From MNHQ - we need your comments....

I actually don't see what a hairstyle matters, tbh. It's only hair. Now if it was a behavioural problem, then fair enough, but how does having a particular haircut cause anyone any problems? Is it a barrier to learning? Is it noisy? Does it answer back? Fire spitballs at the teacher? It's only hair. So the problem is looks. Rather shallow. Why not turf out the scruffy kids, or the fat ones, or the ugly ones? It doesn't matter how someone looks it matters how they behave.

"I couldn't say no" - if the mother really meant she was unable to say no to her child - pathetic! However, I suspect she meant that the child was excited and she didn't want to say no because it really wasn't a problem and she saw no harm in it.

Hmmm

difficult to comment without knowing the full extent of the haircut.

If it is a couple of trams on one side of hte head like I have seen round here I don't see the problem. It is a haircut FGS.

If he has a spiders web of trams all over his head then maybe the mother should have had more sense and refused.

In either case it is a haircut, it doesn't pose a danger to him or the other children at the nursery so why ban him??

She sounds like a daft woman. The kid is most likely a pita. If he can control his mother like that he probably is a pita at nursery too.

I detest dress codes, school uniforms, etc.

We are teaching people from an early age to judge by appearances.

Therefore I am on the side of no dress codes in nursery. Although I have no objection to a stipulation that children should be clean and wear clean clothes that are practically suitable for their day's activities.

But it's hair. It grows out. Surely it doesn't matter that he's got an unusual haircut?

I know schools are often strict about this (why? I don't know), but it's weird having this fuss at nursery ...

Parents should, of course, be able to say no but in this instance I don't see why the mother would need to.

He/she wanted his hair a certain way, what on earth has that to do with the nursery?

Nurseries have dress codes?

I agree though that the "I couldn't say no" is feeble though. If she can't say no at 3 what will she do when he's 13?

I don't see why the hairstyle was unsuitable for nursery - but I also don't see why a three year old needs a 'trendy' haircut????

'Tramline' hair has not been 'trendy' for about 10 years. My kids know this and therefore would not even contemplate such a hideous style.

Surely you chose the nursery because of their ethics, code of conduct, style, guidelines and general educational thinking.

So if you do not agree with them, move the child, but do not expect them to change their thinking to suit you.

I think that parents should definitely lead with regards to kids style and dress - what if the ds had seen somebody with red hair, a nose stud or a tattoo and been really excited? Would the parents have said yes?

Parents should be able to say no but I can't see why a nursery would want to ban a 3-year old unless the hairstlye was potentially dangerous. Nursery is being unreasonable imo.

Yes she should have said no. He is only 3 and needs to know that there are boundaries.

Yes, parents should say no. Their unwillingness to say no is the root cause of many problems schools face today.

Nurseries can set whatever dress code they like, strict or lax.

"he saw someone in the barber's with a similar cut and was so excited she couldn't say no."

Snort. I guess we know who's in charge in that relationship.