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ofwarren · 11/02/2023 09:26

Hi,

The Nicola Bulley thread must have been hidden overnight by nightwatch. I wasn't on it at the time to see what happened.
Are we allowed the post back or are we not allowed to discuss it now?

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Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 19:45

@Jourdain11 yes you did mention you'd come on thinking you'd find posts such as water safety. So let's keep this factual. It wasn't myself or the main posters spouting BS. I also live near water and worry I don't know enough about the elements

Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 19:42

@Jourdain11 conveniently your posts from thread 7 have been deleted.
I won't argue about it. I know what I read and why I kept quoting and replying to your posts. But I'm not one to hold a grudge if you want to start again in a different light I'm happy to move on.

Jourdain11 · 12/02/2023 19:42

Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 19:34

@Jourdain11 you contributed to most of the negative posts on the last thread. You openly voiced how outraged you were about the thread but refused to post anything else. You were goady to say the least. It's very hard to tell if you want to be apart of discussion or closing of the threat.

I actually posted that I - and probably others - would be more interested to discuss MP cases, specifically women, and how they are handled more generally. And water safety issues, since I come to realise that I and a lot of people are pretty clueless about what is and isn't risky or dangerous.

If I said weirdos I apologise, but it's genuinely not a word I ever use. I don't think you can find any example of me being ableist or specifically vitriolic towards anyone.

Jourdain11 · 12/02/2023 19:35

Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 19:32

@Jourdain11 you did call us all weirdos no?

I did not.

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ofwarren · 12/02/2023 19:35

OnthePisteAgain · 12/02/2023 19:34

It's not been pulled just because of those few posters. Some of the the comments about PA are absolutely unacceptable. Diagnosing him as autistic?? Or if not guilty? And you are surprised the thread was pulled!

Report them then! I do

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Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 19:35

@ofwarren yes on thread 8 she wasn't but thread 7 defo

OnthePisteAgain · 12/02/2023 19:34

It's not been pulled just because of those few posters. Some of the the comments about PA are absolutely unacceptable. Diagnosing him as autistic?? Or if not guilty? And you are surprised the thread was pulled!

Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 19:34

@Jourdain11 you contributed to most of the negative posts on the last thread. You openly voiced how outraged you were about the thread but refused to post anything else. You were goady to say the least. It's very hard to tell if you want to be apart of discussion or closing of the threat.

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ofwarren · 12/02/2023 19:34

Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 19:32

@Jourdain11 you did call us all weirdos no?

She did but didn't carry it on like the others.
The language and vitriol from the others is a disgrace.

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Llovecookies · 12/02/2023 19:33

I'm not one to get upset but the messages on that other thread have just about finished me off today. You offer support to someone and get abuse. Anyway I will say it again, anyone that's dealing with an autistic child today (and any other day) you are doing a fantastic job.

confounded234 · 12/02/2023 19:33

ofwarren · 12/02/2023 19:25

It's so backwards that whole threads get pulled because some posters are abusive. Why can't the posters be dealt with and our thread stand?

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I reported quite a few posts, I guess MumsNet reaches a limit and then shuts down the thread maybe automatically. I suspect those seeking to stamp out benign discussion are doing it deliberately to get as many reports as they can.

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ofwarren · 12/02/2023 19:32

Jourdain11 · 12/02/2023 19:32

If you're including me as one of them, I think that's unfair. I didn't post anything ableist or any personal attack on anyone.

I did say that I find the nature and tone and VOLUME of the discussion unsettling - which I do - but I accept I should have probably just left it alone.

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No, I'm not included you
You have been respectful

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Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 19:32

@Jourdain11 you did call us all weirdos no?

Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 19:32

What will these people do when they realise there's a whole section on Netflix about true crime documentaries. Unsolved mysteries that actually open up cases to be speculated about 😮

Jourdain11 · 12/02/2023 19:32

ofwarren · 12/02/2023 19:23

@imanimumsnet
There are 3 or so posters who are just determined to attack threads for no reason. They know if they report and report that you will pull threads. How is that fair?
They have posted ableist comments about me and another poster on there, yet its the thread that's pulled, not the posters who are purposely causing problems.

We are not discussing anything that isn't in the news, we are not discussing a criminal case. Whenever anyone comes on and says something outlandish, they are pulled up and sometimes reported depending on what they say.

Why are WE penalised and told we cannot talk because a few posters don't like the topic?

If you're including me as one of them, I think that's unfair. I didn't post anything ableist or any personal attack on anyone.

I did say that I find the nature and tone and VOLUME of the discussion unsettling - which I do - but I accept I should have probably just left it alone.

Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 19:28

ofwarren · 12/02/2023 19:25

It's so backwards that whole threads get pulled because some posters are abusive. Why can't the posters be dealt with and our thread stand?

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Exactly. It's absolutely ridiculous. Every main case about anything and everything is discussed. I've never seen so much backlash about discussing a missing person?

JaneJeffer · 12/02/2023 19:28

@MNHQ I hope you will do something about these two posters. Attacking a mother of autistic children is absolutely disgusting behaviour.

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ofwarren · 12/02/2023 19:25

Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 19:22

@ofwarren all that poster done was make it clear they haven't got ASD and if they at the very least have 3 children with ASD I feel very sorry for them. The thread has been closed because of their disgusting comments not because of our discussion.

I am truly baffled what the problem is with discussing it. Please don't take any notice of what they've said.

It's so backwards that whole threads get pulled because some posters are abusive. Why can't the posters be dealt with and our thread stand?

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Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 19:24

I have asked out right why it's wrong. No one has come up with an explanation for why they wouldn't want it discussed

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ofwarren · 12/02/2023 19:23

@imanimumsnet
There are 3 or so posters who are just determined to attack threads for no reason. They know if they report and report that you will pull threads. How is that fair?
They have posted ableist comments about me and another poster on there, yet its the thread that's pulled, not the posters who are purposely causing problems.

We are not discussing anything that isn't in the news, we are not discussing a criminal case. Whenever anyone comes on and says something outlandish, they are pulled up and sometimes reported depending on what they say.

Why are WE penalised and told we cannot talk because a few posters don't like the topic?

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Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 19:22

@ofwarren all that poster done was make it clear they haven't got ASD and if they at the very least have 3 children with ASD I feel very sorry for them. The thread has been closed because of their disgusting comments not because of our discussion.

I am truly baffled what the problem is with discussing it. Please don't take any notice of what they've said.

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ofwarren · 12/02/2023 18:40

Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 18:39

@ofwarren I think the other thread has been reported now

I've created post 8
I think 7 was full?

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Shewasnthere · 12/02/2023 18:39

@ofwarren I think the other thread has been reported now

ImprobablePuffin · 12/02/2023 11:15

Meltedcheeses · 11/02/2023 23:10

These threads and @ofwarren etc have really disturbed me. It is very dark and I fear the real reason they'd rather chat here than Facebook is the anonymity...the lack of empathy and understanding does chill me. I wish MN would remove these threads....it breeds sickness in those who obviously have mental health issues already.

Disturbed because people are discussing a current news story? It breeds sickness?! Jesus Christ. I'm surprised you can cope at all with modern life

WhoNeedsSleepNotISaidMyBody · 12/02/2023 08:04

milkyaqua · 11/02/2023 22:54

I would say the dysregulated are those casting potentially defamatory aspersions on the husband and/or those wringing their hands at his unimaginable grief - meanwhile caring not a whitt that over 20,000 people have been killed in recent earthquakes and some, including infants, are still buried alive over 100 hours later.

I am only aware of these threads in that I thought initially they must have some news I'd not seen, then when it appeared in trending, checked in to was it (to my surprise) thread 5 or 6, again thinking well, news must have broken re this missing woman. No, see above.

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@milkyaqua

meanwhile caring not a whitt that over 20,000 people have been killed in recent earthquakes and some, including infants, are still buried alive over 100 hours later

you have NO idea what peoples thoughts are on that, why would you even say that?