Moderation Sex Board

Isn't that the point of a discussion? 😁

Could MN have something that is in place which, makes people log on after they've looked at a certain number of posts? (Could it be just triggered by people looking at posts in the sex topic maybe?)

And yet @everywhichway comment from yesterday is still there... and plenty have been deleted since...
A comment that was not directed at any of you commenting here now unless you've named changed, so I fail to see how it's bullying!

I agree with your comments.

Men pass off perverted comments as jokes all the time. Others cover for them all the time. Online and in real life.

That would be a shame.

But I will not stand by and allow posters to minimise others feelings. None of us should have to be asked for a link to sexual content and then be pressured into taking that as a joke.

If mumsnet make the wrong decision, that’s on them.

It bothered lots of people, the replies show that. It was inappropriate. You should understand that a comment like that can come across as perverted.

There are unfortunately ‘real sleazes’ on mumsnet who have asked women for all sorts of things.

I am hoping that this thread stays up till tomorrow so that MNHQ can have a look at all the posts.

Please don't twist PipMumsnet's request and allow this thread to continue with some respect else itll be deleted like all the others

This back and forth from both sides is only going to result in the thread being deleted.

I think you'll find that any real sleaze would have no need to ask a woman on Mumsnet for porn site recommendations. And I don't believe that anyone could have really imagined that was a serious reques. I can see that's it's useful now to try and make a link between that event and Pip's recent intervention about bullying but those of us who've been following the discussions on this thread and the others that have preceded it will be only too aware of what and who she was referring to. So, is indeed to be hoped that the long-running vendettas against certain individuals on here will now cease.

I don’t know you. I don’t know that man.

You only succeeded in minimising the issue and coming across as if you were pointing the finger at others as being the problem for not getting the jokes and bantz. As if we need to just ‘lighten up’ and enjoy a random man asking for sexual content from us. This is something that women deal with from puberty, the pressure to take pervy shit as banter. No thank you. Those defending it are part of the problem.

@MidnightWordle i am literally the last person who would ever victim blame. I was trying to allay fears.

@Mermaidparades you cannot possibly know that. The only person who can is the poster who made the comment.

@horridjobescapee I appreciate you are upset, but if you reread my last comment to you I didn’t dismiss your feelings. Your feelings are yours, no one else could possibly understand. But I know for certain Every would not have intended to frighten or intimidate you.

@Mermaidparades no harm to you but you don't know inside anyone else's head.

I know how I found it, and others felt similar. And we are allowed to name our feelings without being told we are basically wrong to feel as we do because he didn't mean it.

@horridjobescapee I’m sorry that a glib, throwaway joke from every made you feel anxious. He would never do that on purpose, ever. He is not an intimidating woman hater.

Absolutely this. It was intimidating and made me feel very anxious and I couldn't clearly articulate or understand why.

Well, I'm certainly not going to rise to that. Nice try though.

But thanks Pip. A little late but nonetheless very welcome.

@MidnightWordle it’s also great that MN have deleted all those nasty comments directed at Surplus last night. I’m so glad they’re stamping out bullying.

Thanks pipmumsnet.

A poster being asked to find sex content for a man does have a bullying/intimidation feel to it, as does the pressure put on others to take it as a joke. Hopefully they’ll realise that now.

Great that mumsnet have decided to leave the thread up despite the attempts to de rail. Some fantastic points being raised.

One of the threads you were wanting taken down for references to underage sex wasn't even on the sex topic. And I know there was one discussed under the parenting topic. And the rugby post- not on the sex topic.

If that is a response to my earlier post, all three posts about underage sex that I refer to were in the same thread, on the Sex board.

(It’s unclear whether it is a reply to my post; you respond to several points I made so it seems to be, but I haven’t referred to the rugby thread or any other specific threads at all, so not sure who that part was aimed at.)

@BenCoopersSupportWren your tone in your posts was perfectly fine. As were your words ❤

Thank you @PipMumsnet 💗