Does MNHQ Check Our Inboxes?

There's a weird kind of vibe around the 'poaching' issue for me. Everyone is entitled to be on any site they like, whether they wish to pay for membership (in some cases) or not.

The new place is not all about MN at all, there are loads of threads on other topics just as there are here. I would suspect that some people only look for certain types of threads, just as some on here only look at certain forums.

Horses for courses 'n all.

It's all very underhand and sneaky. Fair enough set up some sort of new chat site but to copy MN and then spam it for users is a bit low IMO.

Like ‘the new site’, Tattle Life had a strategy of poaching Mumsnetters. DMs were sent. It also was set up when GuruGossip was struggling and directly copied the GG format to provide a rival place to discuss influencers and YouTubers.

The new site was deliberately set up to benefit from MN struggling and to provide a new place for its users. This is totally different from NetMums and Reddit. NetMums was set up the same year as MN, is a well known site and it’s not actively encouraging posters to come to it. Reddit may have the MN trolls sub but as a whole it’s a completely different concept.

New site*

The people on the new seem to spend all their time talking about how nice they are or bitching about MN

Apart from that there's not a lot of content.

That’s the one. Posters generally get on because they’re united in bitching about social media stars and celebs. The few posters who would disagree used to usually get called trolls and mysteriously deleted.

Is tattle life that weird place bitching about you tubers and “influencers” in minute and bizarre detail? I saw that one linked here once. If not, what is it. (Scared to google that one because of the name.)

There’s shadiness about the other site as the identity of its owner is hidden. They’re also now trying to play down the link with Tattle Life. One of the first posters on the new site is someone who used to be a moderator on TL and we’re involved in setting up TL. They started off with their TL name on the new site but have now changed it.

New sites always start off great. People form cliques, trolls join, shit stirring people join, admin change rules because they have to. It’s going to change, for better or worse.

I'm on both. There is a kinder vibe about the other place, perhaps because it's new. That doesnt mean that people dont express strong opinions though, they do, just without calling other posters fat stupid cunts. Which seems reasonable to me...

What I like about the other site (apart from having useful features) is people are speaking the way you do in real life, where as here some (not all) are pretty spiteful. This is unique to MN, you don't get such unpleasantness on tattle or MSE.

Also I'm saying "People on the site", "they". Obviously there are exceptions. Not everyone is the same. Unless you're claiming to speak for the site and know everything going on there, then never mind if you're not one of the people I'm talking about. Enjoy your part of the site with genuinely nice people enjoying a pleasant chat. Why be all defensive?

Thank you for your wise words.

I'll try to curb my naivety.

Again, if you say so. I agree you can be on both sites, don't think I said anywhere you can't. Hypocrisy is my problem and I see it there. Just stating my observation as you've stated yours. You have your perspective, I have mine. Why try to invalidate mine because you're seeing differently? Anyway, fee free to live your life.

People have "not only joined in such a short time but stayed" because it's a new site, promising heaven and earth, claiming they're not like Mumsnet and Reddit. People are curious, some have taken the bait, some genuinely want to be there but don't be naive enough to think you can compare a new site with one that's been around for ages. As I said, give it time, then see how it goes. Once they're tired of slagging off other forums, which happens to be a common interest right now. Rules are being put in place and if they grow, more rules will have to be made. That's when the problem begins. Just don't be a hypocrite, is all I'm saying. Not you, just in general.

Actually, OldRumbly, if you read my earlier posts, I am a member of both sites. I intend to stay a member of both sites and I observe the rules of both sites. There is no rule that says I can't belong to both.

I get something different from each of them.

I don't make claims that people are faking niceness and smiles because I'm not a mind reader nor do I claim on either site that "things are swept up under the carpet" because that would be a wild assertion for which I have no proof.

Join, don't join, fine either way.

By that same logic, you must wonder why so many have chosen to stay put here if Mumsnet was as vile as they make it out to be. Could it be they're wrong too? 😂

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Better stay away from the Car Crash of Compulsory Niceness and Fake Smiles then. It's just too upsetting for words.

But thank you for alerting me to the truth.

If you say so.

Only fake smiles and niceness there. People are afraid to express real opinions.

Good heavens! You must wonder why so many have not only joined in such a short time but stayed when fake smiles and niceness appear to be compulsory.

Or they could just be enjoying a pleasant chat.

Definitely not *@Fredthedoggie.

Been nosing around. Only fake smiles and niceness there. People are afraid to express real opinions. Admin seems trigger happy to censor anyone not up her/his arse or anti-mumsnet or claiming to be all about glitters and sunshine. You're welcome to slag off Mumsnet, Reddit and slebs anytime, day or night but you're not allowed to speak up about what's going wrong within the site 'community'. Some people have already been banned cos of it. Comments with differing opinions, normal arguments or ones that question the Admins are removed. It's like they're maintaining the look of perfection cos others are watching. Meanwhile things are being swept under the carpet. Some ex Mumsnet trolls about, cosying up to Admin and taking over. All a matter of time before things go belly up

*@TheCanterburyWhales your post on page two ish has reminded me I had a PM message saying removed at the poster's request quite a while ago too. Given some of my PMs are extremely personal I feel a bit alarmed and upset. Seems MNHQ expect loyalty but don't give it back .

Several of the most infamous trolls who used to post here before being kicked off (like those racist Meghan Markle nutcases) are already frequent posters over there.

I must take another look then, if it doesn't suffer from this type of ridiculous hyperbole and its members are allowed to criticise without that type of virtue shaming that's making MN increasingly nannified.

I see @ArriettyJones. Well then. I stand corrected. Although I can't see what leg they have to stand on when they're being discussed all over the world.

They are also not the same as slebs in any way. I was wrong to equate the two. I should have said other high profile individuals.

I looked at the “new” forum and it seems like it’s mostly banned MNers. Several of the most infamous trolls who used to post here before being kicked off (like those racist Meghan Markle nutcases) are already frequent posters over there.

Racists and trolls? I’ll be giving it a miss, ta.