Why are you allowing people to troll the Sex Board?

I also don't mind the sex threads - I've even posted on occasion. But like others I dislike the sleazy hook up thread, and I dislike that there's a load of pervy random men attracted to the site by that topic who don't post on anything else. It seems that dms from men are common on that topic and I think that is just yuck.

And yes no reason for it to be on Active Conversations particularly. And it seems the people who frequent the sex topic also don't want it on Active - so there's no need for it to be (except possibly that Mumsnet has entered into a commercial relationship with a vibrator maker who may have expectations about it being in Active conversations).

Exactly this. If people want the sex thread they know where to find it. And as I said on a previous thread about this issue, Mumsnet is not a hook up/dating site. But it won't be long before that thread is rolled out on here, along with the option to add locations, photos and swipe right....for a small (premium) fee....the sex chat thread is just HQ dipping the toe in so to speak....

Going to talk settings via the app bypasses anything with posts on. It simply goes straight to the settings without anything else (the more data heavy stuff?) from talk coming up

If MN wanted an illustration of why ‘just hide the topic’ is a terrible basis for UX, this thread provides a pretty good one.

I give up.

@SoupDragon the website crashes on my phone. I've adjusted to the shortest No of posts per page but it still does it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Sarcasm aside, thank you - I am thick, it never occurred to me to find a way to log onto the website rather than app.
Will try that now.
Also, saw your later message - in my settings it says that the sex topic is hidden. But it still shows up on my active list 😒

I'll have a go on the website. Thank you.

you can sort of do it in the iPhone app (I don't know about android)click the big "talk" at the top, followed by "my Mumsnet" then "open additional Mumsnet settings" at the bottom. This takes you to the website where you choose "talk settings" and then scroll to the bottom for "manage hidden threads and topics"

Ah no I'm not on the app. Sorry I can't help. I don't think you are being thick. I can't even remember how I did it - there was instructions somewhere.

I'm fairly sure you have to make the small effort of going onto the website to hide a topic as it can't be done in the app.

I know, I'm just pointing out that the bosses have already told us the score. I doubt anything else is going to happen.

Are you on the app? Can you tell me how please? I have tried everything, but nothing has worked.
I'm obviously thick.

I managed to hide it

I CAN'T hide the topic.
I'm not sure what you're expecting me to do?

I have absolutely no problem with this being here, but why does it have to come in Active???
Anyone who wants to find it can.

What next? OTBT popping up?

That's interesting, thanks.

I had a look and I think you're right, it seems people are replying without realising which section they're in.
While it's not trolling it must seem very abrupt and rude for a regular of fashion and beauty to be told 'why are you asking? Just wear what you like!'

I think similar happened on the sex topic last night where a wife asked for advice about toys and she explained they had been tip-toeing around the subject for a while.

The first reply of 'why are you asking on the Internet?' must have been a surprise.

To be fair the respondee did recover in spectacular fashion 😊

@everywhichway that makes sense.

I missed it in blissful ignorance.

I've experienced similar where a small group that have fallen out elsewhhave and have followed each other onto a forum I mod.

You get a full blown argument appear from nowhere with no sense of how it started and then the regulars pile in 😬

Sometimes it's just easier to get the big hammer out

We've already been told. Hide the topic if you don't want to see it. I'm not sure what else anybody is expecting.

While we're waiting to hear from MNHQ about how they intend to resolve things around the Sex Topic and the Active threads list (hopefully to remove the former from the latter!), I've been doing a bit of delving into the circumstances behind the taking down of the original sexchat thread. It's still a bit of mystery, but this is the closest that I think we came to finding out. Becky was responding to one of several questions from users of that thread about why it had suddenly disappeared.

YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet · 22/10/2022 10:15

Hi all - not sure which thread it was, exactly - if you've got any more info we're happy to take a look. We were made aware of disagreements happening on another platform that had made their way here and derailed a thread.

FWIW, we've no problem with a sex chat thread among consenting adults!

It was shortly after this that the current sexchat thread commenced.

There is an interesting thread over in Style and Beauty discussing a similar issue re appearing in Active and attracting unhelpful posters who derail the thread. I wonder if it's time to make for more pleasant and informed discussions by only having general topics in Active like Chat and AIBU. The rest, people have to actually go to the boards to find.

I have been on holiday for a few weeks so did not bother checking Mumsnet till I got back but I was a bit surprised to see 'HELP WITH ANAL' screaming at me in caps from the front page. I don't mind a sex sub section but I agree that having it in the active section is not right. I am far from prude but I agree with others that it changes the overall tone of the site somewhat.

I noticed that this week. I didn't even know there was a Sex topic. There's been some fairly risqué stuff posted which just comes up unsolicited now which I'm fine about even if some of it is not my cup of tea but it would be better to put it where people who are interested have to go and look.

The website is very clunky on my phone as well so I wondered about installing the app. Missing features put me off.

Sorry I can't help

@Surplus2requirements I know you can hide it from the web-based site. However, that site crashes on my elderly phone so all I can use is the app

My laptop is a work one and I'm not comfortable with signing in to mumsnet on it.

If it helps I might be able to explain how you can hide the sex topic (no promises)

I appreciate you shouldn't have to.

(Just to be clear the guide came from a woman and can't be added to my ever increasing mansplaining account)

Did you fix the boil ?