not to understand why Mumsnet deletes threads?

It often happens when it doesn't go the way OPs want. So they get it deleted rather than accept they are unreasonable. MN used to say no. Now they just delete.

PattiStanger

Because it’s happened to me.

I was reading the thread about the SIL not buying niece a Christmas present then it disappeared!

sometimes most of the threads I have in my watch list are deleted!

It's not been so bad recently, but it does go through phases of folks posting, regretting and threads being deleted as "identifying" when there's no way in the world anything identifying has been posted.

How do you know pooleyspooley?

Maybe you had to plead but maybe others simply ask and it's done. No user would know what happens behind the scenes

Some posters think they are super sleuths here and turn it into a courtroom or bring up previous threads which is also shitty.

I agree. Also previously banned posters. The other day there was an interesting thread where OP hadn’t even come back after the original post. 5 or so pages of discussion vanished because OP was a PBP. Why not ban the poster again but leave the thread that people have invested time in?

Plus the removal at OP request when the thread isn’t going how they want is infuriating.

MN is very heavily moderated, feels a bit like users are treated as children sometimes.

Perhaps the posters in question are worried about the thread being picked up by real life people they know? Or even silly news articles.

It's that persons life at the end of the day and if they want it removed, then they want it removed.

I think sometimes on threads people stop offering 'advice' and start using it as entrainment, which is fair enough on some threads but on some not so much.
A recent thread I was watching people were writing 'watching for reaction/answer' or whatever and I thought it was a bit shitty TBH considering the context of the original poster.

I don't mind them being deleted tbh (unless I have just crafted a really well thought-out response and the thread goes before I have time to post).

They don’t just remove them - you have to really plead.

People seem to like “outing” people who have changed username because they have been outed.

Maybe some people don't realise what a nest of vipers AIBU can be, before they post. If you're getting personally attacked, (like the lady re the newborn baby being dropped ), I can understand why they would request it gets taken down.

I find it really annoying. If a thread is attracting offensive remarks, why not just remove the posters concerned?

Even if they think it's not true, does it matter? How much on here isn't true? I bet the best car parking threads are made up but they are massively entertaining.

That's pretty much what does happen nowadays, the op is getting a hard time so they ask for the thread to go.

What used to happen once in a blue moon now happens every day

I was thinking almost exactly the same thing.

In that case, surely any OP could request removal if people weren't agreeing with them?
which is exactly what seems to be happening. And then threads that are obvious trolls/begging/other things are allowed to stand for ages until HQ suddenly decides to "take a look behind the scenes" and it disappears for good.