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Deleted for calling someone out on gender stereotyping

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Feenie · 06/04/2018 11:16

Absolutely appalled. I called a poster out for posting the worst kind of gender stereotyping bollocks (possibly exact words) and was deleted.

Wtaf?

I didn't contravene any guidelines, unless we 're adding swearing now. I merely said that the post was 'a load of gender stereotyping bollocks'. Which it was. That was it. Which guidelines does that contravene? I'm very happy to be deleted if required, but come on!

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paxillin · 06/04/2018 12:56

Stereotyping is bollocks though, and that should be said.

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Feenie · 06/04/2018 12:50

So pissed off. Have reposted my feelings on said thread, sans bollocks.

Reads much worse and is much less succinct, imo.

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PalePinkSwan · 06/04/2018 12:44

There is a thread title using the phrase “load of bollocks” in active conversations - no issue with that?

PalePinkSwan · 06/04/2018 12:41

MNHQ, have you been drinking the kool-aid? When did it become unacceptable to challenge gender stereotyping on here? That’s not an aggressive sounding post at all, I see much worse on here.

shakeyourcaboose · 06/04/2018 12:35

Bollocks is aggressive? I see it as as providing emphasis when something is particularly ridiculous!

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Feenie · 06/04/2018 12:33

The advice was v good. The accompanying 'boy learners' inevitably do this, that and the other was awful, and has no place in education today.

The post is from an ex-teacher.

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Original poster
Feenie · 06/04/2018 12:29

We had been asked to take a look at your post by the person who had written their advice on educating boys, and when we read it we did agree with them that your post was a bit much. We did swither a bit, to be fair, but the 'bollocks' tipped us over the edge. Not because it's swearing (as you know we are pretty lax about that sort of thing) just because it struck an unusually aggressive tone under the circumstances, given the other poster was just trying to support a child's learning. So, not in the spirit, really, hence the deletion.

We hope that explains our thinking.

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CoteDAzur · 06/04/2018 12:26

Why could the answer not be public?

I would also be interested in understanding how exactly Talk Guidelines are now being interpreted at present.

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Feenie · 06/04/2018 12:22

As have I!

Thanks for the reply, but far from happy, as you know.

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MNHQ
YetAnotherHelenMumsnet · 06/04/2018 12:20

Thanks, Feenie, we have replied!

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Feenie · 06/04/2018 11:37

Thank you - I've done exactly that.

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MNHQ
SophieLMumsnet · 06/04/2018 11:21

Hi @feenie, we're always happy to explain deletions. Could you drop us a line about this at [email protected] with a link to the thread you're referring to, please? Then we can get back to you and chat through it.

Thanks Flowers

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