Delurked a few days ago.
I used to support TAs. I'm a lefty of course, I believe you should let people live and let live, that people should have equal rights, and that oppressed people need to be liberated and helped by showing solidarity. I used to say "gender is preformative" without knowing what it meant because I wanted to show solidarity.
Then one day I was told I'm not a real woman by a MtT because I never felt like a woman and he always had. I was a tomboy and he had always liked pink dresses. I didn't know what "feeling like a woman" was supposed to be, so he told me I was A-gender and that he was more of a woman than I was.
I doubted my material reality for a year. Maybe I was A-gender? Maybe I was a man trapped in a woman's body? I always enjoyed typically boyish activities as a child and hated being a girl, after all. Who wants to wear uncomfortable tights and be forced to play with dollies? It properly fucked me up until I realised:
"No, this is gas-lighting"
I am a woman because I am a human adult female. I do not "identify" as such. Society treats me as a second class citizen because of my biology.
Gender is not "innate". It is not "preformative". It is "prescribed" by patriarchal notions of masculinity and femininity and is an oppressive tool to put us all, but especially women, into boxes into which we will never fit. They are ill fitting clothes. They erase diversity and personality into bland hegemony.
People should be free to push the boundaries and, ultimately, try to break down the bars of the jail called "gender" in which we have sent to. I support trans people in doing so. But we are all born male or female, and I see nothing progressive or liberating coming out in denying that.
A man is a human adult male.
A woman is a human adult female.
There is no such thing as a lesbian with a penis.
I am Spartacus.