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Deleted for calling someone out on gender stereotyping

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Feenie · 06/04/2018 11:16

Absolutely appalled. I called a poster out for posting the worst kind of gender stereotyping bollocks (possibly exact words) and was deleted.

Wtaf?

I didn't contravene any guidelines, unless we 're adding swearing now. I merely said that the post was 'a load of gender stereotyping bollocks'. Which it was. That was it. Which guidelines does that contravene? I'm very happy to be deleted if required, but come on!

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JaneyEJones · 15/04/2018 13:25

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Feenie · 15/04/2018 11:54

Interesting, Empress - thanks for that.

Read the article, Jayne. You are still missing several points.

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EmpressOfJurisfiction · 15/04/2018 01:40

Stood. Past tense.

Or maybe not.. Read this & cheer, Feenie. It's an open access link.

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/mumsnet-founder-justine-roberts-transgender-activists-try-to-curb-free-speech-on-site-z3sr3nf6q?shareToken=ade388be59ac427155003eff83c5158c

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Feenie · 15/04/2018 01:38

Lets

Fucking autocorrect.

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Feenie · 15/04/2018 01:37

Jayne - most respectfully - even your use of the term 'mods' let's me know that you have no idea what MN ever stood for.

Stood. Past tense.

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JaneyEJones · 14/04/2018 12:00

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Coconutspongexo · 14/04/2018 11:52

You’re missing the point - they’re allowing people to post sterotypes and offensive sometimes racist posts but you can’t call any of them bollocks because that’s a step too far? It’s ridiculous

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Feenie · 14/04/2018 11:41

'Modding'? Have you been here long, Janey?

Besides which, that was exactly my point - that MN used to be a place where you could call out gender stereotyping as bluntly as you liked. Now, it appears you have to politely explain why such a practice is complete and utter total bollocks.

But this is MN. I shouldn't have to.

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JaneyEJones · 14/04/2018 11:40

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Coconutspongexo · 14/04/2018 11:36

Janey with her ‘go elsewhere’ shout again .. snooze.

If the guidelines were consistent and clear it would make a mssive difference to the forum

JaneyEJones · 14/04/2018 11:12

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Lweji · 14/04/2018 07:37

Rubbish.

I should report this. How dare you become so confrontational in reply to my helpful post?
MNHQ, I'm awaiting deletion.

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Feenie · 13/04/2018 23:57

Nawwww - I miss Olivia’s ‘ahems’. They were usually very timely, and I proper never said ‘What??!!!’ when she did them. 😄😪

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CoteDAzur · 13/04/2018 19:35

"There's a subtle difference. The second says the pp is probably not an arse but they should be careful because they're acting like one."

Rubbish. Everyone knows that the second ("Your post makes you look like an arse") actually means to say "You are an arse" but doesn't so it won't be deleted.

It's a farce.

EmpressOfJurisfiction · 13/04/2018 15:18

I haven't seen Olivia or her eyebrows for some time now.

Lweji · 13/04/2018 15:05

What happened to "ahem"?

It's all deletions now.

yawning801 · 13/04/2018 15:03

One of my threads got deleted a while back because "this thread isn't going a very nice way" or some bollocky excuse like that. Not a peep from MNHQ as to a proper reason why it was deleted. It was not a goady thread by any stretch of the imagination, and it was a serious question! I'm still miffed about that one.

And I notice that nobody from MNHQ has answered my question from yesterday...

NotAgainYoda · 13/04/2018 13:41

Maybe this would suffice:

"What you just posted could be construed by an objective observer as gender stereotyping bollox"

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Feenie · 13/04/2018 10:05

Thanks irvine.

Showofhands, that doesn't sound like me at all, oh no. Well, alright. maybe just the next twelve years or so.....

Grin
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Lweji · 13/04/2018 09:45

You see, in my mind there is absolutely no difference between You are an arse because you just said that and Your post makes you sound like an arse. She is called an arse either way.

There's a subtle difference.
The second says the pp is probably not an arse but they should be careful because they're acting like one.
Address the behaviour.

sashh · 13/04/2018 09:36

Well I have now gone and looked at the post which is gender stereotyping. And in my opinion the advise given could apply to many children, some of whom will be boys.

Thinking that all boys learn in the same way, are bored by the same things, and all act the same is, big fat hairy bollox

Having suffered through a girls school run be nuns where certain subjects were not even taught because they were 'boys' subjects' in the 1980s I had hoped things wold have moved on.

WillowWept · 13/04/2018 08:05

"Unfortunately you have a boy "

WillowWept · 13/04/2018 08:05

What a bizarre decision....

How on earth anyone can decide that saying "that's gender stereotyping bollocks"

in response to someone saying

"Unfortunately you have a bit" Shock

ShowOfHands · 13/04/2018 08:02

I have had a single post deleted in 15 years of using MN and I am still raging about it. I was categorically right and MNHQ were wrong. It's been years now and I am not over it. It was a v similar situation where I rightly corrected a poster on a thread and they whined about it to OriginalHelen. I will not forget it. Neither should you Feenie. I suggest you spend the next ten years being mildly pissed off whenever you remember this