Mumsnet turning into Tattle

It's funny they have the arse about being slagged off when they spend a lot of time bitching about MN.

The thing with Tattle is it is free for all. They won’t remove a thread because somebody might find it distasteful or because it hurts someone’s feelings or shocks them.

I was following some threads about a high profile news case and I had to stop, because although the info was brilliant, the glee that was barely concealed about the individual getting her comeuppance and comments about her appearance and home and so on just became too ugly for me. So I stopped. But tattle expect you to make that call for you, not demand everyone else stops talking about something because you don’t like it.

Tattle is alright. MN is ... well. I get a lot better info about MN threads from Tattle than I do from MN sometimes.

I tend to suspect Tattle is kinder because it's not as up itself.
I haven't encountered the trans-obsessed ppl on Tattle yet, either.

Yet that’s what happened on here fairly recently?

That sort of thing definitely is vile and shouldn’t be allowed to stand. There are some threads on there that attract some truly awful people.
What I meant really though was that public figures go into it with eyes wide open. They’re going to attract a lot of praise and a lot of criticism. They made money from their online profiles. They also don’t have to read their threads on Tattle. People on MN are generally looking for support, and get torn down. The most innocuous things get pounced on and ripped apart. It’s horrific, and worse recently.
Having said that, any comments on celebrities children should be removed instantly and the poster banned.

IME tattle users are much nicer to one another than MN can be, a lot more respectful.

It's scary how people get slated and torn apart for admitting they eat anything like crisps or chocolate.

And the attitude to alcohol, anyone who has more than one glass of wine a week has an alcohol dependency.

There’s been two will writing sponsored threads on MN for the past two weeks. One about writing a will, the other about leaving a legacy to some charity.

That’s not exclusive to Gransnet.

I’m not a Tattle member but do occasionally read when I’m killing time traveling (smell the wealth, hens 👋🏻) and do not see levels of toxicity anywhere near that of MN.

I’ve just glanced at Tattle and yeah, the disordered eating shit on here is bad.

There's a competitive underrating vibe on Mumsnet.
About 3 years ago a poster made a thread about how she was disgusted with hier husband for having more than his fair share at a bbq, she made him out to be so greedy, but through the comments she said she had allocated 1 pitta and .5 chicken breast per person and he had eaten something like 1.5 which meant there wasn't enough.....
I mean it's bizarre, the comments were something else

Just made my first click on the gransnet forum in response to someone's recommendation upthread. I'm sure that it is very nice there, but the VERY FIRST THING that hit me when I arrived there was a promo of a will-writing service. Gah! Straight from parenting to preparing for death, with nothing in between! Is there some sort of intermediate forum for the phase between shipping your kids off to university and confronting mortality?

I've read a few threads on tattle some of them
Towards the likes of Katie price are really savage , I stopped going on there when they made such a thing about Kate lawler and her parenting it was so so nasty and anytime you defended her it was all turn on you time
I don't see Mumsnet as nastier but maybe that's because the tattle ones I read were that bad

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Posters don’t tend to attack each other on Tattle

@Skinnermarink

Yes to that. It is very pro ana.

I disagree. I reported a thread on Tattle to the mods. It was attacking a woman whose child had recently died. The posters were accusing the woman of enjoying her child’s death and using it for money and likes, the comments were absolutely disgusting. Tattle mods ignored me and the thread remains.

I couldnt imagine losing a child and then knowing that people were publicly saying I was revelling in my child’s death. Just horrendous.

I agree that mumsnet toxicity is lower and more dangerous as it’s piling on vulnerable people in their worst times rather than famous people

people come here in their worst times and some posters delight in tearing them to shreds,
and yes the moderators need to pull fingers out of yer arseholes! You see enough and do too little if you see the same posters again and again tearing down a vulnerable poster and taking great pleasure in it., DO SOMETHING! I’ve been here 13 years needs to said

Threads don’t descend into chaos in the same way, though. I don’t need everyone who answers a thread to be a nice person, but it is reasonable for them to stay on topic.

MN is batshit disordered about food and eating.

This times 1000

But people on Tattle are often vile about some posters on MN. So because they are nice to each other doesn't really make them pleasant people.

MN is worse than Tattle. At least on Tattle they generally keep their abuse to public figures, but are generally polite to each other. Here posters are vile to anyone

This is true. There are a lot of pleasant posters here but too many toxic people, and often borderline personal attack in their unpleasantness. I report some of them if they're persistent in this.

That's not including the trolls, liars etc

The difference with Tattle is, they are generally nice to each other - united in a common hate of another person / other people / Mumsnet.

I don't know why mods have kept the Mumsnet thread up there - it's really nasty and unnecessary. The posters there have WAY too much time on their hands; why do you care what outfit someone on Mumsnet is wearing?! Weird.

Here posters are just unnecessarily mean to each other though which is no better.

I’d probably agree with this. I did stop using tattle, as some posts about people were just too much and it all felt sour. But no one was discourteous to me personally.

Oh and it was a mod who posted the SS , so no, they don't delete any reference to MN when there's a whole thread dedicated to it.

This. So many awful toxic posts about food and weight. I reported a thread and directly asked about the pro-ana style posts of many MNetters and got literally no response. One post was removed but no comment on the toxicity of the whole thread.

MN is batshit disordered about food and eating.