Vibrator thread - why is that not in the sex topic?

BIWI · 2022-01-26T21:27:20+00:00

I'm sure it was moved before. Why is it back in Active Convos? What's the point of having dedicated topics if even MNHQ don't use them?! (Yes, I know - clicks = money)

Hawkins001 · 07/02/2022 19:24

@AnyFucker

You have a point there 😄 Although my sweary nickname is not emblazoned in bold capitals across the top of the page….

Seriously though, it does look tacky. If it’s meant to be “empowering” for women to have their orgasms shoved in their faces (metaphorically) you can count me out.

Keep this site for what it was founded for, and let the sex pozzy wankers find their own grubby little home

But part of doing the business is part and parcel of human nature, so why can every other topic be discussed , but heaven forbid anyone ask s for tips or advice on an adult activity and suddenly it's omg 😲 how dare x person ask such a thing.

Hawkins001 · 07/02/2022 19:21

@JustineMumsnet

Interestingly you're right about the Sex topic being excluded from Active - I've just checked - but I have to say that was news to me. Mumsnet has always been a site for adults not children, and there's certainly no watershed, so if you'd asked me I'd have said it was in Active and I don't really see why it shouldn't be given that you can hide whole topics if you don't like it in your preferences? We have a rule about not posting on the sex topic until you've been a member for 90 to deter trolls.

Well put, an adult site for adult activities of various natures.

AnyFucker · 07/02/2022 17:15

My strikeouts don’t seem to work any more

AnyFucker · 07/02/2022 17:15

That is better. I still won’t be reading it, but each to their own. —I prefer Lovehoney—

MNHQ

YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet · 07/02/2022 16:41

Hello everyone. We've changed the title of the thread to something a bit calmer: '11 best sex toys for Valentine's Day from Ann Summers'.

AdamRyan · 07/02/2022 16:33

Oh, amd also yes far less explicit threads get moved to Sex and killed by mansplainers

AdamRyan · 07/02/2022 16:33

I read the article and it extremely dull and typical Ann summers - sex toys for the male gaze . Nothing recommended looked in any way interesting - if you use sex toys, it's old hat, if you don't the title would be offputting.
I'd prefer a more normal thread title like "Find out why Mumsnetters rate Anne Summers Sex Toy Selection Box" which is a little less in your face.

AlternativePerspective · 07/02/2022 16:20

I mean, if you’re prudish and boring, just say that. People are perfectly entitled to not want to see adverts for vibrators on their timeline every time they open up mn without that meaning they’re boring.

If we must have those adverts, then can we not choose or not choose to be able to see them?

As for saying that @anyfucker wouldn’t be able to post until the watershed, that is different surely? There have certainly been instances where thread titles have been changed because having certain words in a title has been deemed to be inappropriate, or does that only count when we’re not paying mn for the privilege?

I posted a thread once after I had a dream about sleeping with my ex, it wasn’t explicit in the slightest and yet it was reported and moved to the sex topic within minutes.

AnyFucker · 07/02/2022 15:08

CaptainCabinets · 07/02/2022 14:54

@AnyFucker

You have a point there 😄 Although my sweary nickname is not emblazoned in bold capitals across the top of the page….

Seriously though, it does look tacky. If it’s meant to be “empowering” for women to have their orgasms shoved in their faces (metaphorically) you can count me out.

Keep this site for what it was founded for, and let the sex pozzy wankers find their own grubby little home

I mean, if you’re prudish and boring, just say that.

AnyFucker · 07/02/2022 14:38

You have a point there 😄 Although my sweary nickname is not emblazoned in bold capitals across the top of the page….

Seriously though, it does look tacky. If it’s meant to be “empowering” for women to have their orgasms shoved in their faces (metaphorically) you can count me out.

Keep this site for what it was founded for, and let the sex pozzy wankers find their own grubby little home

NigellaSeed · 07/02/2022 14:36

@MNHQ - I'd also like to complain - I only have promotional threads about delivery apps and baby food

MNHQ

JustineMumsnet · 07/02/2022 14:23

@AnyFucker

This is a parenting website. It’s not appropriate to have this content in such a prominent position.

Ads for sex toys are on telly after the watershed for a reason.

If there was a watershed then you'd be barred from posting till 9pm Anyfucker

MNHQ

JustineMumsnet · 07/02/2022 14:22

Interestingly you're right about the Sex topic being excluded from Active - I've just checked - but I have to say that was news to me. Mumsnet has always been a site for adults not children, and there's certainly no watershed, so if you'd asked me I'd have said it was in Active and I don't really see why it shouldn't be given that you can hide whole topics if you don't like it in your preferences? We have a rule about not posting on the sex topic until you've been a member for 90 to deter trolls.

GrandPrix · 07/02/2022 10:25

I bought one based on the recommendations!

Cheers!

AnyFucker · 07/02/2022 10:23

This is a parenting website. It’s not appropriate to have this content in such a prominent position.

Ads for sex toys are on telly after the watershed for a reason.

StationaryMagpie · 07/02/2022 10:19

i use several adult orientated chats that are 18+ and i make a point of not having them open on my social media when my kids are about.

I shouldn't need to be hiding Mumsnet from them like its a NSFW website.

StationaryMagpie · 07/02/2022 10:17

i like vibrators, i own several.

I don't need to see it plastered across the top of my webpage every time i open active convos'

please allow us to hide the damn things!!

AlternativePerspective · 07/02/2022 07:41

Hate to tell you but if you're trying to get pregnant by a vibrator, you're doing it wrong 😂

AlternativePerspective · 07/02/2022 07:40

If you know what it’s about and you know it won’t be of interest to you...just don’t click on it except you can’t just not see the thread title, and on a parenting site, plenty of posters are in the same room as their young children.

Would it be ok to advertise cock rings? Or porn sites?

If women want to find sex toys I’m sure they know where to look without having adverts shoved in their face.

Interestingly there’s a thread in AIBU about this which has come up overnight. It has a couple of hundred posts already, and 86% have voted that it’s inappropriate.

ticktockriojaoclock · 07/02/2022 07:26

the primary method for becoming a parent
Hate to tell you but if you're trying to get pregnant by a vibrator, you're doing it wrong

Hawkins001 · 06/02/2022 02:01

@CaptainCabinets

If you know what it’s about and you know it won’t be of interest to you...just don’t click on it

Excatly, it's odd, that on a parenting site, heaven forbid the primary method for becoming a parent, and somehow it's almost considered forbidden by some people that you are not ment to discuss that aspect.

CaptainCabinets · 06/02/2022 01:56

If you know what it’s about and you know it won’t be of interest to you...just don’t click on it

Original poster

BIWI · 04/02/2022 13:32

@CaptainCabinets

Self-pleasure is normal and not something that needs to be kept secret and hidden

It's not about keeping them secret or hidden. It's about these explicit threads to be in the topic to which they belong.

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Viviennemary · 04/02/2022 12:42

I see this every day and find it quite offensive. Not everyone is into that kind of thing.