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Shocked at some MN responses

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Welshmum16 · 04/11/2018 08:06

I'll probably get shot down for this but I needed to say it,

I have only joined this site recently and have read a few threads now but I am shocked at how some users are treating others.

Some posts are just rude and not called for, surely if you have nothing constructive to say don't post a response.

I do think some posters need to read their post before pressing 'post'

You can still put you view across without being disrespectful, rude and abusive to the original poster.

OP posts:
FermatsTheorem · 04/11/2018 08:22

Well you could do what I did in similar circs.

I joined an online writers' group. I'm a feminist. They turned out to want to write like Barbara Cartland. As you can imagine, this wasn't a good fit. Now I could have hung around and been outspokenly feminist - but in this particular context, a group set up by like minded individuals rather than an open political discussion group - that would have been trolling behaviour on my part. So I left and joined a group where I was a better fit.

I'd try Netmums or Baby center (latter is a kind of middle ground -less sparkly tickers than NM) if I were you.

Robust argument, politics and swearing allowed is kind of MN's USP. You aren't going to change that (and believe me you aren't the first to make this complaint - threads like this pop up with monotonous regularity).

NoSquirrels · 04/11/2018 08:22

OP - you’ll see from the above posts that an increasing number of MN posters just seem to love being arsey for the fun of it

See, I think those first couple of responses are very funny! Grin

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Welshmum16 · 04/11/2018 08:21

Perhaps it's just the threads I have been reading but I have seen some personal attacks to op when the replied does not the person and the roles have nothing to do with original post.

I like the site but am just shocked by some replies.

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SuperstarDJ · 04/11/2018 08:19

OP - you’ll see from the above posts that an increasing number of MN posters just seem to love being arsey for the fun of it Hmm

CaptainKirksSpookyghost · 04/11/2018 08:19

It's what the site is famous for.

redwineandcrisps · 04/11/2018 08:17

In the nicest possible way, if this site isn’t for you, why not just click away and move on? Why start a thread?! It obviously works for some people (I’ve been here 8 years now) if it’s not for you, no problems, just go somewhere that is without making a fuss!

FissionChips · 04/11/2018 08:16

Blah blah... .

NoSquirrels · 04/11/2018 08:13

What would you like MNHQ to do about it, though?

The site is moderated very well - no personal attacks are allowed. So do report anything you think is against the rules.

But it is a discussion site - people post knowing they’ll get a range of opinions and no one is obliged to be “nice”.

I’m pretty nice in general, but I don’t like the expectation that I have to be because it’s the only way.

If you read enough threads before you post - as you’ve done - you’ll realise it’s a straight-talking, somewhat sweary, opinionated place. Up to you then if you hang around or not...

TanteRose · 04/11/2018 08:12

Honestly, MN isn’t compulsory - just find another site that is better suited to your personality, there’s the whole Internet out there

HTH
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JiltedJohnsJulie · 04/11/2018 08:08

Have you wondered over from Netmums by mistake?

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