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Can we have a topic where name changing is not allowed?

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WorraLiberty · 29/12/2015 15:21

Lots of people feel the 'atmosphere' has been somewhat lost, due to MN becoming so big and so many people name changing for dubious reasons.

So how about a new topic where name changing is not allowed?

So to post in that section, you choose a different name (much like in Mumsnet local). But you have to stick to that name only.

That way, in that section at least, there would be less arses/goady fuckers/Billy bullshitters and drama llamas, hiding behind name changes.

People will become 'regulars' again (in that section at least) and when you go there to chat, you'll at least 'recognise' other people.

OK I'm sure there are 1 million reasons why this is a stupid idea/impossible to set up, but can anyone think of them? Grin

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Caprinihahahaha · 30/12/2015 06:48

All the more reason to let the long standing endlessly aggrieved go somewhere else then.
Win win, surely?

That's the bit I don't really get to be honest. If people see a group of posters as irritating and they propose something which will allow them to have slightly different rules, applying only to them in a different corner of the site in order to be happier, why complain?

If people want to name change they can. Why would anyone want to enforce anonymity on a group of people who like the idea of recognising other posters and being recognised?

Anarchy99 · 30/12/2015 06:40

Fair enough and I get what you are saying.

I think I may have just read too many 'it's not like the old days' threads by long standing, also endlessly aggrieved, posters Grin

And my other suggestions were just other ways to weed out the arsehole contingent, those who don't even bother name changing but you see their name and your heart sinks!

GreenRug · 30/12/2015 06:37

Great idea, I'm in!

Caprinihahahaha · 30/12/2015 06:34

Sure.
But I don't want a thread. I want a topic.
I've been on long running threads and they are great but that's not what I want. I want a section where there can be several threads running about different things.
A consistent theme on this and the thread that prompted it is the incredible regularity of threads where posters want to avoid the huge level of name changing trolls which rather suggests it wouldn't just be a small number of people using it.
What's the problem with trying it rather than not just in case it's not popular?

The question of exclusion was raised a couple of times so I was dealing with the general point rather than arguing with you.
I totally agree does indeed become political and people will complain.
My point remains though - so what? It's not going to exclude anyone who wishes to use it so the determination of the endlessly aggrieved shouldn't be paramount.

Anarchy99 · 30/12/2015 05:28

It makes sense but the reason I suggested an ongoing thread is that I imagine a new section like this is going to be populated by a relatively small section of MN as presumably all subjects would be covered within the section but a lot of people will still post, for example, in Chat rather than New General Section.

I mentioned perceived exclusion as thing like this are suggested and agreed with by so called 'royalty' (hate that phrase and totally agree it should be banned Grin) and I know how political these things can get.

I think the ability to be able to hide a poster, which comes up every now and again, would do wonders for the general feel of some threads as well. Seeing certain names on a thread can change the tone of someone's reply, for example.

Caprinihahahaha · 30/12/2015 05:04

Well because on going threads work well with a smaller group of people and broadly around a topic.

Anyone could join so it's not only for regulars - unless people really think posting for more than three months makes you a regular. And you are free to name change elsewhere on the site . It would be just one section where the same names would be used.
I want to go to a section with many different threads filled with consistent, eventually recognisable names because, with being recognisable comes a certain amount of responsibility for how you are perceived and received. I don't want one long running thread where you have to try and keep up with what people are talking about.

To be honest, anyone who would regard that as excluding them would have to be an insufferable whiner. At some point it would be nice if mnhq stopped making every single decision about the petty gripes of the relentlessly fucking miserable.

Anarchy99 · 30/12/2015 03:00

Am probably totally missing the point here but if you want an area where you can chat whilst being able to identify one another, can you not just have an ongoing group thread like the Brave Babes, wavers etc? I think people are less likely to wander into those threads/troll than they do with ordinary threads.

That way, those who want somewhere to hang out without GFs etc can do so.

It just seems like having a special topic set up for regulars is going to lead to people feeling excluded, there are often accusations of that anyway, with the 'royalty' comments.

I'm only putting that out there as a suggestion.

I like the NC facility because I am on one of the 'group threads' under a different name so some people on here know me in RL as well but I like being able to post on other subjects under a different name so that I can retain some level of anonymity. And it's obviously easier to be able to use my regular name on the ongoing threads I love my regular name, it's awesome - a lot of people don't take any notice of posters' names on general threads but you obviously want to be identified on the ongoing threads.

Or get rid of the ability to look up posters' posting history, so that people can't meticulously go through and piece together info. (That sounds a little paranoid but I just mean in the context of it being an anonymous site).

Obviously am not talking about sockpuppeting or anything like that, just that, for example, I might not want my RL friends from here to know I was also posting in another, possibly sensitive, topic.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 30/12/2015 00:53

I guess the point of the round-up is to draw our attention to anything we may have missed.

For those of us who, ahem, keep up. It may be superfluous.

GrinWine

ghostspirit · 30/12/2015 00:42

i cant name change people still know who i am Hmm

AtSea1979 · 30/12/2015 00:40

I've been here 11 years and I've never seen the round up either.
I did stumble across the sex board though, wish I hadn't, it wasn't for me.

OddSocksHighHeels · 30/12/2015 00:33

Ffs *e-mails. E-nails sounds like something you might find on the sex topic though.

OddSocksHighHeels · 30/12/2015 00:32

I do have talk round up. I've never opened one though Grin I didn't realise you get all your shit changed around if you fiddle with it. That's no good.

There's a really good post in the sex topic - something posted from a book about different positions (all look far too much work) and that one is genuinely funny. I don't really look at Sex otherwise.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 30/12/2015 00:14

Six White Horses?

All at once?

She'll be fine Smile

Queenbean · 30/12/2015 00:08

don't do it Riding!! Once you've seen things there they can't be unseen

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 30/12/2015 00:08

It's quite new riding.

With a NN like yours you'll fit right in love.

You could start a new niche.

ridingsixwhitehorses · 30/12/2015 00:05

I have been a regular for over five years with many different names and didn't even know there was. Sex topic. Off to find it now...

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 30/12/2015 00:00

I think you can sign up to get the Round Up email if you go into your My Mumsnet.

Ive always had it, but since JeffreyGate I've been too scared to go into My Mumsnet because I heard so many horrific stories about what I would have to do and what I wouldn't be allowed to to do.

And I wouldn't be allowed to be purple any more and my OPs wouldn't be silver any more and it would all be chosen for me and I didn't like that at all.

So I wouldn't recommend it, just saying I think you can.

And breathe

OddSocksHighHeels · 29/12/2015 23:46

Edu Grin

4 years and I've never seen a talk round-up. I have no idea if I've been in one or not.

EduCated · 29/12/2015 23:33

I'm almost more proud of having been quoted in round up than my degree.

BearPursuedByAnExit · 29/12/2015 23:29

Man gravy 😱

Whoops.

Queenbean · 29/12/2015 23:26

What's the weekly round up?

Is it chicken based?

BathshebaDarkstone · 29/12/2015 23:15

Worra yuk. I won't be dipping my chips in anyone's man-gravy.

OddSocksHighHeels · 29/12/2015 23:12

Possibly then Grin

I think there was talk of shutting the Colliers Wood one at one stage, I'm not sure whether that's still going ahead. It would be a shame if they had to.

RustyBear · 29/12/2015 23:11

They've probably changed a bit since I was there, OddSocks - the baby I left to have was 28 yesterday...

Thornrose · 29/12/2015 23:10

Flowers in the attic and all the weird follow ups were my books of choice as a teen. I guess it was the equivalent of inappropriate Internet use in the 80s?