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Official Complaint to Mumsnet

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CoconutQueen · 02/02/2023 09:47

Totally inappropriate enormous vibrator adverts now ALL over Mumnset.

What on earth are you thinking of? Is Mumsnet really that short of cash that they have to stoop this low?

Not to mention the ridiculous woke language ie "people with wombs".

Totally inappropriate on ALL levels.

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siucra · 02/02/2023 11:46

Instead of raising the issue with Smile Makers, why not collaborate with decent companies. Why not support women in prison. Flogging vibrators is not a decent campaign. Actually change women's lives for the better.

TokyoSushi · 02/02/2023 11:46

Agree!!

Moopsi · 02/02/2023 11:45

JusteanBiscuits · 02/02/2023 11:42

A hysterectomy doesn't remove your vulva btw!

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The point is that it says its for "people with wombs" 🙄

siucra · 02/02/2023 11:44

I have just read the nonsense on the Instagram ad again - and what a stupid company it is. At one point, it uses a handshake emoji with the phrase 'tackling taboos together'.
I'm sorry? What taboos? Does this company know what a taboo is?
Women have sex. It's not a taboo. They are not breaking new ground or doing anything amazing. Vibrators have been around for a very long time, and are produced by companies who do not used dehumanising language. I hate everything this company stands for - they are the type to refer to menstruators.
PLEASE NO MORE OF THIS, I BEG YOU!

BoreOfWhabylon · 02/02/2023 11:44

Good grief. Has MNHQ been taken over by 20 year old non-binary interns?

Embarrassed for you Mumsnet - and I bet most of our lovely moderators, who have to deal with the fall-out from this, feel the same.

Also, are you really recommending that new birthing parents should use this device INSIDE THEIR WOMBS? Because the tortuous newspeak language implies this and is, frankly, dangerous.

@JustineMumsnet have you actually seen this?

AllOutofEverything · 02/02/2023 11:44

lifeissweet · 02/02/2023 11:38

I know, @AllOutofEverything. I was just saying that the advert's take on motherhood and sex being a taboo is clearly rubbish.

I agree that there shouldn't be sexual content on the main site where you have no choice.

I misunderstood and agree.
I would not care if the advert was in the sex board. People like me do not go there and I assume people who go there would be fine with adverts like this.

MayThe4th · 02/02/2023 11:44

Exactly how much are you being paid to show this shite?

I thought the idea of adverts was that if a poster clicked on them mn earned revenue. So exactly how much are you expecting to earn? Do you really think anyone on here is going to want to buy from this company? Seriously?

I haven’t seen the advert, but I hope you’re earning a lot from it, because you’re likely going to be losing a lost more if your readers decide to boycott your site over it.

JusteanBiscuits · 02/02/2023 11:42

Moopsi · 02/02/2023 10:05

So women who've had a hysterectomy are not allowed to use vibrators?

Also offensive to say that sex in motherhood is a deeply held taboo.

Deeply misogynistic.

It also looks like a mini vacuum cleaner.

A hysterectomy doesn't remove your vulva btw!

GetOffMyDoorJack · 02/02/2023 11:42

I'm not a mother but I resent that meaning that I am reduced to a "vulva owner". I am a woman, the same as a mother is.

stoodmyground · 02/02/2023 11:41

Agree completely.

DCINightingale · 02/02/2023 11:40

Totally agree OP, I went onto mumsnet this morning and saw huge adverts either side of my screen. Not what I was expecting or wanted. Totally inappropriate

Mardyface · 02/02/2023 11:40

Since you are supposedly listening Mumsnet 'vulva owners' has made me LIVIDLY ANGRY this morning. How dare marketing people think it's OK to describe human beings like that? Apart from the fact it's fucking offensive and I don't see the penis-owning equivalent anywhere in the whole of the world, it's clumsy and lazy copy because you could talk about clitorises or pleasure or anything - you don't have to even use that sentence. I do not identify by my vulva and penis owners who identify as women can either buy the product or not based on this advert anyway?

MuckyPlucky · 02/02/2023 11:38

Anyone else want to vote with their feet with me???

lifeissweet · 02/02/2023 11:38

I know, @AllOutofEverything. I was just saying that the advert's take on motherhood and sex being a taboo is clearly rubbish.

I agree that there shouldn't be sexual content on the main site where you have no choice.

MuckyPlucky · 02/02/2023 11:38

OneEnchantedEvening · 02/02/2023 11:37

Well said!

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Hear hear 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻

AllOutofEverything · 02/02/2023 11:37

itwasntmetho · 02/02/2023 11:34

I didn't know sex in Motherhood was taboo.

Sex toys is not the same as sex. People have had sex for thousands of years who have never even heard about sex toys.

OneEnchantedEvening · 02/02/2023 11:37

IAmWomanHearMeRoar1 · 02/02/2023 11:32

I think you'll find, @CherylMumsnet , that the wording is unpopular with 99% of the female population of the entire planet, not just here. Calling us 'vulva havers' and 'womb havers' is so utterly, disgracefully misogynistic and shows an intense hatred of women. You know, the people you rely on to keep this site going? Find the worthless pos from your side who 'okayed' these ads, (they were vetted, right? By someone in Mumsnet?) and sack them. That sort of person should not be working for you or have anything to do with a site that affects women. Only place they should be is a MensRightsNet incel site.

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Well said!

TaRaDeBumDeAy · 02/02/2023 11:36

CoconutQueen · 02/02/2023 09:56

Mumsnet is for Mums. It's called Mumsnet. Thousands of women who may be looking at supportive threads with little ones on their laps or next to them.

What on earth are you thinking of?

Advertising revenue, as per normal.

TrashyPanda · 02/02/2023 11:35

BigSighsAllRound · 02/02/2023 10:15

As a person without a womb, but in possession of a vulva, I am offended.

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and, for the avoidance of doubt (because of that stupid line about having a womb)

you can use a vibrator after a hysterectomy

having a hysterectomy does not alter the fact that I am a woman

MN - that crap about having a womb is deeply insulting and totally ignorant. Why are you spreading misinformation?

MuckyPlucky · 02/02/2023 11:35

I’m so utterly, revoltingly disappointed in MNHQ for their weak as piss comment above. They really don’t get it, they just want to appear to appease everyone, in order to keep their business going. We’re just cattle to them (who own vulvas).

AllOutofEverything · 02/02/2023 11:35

lifeissweet · 02/02/2023 11:30

Having just come across a thread about rimming, I don't see many women on here pearl clutching about something as ordinary as masturbation or feeling that Mums having sex is a taboo. Patronising.

We choose what threads we open. I do not go on those threads. We do not choose the adverts we see.

ImprobablePuffin · 02/02/2023 11:35

Lucylock · 02/02/2023 10:37

I agree. The ad is not what I want to see here. Especially given the nonsense about vulva owners and taboos about sex. The ad comes across as condescending with all the 'made for mums' crap.

Which begs the question are mothers' clits different to childless women's clits? Am I being very stupid not knowing this?

Honestly hadn't planned on thinking about clits for so long this morning but hey ho.

AmaryllisNightAndDay · 02/02/2023 11:35

The advertisers' grasp on basic biology is as poor as their taste. I've definitely seen the body-part owners bit. And how do they imagine families happen in our taboo-ridden society? Must be the stork.

I generally just assume that adverts will go away after a while so not worth complaining. This one certainly wasn't tempting. Bleah.

itwasntmetho · 02/02/2023 11:34

I didn't know sex in Motherhood was taboo.

GoodChat · 02/02/2023 11:34

Misses the point entirely.

Noone wants to buy the product now we know it’s marketed by trans apologists.

I think you're missing the point as the main complaint that instigated the thread was OP didn't want to see vibrators.