Does mumsnet actually want to alienate core users? (Sex topic in active)

But.... MN isn't a place for children is it so that's a completely different dynamic. It's a site for ADULTS.

And there are no men pestering or harassing women on the sex board if that's what you're getting at. How many men from the sex board have messaged you? I'm guessing none unless you have posted on the sex chat thread and invited them to.

Its more like if Tesco put all the meat in a separate room so as not offend the vegetarians. But then the vegetarians purposefully keep going into the serparate room and complaining about all the meat in there!

Alternatively, if my local tesco, which is convenient and I've shopped there for years, opened a free playroom for parents to use with their children, and a load of men who had never previously shopped at tesco started hanging out there, asking the mums for their phone numbers and how they lost their virginity and posting about grooming underage girls for sex, I'd probably mention it to the manager and go to the press if they didn't do anything about it.

Rather than just considering it "not my problem".

So if you have a different opinion on the sex board appearing in active you’re either a man or defending sharing stories of grooming and CSA? What a fucking reach

What makes me laugh is the amount of people that seem to think they own mumsnet or have any right to a say in what mumsnet do!
"You need to remove the sex topic now because I say you should"
"I'm going to leave mumsnet if you don't remove the sex board"
As if mumsnet give a shit if you leave or not 🤣
If mumsnet want to alienate their users then let them. You don't like mumsnet anymore, then move on.
If I don't like Tesco, I won't shop there. I don't stand outside the shop hurling abuse at the people who do choose to shop there. I don't demand that the manager comes out and explains to me the reasons of why they are now stocking xyz products that I don't like and insist they remove them from the shelves because I don't like them.

What makes me laugh is the amount of people that seem to think they own mumsnet or have any right to a say in what mumsnet do!
"You need to remove the sex topic now because I say you should"
"I'm going to leave mumsnet if you don't remove the sex board"
As if mumsnet give a shit if you leave or not 🤣
If mumsnet want to alienate their users then let them. You don't like mumsnet anymore, then move on.
If I don't like Tesco, I won't shop there. I don't stand outside the shop hurling abuse at the people who do choose to shop there. I don't demand that the manager comes out and explains to me the reasons of why they are now stocking xyz products that I don't like and insist they remove them from the shelves because I don't like them.

Ad blockers unfortunately won't block either those threads, or the 'promoted by mumsnet' threads advertising sex toys to women who've just given birth.

Are you new to Mumsnet?

MNHQ have never dignified that sort of behaviour by giving in to it. They work at their own pace and will update when they're ready to.

Are you new to Mumsnet?

MNHQ have never dignified that sort of behaviour by giving in to it. They work at their own pace and will update when they're ready to.

I think that’s the point (certainly what I’m going for) - spam the whole site with hide the sex topic until MNHQ actually act on what everyone is telling them, instead of trotting out the same “we’re listening, honest”.

I couldn't believe a thread i saw yesterday, it reminded me of the early days of AOL Online chat rooms with desperate spotty teens repeating their age and sex asking to chat sexy times etc.

In a ghoulish way I couldn't stop reading (and laughing). Why on earth are people using mumsnet to arrange shags when there's so many sites like Tinder? I feel a bit uncomfortable with one theory I have and hope I'm being really daft.

I saw that grotty little thread this morning, its still there.

I'm turning ad blockers on until MN at least responds to this. It's completely changed the culture of the site. If they're doing it for the £££ we the product can go on strike.

It's either that or dereg but then I won't see what happens!

These threads are getting tedious, there are more threads in active about people not wanting the sex topic than threads from the actual sex topic. You are all just drawing attention to it rather than just hiding it.

Are you happy to be part of a site where people post details about having sex with underage girls who cannot consent?

I haven't seen any sort of thread like that and I'm pretty sure if there was it would be pulled immediately

Are you happy to be part of a site where people post details about having sex with underage girls who cannot consent?

I haven't seen any sort of thread like that and I'm pretty sure if there was it would be pulled immediately

MNHQ, you don’t seem to have realised how confronting, loaded and unpleasant it is for most women to be unexpectedly faced with sexual comments and discussion.

We are not prudes, most of us here I expect enjoy sex and masturbation - on our own terms and at our own chosen time and with adults we select. The vast majority of women though will have a visceral reaction when unexpectedly and unwantedly we see or experience sexual behaviours. For most of our evolutionary history, unknown men displaying sudden, unexpected sexual behaviours means we need to be alert to the prospect of rape. Even now, going about your business and suddenly being exposed to something sexual - being flashed/groped/leered at, dealing with sexual comments - will be a degrading, frightening experience.

I know that words on the screen is not the same and I am not at all blaming the users of the Sex topic. But scrolling down Active, looking at thread titles and suddenly seeing a message about a sexy massage, rimming, anal sex etc etc has the SAME EFFECT on women as a man sidling up to them and hissing j there ear. It’s horrible. It’s discomfiting and it’s very dislocating to your sense of safety.

There does not exist a time or a world where a woman scrolling through a parenting site is going to
welcome suddenly reading about sex. She may seek it out at certain times of her choosing but essentially women are hardwired to be wary, disgusted, and scared when unexpectedly and unwantedly exposed to sexual content. You won’t change that because you want to flog a vibrator and you absolutely need to sort it out.