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Dementors

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JemimaPuddleCat · 17/05/2020 19:21

Can you please, please ask the group of MNers that are using this term to stop coming onto CV related threads and throwing this word around? For whatever reason, they are being given carte blanche over their own series of threads which they use to mock and insult other MNers, but to continue throwing their tuppence into other threads in the Coronavirus topic screams of attention seeking.

I'm not sure why even using the term 'Dementor' to describe other posters is seen as okay, but if they'd not insert it into other conversations, this place would be a bit more pleasant at the moment.

OP posts:
userxx · 17/05/2020 21:51

@ITonyah did you go to two different supermarkets in the same week 😱

ITonyah · 17/05/2020 21:49

I got called a murdering cunt on here once .

Dementors is fine and apt. Get over yourself!

Drivingdownthe101 · 17/05/2020 21:47

I think abusing posters who are struggling, or whose children are struggling, or are asking a legitimate question about permitted activity is NITS.

ClassicCola · 17/05/2020 21:43

I think allowing a thread on MN to mock other posters on MN is NITS.

Drivingdownthe101 · 17/05/2020 21:38

Is it essential? No? Then don’t fucking do it

To someone asking a perfectly reasonable question about a perfectly legal activity.

JoeExoticsEyebrowRing · 17/05/2020 21:36

But it's also not alright to accuse another poster of being "among the foulest creatures that walk this earth".

Christ on a roller-coaster, do you honestly take everything so literally?! It's a fictional description from a children's book! I've not been on any of the dementors threads, or used the term myself, but I am agog that anyone can find this so offensive!

Destroyedpeople · 17/05/2020 21:36

Jemima you seem very dismissive.

Bluntness100 · 17/05/2020 21:35

Op,I’ve read some of your posts and let’s be honest they wouldn’t be described as pleasant would they?

I,m not really sure you get to complain if people fight back. If you give it. You need to be able to take it.

I’d maybe bear that in mind when you next post something unpleasant to someone asking a basic question.

JoeExoticsEyebrowRing · 17/05/2020 21:33

Using that term towards another poster is akin to a personal attack.

You do realise that Remus Lupin isn't real don't you?!

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JemimaPuddleCat · 17/05/2020 21:28

@Hobnobswantshernameback

I've made it clear that I'm not referring to the specific threads.
You seem very angry.

OP posts:
Hobnobswantshernameback · 17/05/2020 21:26

And you could
Radical thought
Just not read them
They are a lifeline for some of us
But some erm...dem...difficult person has to throw their toys out of the pram

Hobnobswantshernameback · 17/05/2020 21:25

One poxy thread
I've hidden swathes of this place and am an inch from buggering off for good
And having read some of your posts op
Pot
Kettle
Black

CoachBombay · 17/05/2020 21:22

Ummm I hate to point this out op, murderers are real, your local HMP has a few, not one single Dementor walks this earth 😳

The comparison doesn't really work imo.

Drivingdownthe101 · 17/05/2020 21:20

Oh come on. They’re fictional creatures from a children’s book.

wrongsideofhistorymyarse · 17/05/2020 21:19

I completely disagree. It's a way of mocking those going over the top.

An elderly man going for his paper every day was described as a selfish cunt. The site has gone mad.

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JemimaPuddleCat · 17/05/2020 21:19

@MH1111 I'm not referring to the Dementor threads. I'm referring to the comments that pop up on other threads, to accuse posters of being Dementors, for discussing concerns.

"Dementors are among the foulest creatures that walk this earth. They infest the darkest, filthiest places, they glory in decay and despair, they drain peace, hope, and happiness out of the air around them... Get too near a Dementor and every good feeling, every happy memory will be sucked out of you. If it can, the Dementor will feed on you long enough to reduce you to something like itself... soulless and evil. You will be left with nothing but the worst experiences of your life." REMUS LUPIN'S DESCRIPTION OF DEMENTORS

Using that term towards another poster is akin to a personal attack. That is against Talk Guidelines.

Of course it's not alright for someone to accuse another poster of being a murder, or to act aggressively towards them for a perceived slight in any case. But it's also not alright to accuse another poster of being "among the foulest creatures that walk this earth".

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Drivingdownthe101 · 17/05/2020 21:12

Even rule abiders have been getting the shouty/ranty posts though, as they are not abiding by that particular poster’s version of the rules.
I got 6 pages of shit from someone about going on a 2 hour walk before the easing of lockdown, despite it being perfectly within the law. Apparently I was putting 100’s of lives at risk.

KaronAVyrus · 17/05/2020 21:12

The dementors threads have been the best thing on Mumsnet for the past few weeks.

RhondaWentToRhyl · 17/05/2020 21:09

'Relentless shouty posts instructing us all to STAY AT HOME YOU ARE KILLING PEOPLE, for doing our weekly shops.'

There has been unpleasantness and intolerance regardless of whether someone is a flouter or a rule abider. I do find posts get deleted and people get suspended if they continue in their twattery though.

Shuttup · 17/05/2020 21:03

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RhondaWentToRhyl · 17/05/2020 21:00

Totally agree op. Posters should debate points like grown ups, this weird 'dementor' label is both tedious and childish.

There are many, many anxious people who may overreact to certain situations and need reassurance not mocking.

Obviously calling someone a murderer is not ok either.

Just report it, some posters running round calling others 'dementors' tend to be unpleasant posters themselves.

Destroyedpeople · 17/05/2020 20:56

Personally I find the terms used by the op ('for whatever reason' 'care blanche')really worrying and a good indication of how any dissent from the narrative is dismissed in a way that is just...chilling.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 17/05/2020 20:54

OP hope you're just as keen to report some of the vile threads in the coronavirus topic and elsewhere that have said some pretty despicable Things over the last months

OutwardBound2016 · 17/05/2020 20:51

Please report individual posts. I have done that frequently over the last few weeks mostly at posters who think it’s ok to tell people that their child deserves to die/sending your child to school is murder etc etc all found on the Covid threads.

CoachBombay · 17/05/2020 20:37

Personally I find the attacks on those struggling with their mental health, when they are being open and honest about how they are feeling far more disgusting.

When someone is at breaking point, stop, listen, be kind, or simply move on, never ever mock them for how they are feeling.