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Dementors

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JemimaPuddleCat · 17/05/2020 19:21

Can you please, please ask the group of MNers that are using this term to stop coming onto CV related threads and throwing this word around? For whatever reason, they are being given carte blanche over their own series of threads which they use to mock and insult other MNers, but to continue throwing their tuppence into other threads in the Coronavirus topic screams of attention seeking.

I'm not sure why even using the term 'Dementor' to describe other posters is seen as okay, but if they'd not insert it into other conversations, this place would be a bit more pleasant at the moment.

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HebeMumsnet · 18/05/2020 11:41

Morning, everyone.

Thanks for the comments on this thread. We've had a look at the 'dementor' threads and in general we don't think they're a problem. They seem to have been started in the spirit of support for people finding All This a bit anxiety inducing and the people referred to as 'dementors' aren't specifically others on threads but people generally, on Facebook, in the newspapers, in our lives... So we don't think that's a problem per se.

Of course if the term is being used as part of a stronger personal attack, we'd delete that as a breach of our talk guidelines so if you see that happening anywhere do hit the report button. We're always happy to take a look.

Willow2017 · 18/05/2020 10:53

Pot and kettle?
Just hide the threads if it offends your perceived right to scream murderer at people for following the actual guidelines not the ones people on mn are making up.
The hysteria on here is mindboggling. The inability for posters to recognise not everyone is the same and have different circumstances is depressing. The shouting "I hope you get it and die" for some wrongly perceived roolz breaking is vile. The amount of people who havent a clue about the actual guidelines but are screaming at people for breaking them just shows thier ignorance. They are the same whenever someone gives actual links to science proving them wrong they cant handle it they resort to name calling and CAPITAL LETTERS as if that makes them right.

The anti- dementor threads are supportive and fun a true oasis of sanity in the madness.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 18/05/2020 07:29

What a surprise
Op has vanished

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 17/05/2020 22:45

I even saw one where a poster said “milk isn’t essential when you have fucking water coming out your tap”

Ugh.

Honestly, I really doubt these people believe half of what they are posting. They just get caught up in that pile on mentality where they compete to be the most righteous.

Then they walk away from MN forgetting what they have said not knowing or caring that it's causing more harm than good.

Bluntness100 · 17/05/2020 22:30

But the dementor threads dilute the “you’re a murdering bastard if you go out” message. That message should be given free reign don’t you know?

Anything that dilutes it should be immediately banned, so some posters can continue to litter the boards with “is it essential then no don’t fucking do it” type of abusive posts. I even saw one where a poster said “milk isn’t essential when you have fucking water coming out your tap”

penguinsbegin · 17/05/2020 22:25

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ClassicCola · 17/05/2020 22:21

@Drivingdownthe101 that's fair enough then.

Greysparkles · 17/05/2020 22:19

MUUUUMMMMMM!!!
SHE CALLED ME A DEMENTOR AND I DONT LIKE IT!

well why did she do that dear

WELL I ONLY CALLED HER A SELFISH MURDERING CUUUUNNNT.
BUT THAT'S TRUE
I'M NOT REALLY A SMELLY DEMENTOR....

grow the fuck up.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 17/05/2020 22:14

The dementor threads are lifelines for those of us who need a refuge from the blindly uncritical following of all the government pronouncements, who need to be able to discuss risk in an objective fashion without being screamed at or abused, who need to be able to worry about the long term consequences of lockdown without the constant refrain of "But people are DYING", who would like to be able to discuss school reopening and which shops we'd like to see open and what holidays we'd like to go on without the gleeful screeching of how everything's going to be locked down until 2021 and how NAIVE are we for daring to hope.

That's what those threads provide - an oasis of hope amidst the competitive fucking misery spreading that so many posters absolutely revel in elsewhere on the site.

DianneWhatcock · 17/05/2020 22:12

@Drivingdownthe101

There is very very little mocking going on on those threads, if any. The vast majority are regular posters who are really struggling mentally with various aspects of the lockdown and need a slightly more optimistic outlook. Many are suffering from anxiety and found that constantly being shouted down by others was destroying them. Many people have said those threads are a lifeline. So that is ITS. If others aren’t interested, they don’t have to read them

Yes! This exactly !! 👏🏻

userxx · 17/05/2020 22:07

@ITonyah 🤣🤣 what a good guess.

Drivingdownthe101 · 17/05/2020 22:02

ClassicCola in the first thread yes, then we all agreed to keep it more general.

Clemmieandareallybigbunfight · 17/05/2020 22:02

Are you kidding op? Get a grip.

ClassicCola · 17/05/2020 22:01

They must have changed then because the last time I looked at one posters were quoting other posters and linking to threads.

Mascotte · 17/05/2020 22:00

Is this now not a thread about a thread?

Drivingdownthe101 · 17/05/2020 21:59

There is very very little mocking going on on those threads, if any. The vast majority are regular posters who are really struggling mentally with various aspects of the lockdown and need a slightly more optimistic outlook. Many are suffering from anxiety and found that constantly being shouted down by others was destroying them. Many people have said those threads are a lifeline. So that is ITS. If others aren’t interested, they don’t have to read them.

ITonyah · 17/05/2020 21:58

I've definitely also had "its people like you which means we will be in lockdown until Christmas" etc etc and thst WAS because I went to two supermarkets inONE DAY

ClassicCola · 17/05/2020 21:57

I'm not disputing that some posters are awful on the Corona threads, I'm just uncomfortable with MN allowing a thread mocking what other people post on here.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 17/05/2020 21:55

Oh my god
Can you still murder people and it not be a covid thing
Oh my god
I had no idea
Smile

ITonyah · 17/05/2020 21:53

Ha ha it was a non covid matter!!

Hobnobswantshernameback · 17/05/2020 21:53

Oh my god iTonyah you smiled and were happy
Oh my god have you no shame
Do you not understand the utter carnage you have caused

Grin
DianneWhatcock · 17/05/2020 21:53

Hahahaha 🤣

Drivingdownthe101 · 17/05/2020 21:52

userxx I think she bought a packet of non essential curly wurlies and ate them on a park bench.

Destroyedpeople · 17/05/2020 21:52

I Tonya... great movie..

Laniakea · 17/05/2020 21:51

If I can withstand ‘psycho bitch’ I’m sure others can cope with ‘dementor’.