do still need support despite what some people might think

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hunkermunker · 24/06/2008 15:19

You are spectacularly missing the point, CD.

[remembers why not posted lately]

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CountessDracula · 24/06/2008 15:18

Why?
What is wrong with those of us who have to bottle feed getting some support too?
What skin is it off your nose?

We are not saying that you shouldn't also have the breastfeeding support guidelines too

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hunkermunker · 24/06/2008 15:17

Post a thread in breast/bottlefeeding called "bottlefeeding's a faff, you know, so you're better off breastfeeding" and see what responses you get.

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hunkermunker · 24/06/2008 15:17

I should've known better, really.

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CountessDracula · 24/06/2008 15:16

So you don't think that if they knew what bottle feeding was really like (ie a faff) they might not re-consider?

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hunkermunker · 24/06/2008 15:16

Your experience, I would say, was pretty unusual. Yes, there is some excellent breastfeeding support out there, but there are also women who have better treatment than others following a miscarriage, yet these guidelines have been produced.

I'm not arguing though - I want women to have access to decent information, however they choose to feed their babies. I do know, however, that so many women don't feed their baby the way the want to, given that 90% of women who stopped breastfeeding before six weeks wanted to continue.

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FAQ · 24/06/2008 15:14

Sorry Hunker I disagree - I don't think good breastfeeding support would support bottle feeding...

We're lucky round here that the BFing support (in RL) is very good - but when I switched to FF with DS2, and again when I switched DS3 I was at a complete loss to know what to do.

And those breastfeeding support groups, leaflets, posters and helplines weren't really going to help me.

CountessDracula · 24/06/2008 15:13

in fact when I asked at the hospital in ante natal classes (I knew in advance that I couldn't breastfeed) they told me they refused to discuss bottle feeding as they were a "baby friendly hospital"

When I pointed out that it would not be very friendly to my baby if I breast fed, nor if I hadn't a clue about bottle feeding (and the rest of the class agreed) they capitulated.

FWIW I think that better education about bottle feeding would make more people likely to breastfeed.

If they realised what a FAFF bottle feeding is in comparison to breast feeding, if they realised that in fact they would have to get up in teh night, go downstairs, warm the bottle (while baby screams in frenzy, awakening itself to a degree where it won't go back to sleep for bloody ages) rather than just grabbing baby and breastfeeding at the first peep, don't you think they might have second thoughts??

poppy34 · 24/06/2008 15:11

as someone about to enter into this whole new world would definitely welcome any kind of no nonsense practical feeding guide

CountessDracula · 24/06/2008 15:08

I found I could get oodles of info on breast feeding, really, tons
but NONE on bottle feeding

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hunkermunker · 24/06/2008 15:07

I knew someone would say that.

Better breastfeeding support would facilitate better bottlefeeding support, should it be necessary from the outset or become necessary after whatever length of time, because there would be more understanding of the issues and greater sensitivity for the feelings of the women involved.

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CountessDracula · 24/06/2008 15:04

and bottle feeding support too I hope

It is blardy hard to get info on and if you can't breast feed you need it.

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