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Deleted for calling someone out on gender stereotyping

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Feenie · 06/04/2018 11:16

Absolutely appalled. I called a poster out for posting the worst kind of gender stereotyping bollocks (possibly exact words) and was deleted.

Wtaf?

I didn't contravene any guidelines, unless we 're adding swearing now. I merely said that the post was 'a load of gender stereotyping bollocks'. Which it was. That was it. Which guidelines does that contravene? I'm very happy to be deleted if required, but come on!

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shakeyourcaboose · 06/04/2018 22:17

@smeaton horrified by your aggressive use of balderdash inspired by an episode of Hey Duggee l think you should use 'blueberries' as in 'oh blue berries l have smashed my head on that shelf' much less threatening Grin

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 06/04/2018 22:16

What is the spirit? Can we have a clear ruling on that, please, MNHQ, so we all know where we stand?

In this case, are we saying that gender stereotyping is in the spirit of MN, but challenging it isn’t? Have I understood that correctly? Because that’s what I glean from this thread.

shakeyourcaboose · 06/04/2018 22:14

So what is the 'spirit of mumsnet' ? As before, still struggling how a poster challenging 'boys do'.. saying this is stereoyping bollocks Is aggressive, yet 'you are a cunt' stands.

Original poster
Feenie · 06/04/2018 22:12

Grin Grin

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Smeaton · 06/04/2018 22:08

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

GreenEyedGoose · 06/04/2018 21:43

I'm getting a bit annoyed by 'not in the spirit' bollocks myself.

I agree Dippy the moderation is not consistent.

user789653241 · 06/04/2018 21:38

I have commented on the said thread, but I did get exactly what Feenie meant. Not attacking the actual poster, but appalled by the gender stereo typing comment by the poster. I was quite shocked to see Feenie's post being deleted, while other poster's comment stand. I was offended by the post, as a mother of a boy.

Original poster
Feenie · 06/04/2018 21:36

Nope.

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WorraLiberty · 06/04/2018 21:04

Since when do MNHQ tell posters who reported their post? I thought that was confidential?

Or did the person say on the thread that they were reporting you Feenie?

Coconutspongexo · 06/04/2018 20:55

How is calling something bollocks too much/an attack/aggressive etc? It’s just not.

There’s no consistency in the moderation

Original poster
Feenie · 06/04/2018 20:44

The poster posts mainly on the primary board.

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ForgetMeNotCat · 06/04/2018 20:31

Oh i saw that post and rolled my eyes as it all applied to my daughter. Glad you called them out on it. Another eye roller i see is "Girls are bitches."

CrochetBelle · 06/04/2018 20:26

Was it a known poster who reported your comment?

BIWI · 06/04/2018 20:12

I wonder how many of the MNHQ community team have ever been MNetters?

There seems to be an increasing divide between what goes on with them and the decisions that are made, and what posters think is acceptable.

CaptainKirkssparetupee · 06/04/2018 14:56

HQ are currently about as crap as they have ever been, this isn't new.

shakeyourcaboose · 06/04/2018 14:48

Agree himalaya and feenie 'what a load of bollocks' is an opinion, (rightly so here!) l am v confused as to how this is aggressive when posts on other threads where someone is being directly called a cunt stands?

himalayansalt · 06/04/2018 13:58

I would say you got it wrong on this occasion MN.

AndhowcouldIeverrefuse · 06/04/2018 13:52

Exactly paxilin

paxillin · 06/04/2018 13:50

Yes, it can. It leaves the possibility of deleting anything at will.

AndhowcouldIeverrefuse · 06/04/2018 13:48

"It's a bit much" and "it's not really in the spirit" can cover pretty much anything.

Original poster
Feenie · 06/04/2018 13:45

For clarification, my exact words were 'What a load of gender stereotyping bollocks!'

It was.

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CoteDAzur · 06/04/2018 13:44

"That's bollocks" is not a personal attack, either. I would really like some clarification on what constitutes "a bit much" and why we are now not allowed to be this "a bit much".

paxillin · 06/04/2018 13:42

The talk guidelines need updating. The most important one is missing: "don't out other mnetters in RL". It should be a given, but also be said.

Guidelines are fine as long as a forum has 200 members, one can get away with "don't be an arse". They are very hazy:

  1. No personal attacks
  2. No posts that break the law
  3. No trolling, misleading or deliberately inflammatory behaviour
  4. No trollhunting
  5. No spamming

2 and 5 are clear. 1 can be open to interpretation, attacking gender stereotyping isn't personal in my opinion. 3 should by my interpretation include nc to goadyfuck and reverses. 4 is tolerated at times, earns lifetime bans for others.

CoteDAzur · 06/04/2018 13:13

MNHQ - I'm honestly very confused by your recent stance on interpreting the Talk Guidelines. "Your post was a bit much" means nothing at all to me Confused What does "a bit much" mean?

Also, is "bollocks" a word that shall not be mentioned on here from now on? It seems an arbitrary line in the sand on a site where far more graphic words are routinely posted.

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Feenie · 06/04/2018 12:59

First line:

He's a boy and sadly for you, boys tend to treat this test as being very dull.

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