Rules around banning?

What if the PM was just auto text - "check your email for an important message from MNHQ" say?

I agree with Bumbley.

That's twice now, blimey!

Not talking about myself here but I can see that some people - when they think they are the ones in the right - they could think the isn't aimed at them but at the other 'side'. So I think in those type of situations (if not all as all would be a PITA) a PM might help diffuse it?

Thanks for the explanation, Rebecca - hmm, doesn't sound easy to fix but it does seem like just emailing may not really be fit for purpose nowadays, both because of the 'jeffrey' thing and also people using pads or phones for mn which they might not pick up their email on.

Thanks Rebecca.

Could you not still send a PM separately though? I know it's probably extra hassle but I think it might help defuse things before they get too heated on threads. Sometimes the 'Ahem' on a thread is enough of a warning for people to settle down a bit or rethink how they're posting but even that isn't always given. Just finding yourself unable to post with no warning or explanation seems a bit unfair.

Yy bumbley. My mn email address is literally just for mn and twitter now!

I'm an attempt to get the thread back on track...

MNHQ, could you explain why you can't contact us via PM as well as sending us an email? Since the whole Jeffrey thing I think more people are using random email addresses rather than ones that they would check regularly.

I have no interest in discussing your individual posts or your experience of MN, TB

My posts are general observations and not aimed at you or about you.

What insensitivity?

And what whatsapp group? I didn't mention one in this thread??

Bob- how's your WhatsApp group feeling about this thread? All highly amused as usual?

I think we're supposed to gasp in horror and fall over ourselves to apologize for our lack of sensitivity............

the autism in me Seriously?

Wtf did I did wrong now!!!

What, repeating your point over and over? Yes it can appear goady and grounds for deletion. Fine balance between getting your point across and appearing to harangue and derail.

Yeah I totally get that.

But that FWR aside (which I think should be reinstated tbh), it isn't like I am blindly restating the same thing over and over. I am actually just responding to different points, which is what a discussion should be.
If people just make one point and then move onto the next thread, that isn't a discussion but just a place for people to make one point.

Or am I expecting too much from mumsnet? (I genuinely enjoy debate and run debate clubs at school with P4C being my absolute favourite lesson to 'teach' by a mile)

the autism in me Seriously?

What, repeating your point over and over? Yes it can appear goady and grounds for deletion. Fine balance between getting your point across and appearing to harangue and derail.

Really?

It can also appear that way to MNHQ when it is reported.

I don't see it as going on and on, I see it as responding. See you posted and I felt a need to respond. It is the autism in me!

See I did it again, I'm off!!!!

I do have an issue in that I am like a dog with a bone when I think I am right. It is something I am working on.

Yup, that sounds about right. To other posters, it can translate as being goady and 'merailing' which is a PITA when they want to move a discussion on. Make your point, some people agree, some disagree - then don't keep going on and on about it. Like you're doing here now.

And on that note, I am off from posting on this thread until it gets back on topic

ah, thanks.

No, they spread because it is uncomfortable to sit with your legs closed. Because on a bus you can't put your hands down your pants to re-arrange things :p

That thing some men do on public transport, hutAnother. Spreading their legs to take up as much space as possible.

What's manspreading?