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'We don't normally delete whole threads but we will do so when it is to protect a poster's privacy.'

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BoreOfWhabylon · 02/01/2016 12:47

Yet another thread gone with this given as the reason when the thread in no way compromised the OP's privacy. Unless of course there is only one ambulance in the entire country?

I've noticed this happening with increasing frequency. What's going on MNHQ?

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IPityThePontipines · 09/01/2016 11:03

Every - lots of people engaged and gave lots of their personal history too.

I'd agree they did a good job coming across as eloquent too, which makes me think they've done a lot of previous trolling here. Sad

EverySecondCounts · 08/01/2016 20:21

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IPityThePontipines · 07/01/2016 19:39

Usually my trolldar is good, but I was surprised by that one. That was a very manipulative thread and it won't have been their first troll thread, either.

Pipbin · 07/01/2016 17:51

Was that one a troll? Bloody hell people troll about some shite. Seriously, why would you make that up?

maketheworldgoaway · 07/01/2016 14:27

Ipity. Yes, I suspected it was a troll but SO many posters were saying 'aw if you're upset just get MN to delete this thread'. No!

IPityThePontipines · 07/01/2016 14:23

Make - was that the family tree homework thread? The deletion message seemed to imply hairy hands were at work...

maketheworldgoaway · 07/01/2016 10:49

This is SO annoying and shouldn't happen IMO.

A thread was just deleted due to OP being a troll but before this was discovered, so many posters were advising 'ask MNHQ to delete this if it's upsetting you'. No!

If there is a genuine risk of OP being outed then fine, delete. But not just because the OP doesn't like the responses. I've had threads I started go a bit pear shaped and had people be rude or unpleasant but I just stop posting and hide the thread.

If we delete threads because someone is 'upset' but apparently can't hide the thread for some reason, we'll end up with very little left on MN!.

Maryz · 02/01/2016 20:36

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Ikeatears · 02/01/2016 19:22

I requested a thread deletion over Christmas. I've not had a great time mental health wise recently and posted a late night, highly identifiable rant about my family. MNHQ agreed to delete it but, as it was an ongoing thread and I'd had lots of advice from some lovely posters, they asked if I would first post on the thread explaining why I wanted it deleting. I was happy to do this.
I should never have posted in the first place but I wasn't in a good place so I'm really glad that MNHQ agreed to delete. Also, sometimes something the op says may seem innocuous to us but they may really regret posting it, for whatever reason.
I would hate to think that my 'moment of madness' could have led to me being identified in rl, causing huge issues and also cutting off my support network on here.

Floggingmolly · 02/01/2016 19:14

I reckon she showed up at Mumsnet Towers with a crate of gin and the threat of a Daily Mail sadface...

Gruntfuttock · 02/01/2016 19:11

Excellent question, Flogging.

Floggingmolly · 02/01/2016 19:00

How did the op manage to circumvent the "usual reporting channels"?

ilovesooty · 02/01/2016 18:57

Thanks Dawn.

OhGood · 02/01/2016 18:29

To be honest, I think in cases where the op has genuinely had a hissy-fit, and is getting really upset by the whole thing, most of us would be fine with it being deleted "at the op's request, because, let's face it, he/she made a bit of a tit of themselves and is very embarrassed"

So do I.

NCISaddict · 02/01/2016 18:23

Good Heavens, if I knew that someone was in tears about complaining about paramedics leaving gauze on her drive I would be Hmm and think they were rather attention seeking.

I'm a parent and a paramedic and opinions like that make my life harder but I was heartened by the fact that everyone thought the OP unreasonable. Perhaps I should message HQ saying that the deletion is causing me tears and sleepless nights and ask for it to be reinstated. Grin

If they really can't cope with people disagreeing with them then perhaps MN isn't the place for them, either that or perhaps they could reconsider their opinions.

BoreOfWhabylon · 02/01/2016 18:04

Thank you!

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NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 02/01/2016 17:37

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DawnMumsnet · 02/01/2016 17:33

Completely agree, Maryz - we're meant to be here to make parents' lives easier, so when we get a mail (or, often, multiple mails) from an OP saying they're in tears about a thread, unable to sleep because of it, etc., it feels pretty heartless to leave it running.

Like we said, though, we do always suggest other options where appropriate.

Thanks for understanding our position here.

BeyondCBA · 02/01/2016 17:33

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Pipbin · 02/01/2016 17:32

To be honest, I think in cases where the op has genuinely had a hissy-fit, and is getting really upset by the whole thing, most of us would be fine with it being deleted "at the op's request, because, let's face it, he/she made a bit of a tit of themselves and is very embarrassed"

I agree with this.

BoreOfWhabylon · 02/01/2016 17:25

Nooooooo! Don't delete my thread for beng a TAAT - it's the most replies I've ever had!

< clings desperately to thread >

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Maryz · 02/01/2016 17:25

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BoreOfWhabylon · 02/01/2016 17:17

Thanks very much Dawn Smile

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DawnMumsnet · 02/01/2016 17:12

Hi BoW, afternoon all,

Right, we've taken a look behind the scenes at the thread in question and just wanted to hold our hands up and say it shouldn't have been deleted, or at least not for the reason stated.

Unfortunately in this case, the OP's deletion request hadn't gone through the usual reporting channels, and was actioned without adherence to the usual deletion criteria.

When someone asks us to delete a thread, we usually do our best to persuade them otherwise, and offer all sorts of alternative options - we'll urge them to 'hide' the thread, offer to retrospectively change their username, etc. In most cases, believe it or not, this is what happens! We receive a huge number of thread deletion requests every day and those that actually get deleted are in the minority.

We completely take on board your feelings about the standard 'We don't normally delete whole threads but we will do so when it is to protect a poster's privacy' message, though and will be making it clear to all the team that the deletion of a thread for privacy reasons should only happen when someone's privacy is genuinely compromised.

Sorry that we got it wrong on this occasion. We may also have been slightly more lenient in general over the past couple of weeks, it being Christmas and all, but we'll be back on the case now.

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