Shocked at some MN responses

shame shes still at it

Ilike this den of vipers too.

But I don't like the''you're all bitches" threads

Helena that’s pretty shit. I’ve noted Ginger on a thread recently, and not in a “ooh, reasoned debate* way. Have you reported as a personal attack?

Love Mumsnet. There are some things that make me for example, some nice lady couldn’t find her passport before leaving for the airport. She made a post saying people might want to check on their passport and not expect it to be in the draw you left it in last year. Well she got fucking hammered. “We aren’t children” “thanks for reminding me how to be a grown up” and all that shit. So unnecessary. Those are the sort of posts on here that people try to out do each other’s “funny”

One problem we do suffer from is that many users come via AIBU and sometimes carry on the rather 'robust' form of speech that is very common on that sub-forum over into other sub-fora. Like this one! I'm just reporting a couple of the more unpleasant (and asinine) comments upthread now.

"I would rather be called a twat than hun."

Me, too.

OP - Don't like it? Don't read it.

I love MN for its straight talking. It's a rare place for some intelligent discussion on the internet (not every thread I grant you).
Sometimes some replies leave me open mouthed and some make me laugh in their rudeness. Some are just stubbornly being rude about a weird tiny aspect of the OP's posts.

But it's all part of it.

Because women must always be polite and gentle?

Surely everyone should be polite not just women. You can disagree with someone and still communicate in a polite manner. This should also be the case in real life.

OP I think you just have to hope that posters are giving the worst they can on here and not in the real world.

You're not wrong, I've seen an increase of passive aggressive, spiteful posts which set out to humiliate the OP. They often get 'called out', ignored or reported though which probably winds them up even more.

I would rather be called a twat than hun.

People can be unpleasant - but you can change the direction of comments by defending the op if you feel she is being badly treated. I think what often happens is that the first one or two comments direct the way things will go, with a bit of a pile on or lots of sympathy, then someone will come along with a totally opposing view and change the direction of the thread. Lots of comments are just saying the same thing as the previous commentators - and the whole tone of the thread can be changed by a different viewpoint.

People will always disagree and many posters are better at reading between the lines than others - I tend to take things at face value which is often wrong. I find that out later in the thread!

If you think someone is behaving badly towards a poster on a thread, call them out. If you are right, it’s very likely others will agree with you.

I think we have one of these threads started every couple of weeks or so. It is a tad tiresome.

Like I said I don't mind the difference of opinion that is what you come here for it the rudeness and personal attacks I am takin about

But what would you like anyone to DO about it?

Posters who are as you describe aren’t going to give a shiny shit what you think, so they’re not going to change their ways or read this and think “Hmm, I should be nicer”.

Some posters have failed to read the thread.
Personal attacks are wrong.

Never used to be so openly abusive and lame to see the have you wandered in from netmums post

Keep off aibu op

"Some posts are just rude and not called for, surely if you have nothing constructive to say don't post a response."

Because women must always be polite and gentle?

“ luv ma man an ma bubs. Get it right FFS*.

I have one if these on FB. It’s hilarious especially as she spent so long banging on in the office about how awful he was for months when they were split up, then panicking over who was the father of her baby when they got back together. Now it’s multiple posts about how he is her life

Some posts are just rude and not called for, surely if you have nothing constructive to say don't post a response.

See. That says ‘stop being a bunch of bitches’

kristinaM
Or hubs and bubs

I just joined a nut/peanut anaphylaxis group in light of the recent epipen shortage and after about three days I realised that it was not for me. At all. So I left

What could have been so bad on a peanut allergy forum?

As for the ops question it does rather depend on the bit of the forum you are on.

As it is I love it here. I love the robustness. I love that for once we don’t have to be nice because we are women. I love the women who sent me flowers when I lost my baby. I love that people get huge support when the worst things you can imagine are happening in their lives.

I would rather have the vitriol of MN than the faux "my kids are my life" twee huns on the other site

I think you’ll find it’s “ luv ma man an ma bubs*. Get it right FFS