Wedding dress thread

Really it is ok. I fully understand her wanting the perfect dress, we all would, and I'm not at all bothered she changed it again. The changes were to a different version of what I did - not beaded, and simpler than the sleeves I added, and she looked beautiful. I was on the right lines I guess, just not perfect.

It's ok. Really, it is.

How disappointing! Shame you've been deleted and blocked on FB too. All you did was offer kindness.

She deserves 'harsh' as far as I am concerned. If you are that picky, and difficult to please, don't drag innocent bystanders in to your drama. She should have engaged and PAID another professional seamstress to work to her specifications instead of taking advantage of the kindness of a a busy stranger.

There's nowt so queer as folk

Sorry to hear the outcome but don't be disheartened ilove as you brightened things up for a lot of people on here, myself included, so thank you for that.

Oh what a disappointing and sad update :(

I feel crapartist handled things really badly tbh, considering you had made it clear all along that if she wasn't happy with the alterations then you would be ok with that.

I actually got goosebumps reading the original thread, as it really did feel like it was MN at its best, so it's a huge shame it's gone sour.

You did an absolutely fantastic job on the dress ilove I can't imagine how it could have looked any nicer! It's just a huge shame this has made you wary of helping people in the future.

Hope you feel a bit better after your b12 injection

Glad she was in contact and you got some closure. She definitely could have handled it better but I don't think she deserves to be slagged off by other posters here. She probably felt absolutely awful that she'd taken up your time and didn't like the alterations and tried to hide it from you that she'd changed them. I thought they were great but it's not my wedding dress or one of the biggest days of my life.

I am shocked at what a self-centered ingrate the bride turned out to be, after stirring up all that drama and taking up a large part of a stranger's weekend. Unbelievable.
Incredibly harsh. She probably felt really awful about it. It is awkward to turn around and say "oh sorry you've spent all weekend doing that but I don't actually like it" after someone has gone to so much effort. You shouldn't have to wear a wedding dress you don't love to save someone's feelings.

The daily mail can sod off.

Just replying to gardener above, I honestly don't see myself as anything any different to 99% of other folk, I certainly don't think I'm special at all. In fact I'm quite sure I'm a right royal PITA most of the time, haha! Currently at the Gp waiting for my B12 injection - missing my usual get up and go!

What you did ilove was such a lovely gesture. Regardless of the outcome you showed that there are some really special people out there.

The irony is the deleting and blocking now makes this classic Daily Mail fodder.

Just wanted to add ilove that I too was inspired by you and all you do, I have since made changes in my life after thinking about you.
I wonder if you realise that the
thread was so much bigger than a wedding dress and alterations.

Really sad to read this update, I saw the original dress but not the alterations you did ilove - I really, really hope this doesn't put you off being such a wonderful human being to others too. We could all learn a thing or two from you.

I'm glad she eventually messaged to explain though. What did you do to the dress and then what did she change?

I'm taking all 8 Belarussian children to the dentist on Friday, then on Saturday I've booked an ice rink for them, and on Monday it's the seaside! Can't wait to see their faces when they see the sea for the first (probably only) time in their lives

Wow Ilove you truly are one in a million. You were incredibly kind and generous to crapartist and the way you have handled the block on Facebook is so very admirable.

My thoughts are that she has been absolutely hounded to death by the press and gone into shut down mode. She'll be so exhausted from wedding stress now that her big day is over, give her plenty of time to recover, enjoy her honeymoon and then I dearly hope in time she will explain her self better to you than just the quick exchange you've had today.
Keep being your amazing self

I only lurked a bit on that thread as I didn't see it until it was all done with but you did such a amazing thing ilove and have taken it so so well far better than I would have. Even if crap did feel awkward, it was a pretty shitty thing to delete and block you!

Ilove you really are superwoman- looking after your family, fostering and Chernobyl not to mention helping strangers on the internet. I am in awe of you. A reminder for the rest of us who are "too busy" to pull our socks up and try a little harder to reach out to those around us. This is so true cookie.

Several times over the last couple of manic weeks of the school year I've caught myself starting to whinge, thought of ilove and pulled myself together .

I would be interested to know what she changed too as you had done a beautiful job.

Deleted and blocked you ilove

You're going to get soooooo much good karma

What a shame that lovely thread got deleted and it's all gone sour. I thought crap looked great. Ilove you did an amazing thing for a stranger on the Internet. I imagine it is awkward for her to say she wasn't fully happy and wanted to alter it but she's right in that she could have handled it better. Glad she's been in contact with you though.
I saw the pics after you'd done your thing - What did she change?

Ilove you really are superwoman- looking after your family, fostering and Chernobyl not to mention helping strangers on the internet. I am in awe of you. A reminder for the rest of us who are "too busy" to pull our socks up and try a little harder to reach out to those around us.

Have a wonderful summer.

You're all lovely, Thankyou. The lovely woolly hugs folk are still happy to be go between for anyone who still wants to donate for the children - I don't expect anyone to send anything of course, I'm onlys saying because I've been asked a couple of times xxx

ilove I agree with a PP, Mumsnet as a whole is proud of you!

You did a wonderful thing and a fantastic job too, above that you managed to raise a lot of money for a very worthy cause. You really do have a heart of gold

I think that's a bit mean! The dress really did look awful on her after what the first dressmaker had done.

I think insulting crapartist is a bit low from people. I reckon it's precisely because she was grateful and aware of the time spent etc etc that she just didn't know how to handle not liking it. And if you can't be self absorbed on your wedding day when can you? She said she handled it badly. I think there should be a bit of putting yourself in her shoes before calling her names.

I love what ilove did. It is so rare sadly, and the dress looked fabulous afterwards. The result was hurtful, but doesn't take away from what she did so selflessly.

It's ok, honestly. I enjoyed doing it