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Official Complaint to Mumsnet

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CoconutQueen · 02/02/2023 09:47

Totally inappropriate enormous vibrator adverts now ALL over Mumnset.

What on earth are you thinking of? Is Mumsnet really that short of cash that they have to stoop this low?

Not to mention the ridiculous woke language ie "people with wombs".

Totally inappropriate on ALL levels.

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AllOutofEverything · 02/02/2023 11:18

Can someone recommend a free adblocker?
I am not okay with sex toys adverts.
I have never before seen sex toys adverts on the internet and do not want them now.

Yesthatismychildsigh · 02/02/2023 11:18

How can a company make a product for women when they don’t even know what a woman is.

Hamjam · 02/02/2023 11:17

SalviaOfficinalis · 02/02/2023 10:04

@dirt

Advert link

I can’t see the bit about vulva owners or about sex in motherhood being taboo and obviously that’s not acceptable, but this advert is fine, isn’t it? Isn’t it better to be open about women’s sexual pleasure? Why can’t Mumsnet advertise vibrators? Surely if your kids see it just tell them it’s an air freshener. Sorry if I’m being obtuse but I’m lost on what is wrong with it. I’d rather we were celebrating women getting sexual pleasure than whispering about it behind our hands. But happy to be told otherwise as I may just be being a bit dense!

ChocHotolate · 02/02/2023 11:17

CoconutQueen · 02/02/2023 09:47

Totally inappropriate enormous vibrator adverts now ALL over Mumnset.

What on earth are you thinking of? Is Mumsnet really that short of cash that they have to stoop this low?

Not to mention the ridiculous woke language ie "people with wombs".

Totally inappropriate on ALL levels.

There were adverts for sex chat lines a few years ago, took Mumsnet about a week to get rid of them

DonatellaBella · 02/02/2023 11:17

RedCarsGoFaster · 02/02/2023 10:30

"anybody with a clitoris"?????

FFS, we're women!!! Women!!!

Why is the word women now taboo?

Massive fail by MN and the collaboration company.

Am I a TERF because I have a vulva and a clitoris? Apparently so.

The only good news is it's shit like this that is waking people up to the radical agenda to erase the female sex from real life and allow the trans agenda to overtake us.

Don't be daft, of course the word "women" isn't taboo - trans women are women and now own the word, so get with the programme. The rest of us old fashioned types of women are now reduced to our component parts for reference purposes.

Christmasisshit · 02/02/2023 11:16

Poorly done, Mumsnet.
Et tu, Brute?

ShirleyPhallus · 02/02/2023 11:16

I’m never sure why they can’t say “women and trans men”. It’s inclusive. Do trans people really want to also be described as vulva havers or whatever nonsense?

Riverlee · 02/02/2023 11:15

My young adult dc has just came in and glanced over at what I was writing (see below) and saw the vibrator advert - one embarrassed mum!

Also have had a hysterectomy and still enjoy the use of a vibrator (second blush of post).

What I started writing was that The advert says Color and not Colour so there’s a spelling mistake as well.

(and in-laws used to own a volvo, so does that count).

OldFan · 02/02/2023 11:15

I use adblock and I don't get any adverts.

Yingyamgwingwen · 02/02/2023 11:15

That's what I thought! I use an ad blocker so I can't see them at all!

Yesthatismychildsigh · 02/02/2023 11:15

They’ve managed to alienate a lot of people with their fuckwitted ‘advertising’ campaign. If they can’t even get that remotely right I’m wondering what sort of research they’ve done for their product. Stop selling out, mumsnet. Are you really that desperate?

Mypoorbody · 02/02/2023 11:14

I have a ad blocker so this ad leading to this thread has done its job because I’ve now heard of the product. Wouldn’t buy it though even if I was looking.

Sex taboo for mothers - yes when I was a teenager thinking about my own DParemts. As MN doesn’t seem to just have posts about only children or multiple births otherwise not so much.

Brefugee · 02/02/2023 11:14

‘For mothers and vulva owners’

I'll join in the chorus of: Use. The. Word. Woman.
How about "for women and other people with vulvas"?

One of the big complaints by feminists and other women is that we get reduced to either a function (mum) or body part (vulva owners). What are you thinking? I really would like to know the MN process that lead to that absolute dog's dinner of a phrase.

Embelline · 02/02/2023 11:13

This is the most offensive ad I’ve seen in a long time. Jesus mumsnet, “vulva owners”? REALLY?

mumsnet is becoming a joke. I wish there was a worthy competitor to flee too (I hate Reddit).

agree about the “toys for the bedroom” article as well.

AllOutofEverything · 02/02/2023 11:13

SocialLite · 02/02/2023 11:07

I think things like this should be normalised, not hidden in dark corners. If anything can be advertised here, then I have no issues with vibrators being advertised too.

I don't like adverts in general, but don't want to pay for Mumsnet either, so the adverts benefit me in the long run.

Sex toys should be normalised!!

Totally disagree. And if the site took on this approach then it is not for me.

SwedishEdith · 02/02/2023 11:12

FKATondelayo · 02/02/2023 10:34

I find it odd that the Sex chat (which is often a source of good advice and support as well as being user driven) is hidden away and not allowed on the front page but vibrator companies can pay to plaster their product all over Active Convos.

The taboo of mothers having sex? Never happened. For a start mothers are the only people with stone cold evidence of their sex lives. Everyone else's is purely anecdotal.

The Sex chat isn't hidden away now. Presumably, this is now why.

Bignanny30 · 02/02/2023 11:10

I’m no prude believe me but I totally agree.

Moopsi · 02/02/2023 11:09

SocialLite · 02/02/2023 11:07

I think things like this should be normalised, not hidden in dark corners. If anything can be advertised here, then I have no issues with vibrators being advertised too.

I don't like adverts in general, but don't want to pay for Mumsnet either, so the adverts benefit me in the long run.

What about describing women as people with wombs and vulva owners?

TheLeadbetterLife · 02/02/2023 11:09

Although if they think a womb is necessary for use of a vibrator, maybe they don't know how babies are made.

antipodeancanary · 02/02/2023 11:09

Extremely poorly thought out. Not fitting at all for me. I actually have never been on a site where I have received unsolicited pictures of vibrators. Who thought it would be Mumsnet to buck the trend?

SocialLite · 02/02/2023 11:07

I think things like this should be normalised, not hidden in dark corners. If anything can be advertised here, then I have no issues with vibrators being advertised too.

I don't like adverts in general, but don't want to pay for Mumsnet either, so the adverts benefit me in the long run.

SomersetDreams · 02/02/2023 11:06

I unblock adblock and got cat food ads.

The whole world not just mumsnet has gone madder with using 'correct terminology'

TheLeadbetterLife · 02/02/2023 11:06

AllOutofEverything · 02/02/2023 11:01

This is not about babies but about sex toys. Do you think sex toys are necessary to having babies?

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Obviously not. I am questioning the marketing strategy of this vibrator which suggests there's a taboo around sex and motherhood. Which seems incongruous, unless one doesn't understand how motherhood comes about.

ZestFest · 02/02/2023 11:06

This is ill-thought out and really objectionable.

Don't contribute to the erasure of women's language
Don't market sex toys to women who've just given birth ffs

lifeissweet · 02/02/2023 11:06

HoodieBell · 02/02/2023 11:04

I'm not offended at all, sorry if some find that offensive. I am a womb and vulva owner, they are both my own not weird mementoes from my serial killing days.

Your have those body parts because you are a woman.

It is such a biology fail, though. No mention of the clitoris, but having a womb is relevant?