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Adult Adoptees - Dedicated Section Under Talk Topics

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Humsta · 15/04/2016 15:27

Would anyone be interested in a dedicated Adult Adoptees Section under the talk topics? Being one myself I haven't been very successful in finding support online, except for posting in mumsnet. This did provoke interest from people in a similar position to me as well as adopters / potential adopters who are interested in our experiences.

I'm happy to go into details about my past but think at this stage mumsnet wants to gauge how much use it would actually get. There must be a lot of us adult adoptees on this planet, however, I know very few people in day-to-day life who share experiences similar to me and it can really help to share..so what do you think?

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jellyfishschool · 17/04/2016 13:54

I was thinking of doing a post in AIBU, linking this thread and the one in adoption - good idea? Some people might not to get involved immediately but might want it to be in place for whenever in the future, and so it would be good for them just to register a "yes please".

I have gone back and read threads in Adoption and there are quite a few posts by adoptees over time who only got maybe one or two responses of support, and also a few where adoptees give advice (although sometimes not for long...) so hopefully it is just a matter of bumping until more people notice.

Humsta I remember writing something which was found and got me into a lot of trouble too. I have the funny feeling my dc will grow up to speak as they find, rather than write it down! Not sure if that is better or not....

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Humsta · 16/04/2016 23:04

Wooah...interesting section in Primal Wound 'arts, poetry, music and dance' about how adopted children can express themselves creatively - it reminds me of a time I must have been about 11-13 and I wrote a poem about my mum along the lines of 'sometimes I love her but most times I hate her...' It ended rhyming I think she's a piece of sh*t, awful I know! Anyway it got worse because I knew I'd get in trouble if it got found by my adopted mum...so I hid it in my slipper which seemed like a great idea at the time. Unfortunately around the same time my adopted grandparents were over and my mum lent my Nan my slippers...you can guess how well that went down. I was accused of leaving it there deliberately and in hindsight I guess I could have ripped it into tiny shreds but maybe the message was for my mother - just not the one I was living with...

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FruStefanOla · 16/04/2016 22:15

Humsta, I think there are many adult adoptees on MN - I've certainly been on a few threads (not in the Adoption topic) which have had a fair number of posters who are adopted, or whose OHs are adopted.

We just need more of them to see this thread to join in your petition to MNHQ to give us our own topic!

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Humsta · 16/04/2016 18:56

Even if were unsuccessful I guess the fact that a few of us have linked up on this thread means we can post here as and when we like. I'm 2/3rds through the Primal Wound and am finding it very validating. I don't think I'll finish it and not care about adoption anymore but I feel - not to sound cheesy - on the beginning of the right path to wellbeing, and you posters are part of that process 😊

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FruStefanOla · 16/04/2016 15:56

Yes I would like a separate topic for Adult Adoptees.

I am an adult adoptee.

Although the Adoption topic is great, it's not really for us.

Good call, Humsta Flowers

jellyfishschool · 15/04/2016 20:28

Just a quick post to say that I would be really keen on this. Will post again (v busy day!)