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Fight clubs on mumsnet

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TensionWheelsCoolHeels · 30/08/2014 12:34

Is it just me or has there been a significant shift in the ethos of this site where 'fight clubs' are now tolerated wherever they spring up? There is a real nasty undercurrent running through a few parts of this site & it's just unpleasant to read through.

Are the mods all barricading themselves in bunkers or something, hoping it'll all blow over? Hmm

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NickiFury · 31/08/2014 16:11

I am fine with it. Hence my not starting a whiny thread like this one or reporting any of the posts about me.

What I do do is discuss the ongoing situation with other like minded posters and am quite happy with my choice to do that, not to mention the fact that I am addressing you directly on here, so not retreating at all, being quite open about my thoughts, both here and there AND on numerous other threads.

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TensionWheelsCoolHeels · 31/08/2014 16:07

Just for clarity, the thread isn't about me, I've just been added today for posting this thread.

I've not said anywhere it's 'all over the boards' I've said certain boards/threads/posts.

All of this has been highlighted to MNHQ and they are aware of what's going on. Posters on this thread have already said it's been dealt with& MNHQ don't have a problem with it etc.

As I've already stated, I question the wisdom of that stance, given the posts/posters/threads being discussed there & elsewhere, and the fall out elsewhere.

Foolish I may be, but can't stand seeing bitchy unnecessary stuff which simply stokes bad feeling & does the opposite of help/support anyone. I posted here to question what was going on as the posts/threads are numerous & if be here all day reporting everything.

Fact is, I didn't even mention the threads/boards involved & still it's been identified by those involved & other observers too. Hardly indicative of 'nothing' is it?

And Nicky if you really weren't affected by what's being said about you, and that you are fine with it standing, you wouldn't feel the need to then retreat to your other thread to say what you think/want to say but can't 'cos it'll breach talk guidelines. That's my point.

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everydayvalue · 31/08/2014 16:04

I would think that slagging off other posters is against talk guidelines.

Maybe it's acceptable now though. It seems anything goes these days.

NickiFury · 31/08/2014 16:00

There's another thread going where I am being slagged off extensively. Guess what though? I don't care. I won't report it because it means nothing to me. There are things said on a particular board, here on MN that are beyond the pale, things that would be unacceptable on any other part of the boards yet on it goes. I'm not going to stop posting and questioning that and be driven off a particular part of MN despite repeated and strenuous attempts to do so. If things like that being said about me, well great, I am glad because it means that they've noticed that there are people who think it's not ok to be vicious and unpleasant.

everydayvalue · 31/08/2014 15:52

If you were being bitched about on another thread,Zippey. Would you think that was nothing?

zippey · 31/08/2014 15:47

I think this thread is a lot about nothing. The OP has agenda that he needs to take up with MN.

Maryz · 31/08/2014 15:40

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Mintyy · 31/08/2014 15:38

TensionWheelsCoolHeels - I think you have been completely foolish to start this thread, however HQ should not allow bitching about other posters to stand on ANY thread, no matter what the arguments have been, and I suggest you continue to report those posts until you get some satisfaction. At the weekend they don't seem so quick to delete ... probably due to less manpower.

everydayvalue · 31/08/2014 15:35

MNHQ could start by deleting posts that are discussing named posters.

Maryz · 31/08/2014 15:34

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Maryz · 31/08/2014 15:32

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everydayvalue · 31/08/2014 15:31

If posters are being discussed on threads, and those posts have been reported.Then MNHQ should delete those posts.

Discussing other posters on threads has always been a no no on MN.

NickiFury · 31/08/2014 15:29

No just one poster wishing you'd "pipe down", me. Don't say "posters" to imply you're bring attacked. Nothing said there that hasn't been said here. It's obvious that you're going to read it.

R4roger · 31/08/2014 15:26

Every bleeding time I post I am pulled up by somebody for saying the wrong thing Sad
tis horrible.

SugarSkully · 31/08/2014 15:25

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SugarSkully · 31/08/2014 15:23

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R4roger · 31/08/2014 15:23

who are all these people who come here and be mean, it should be peaceful Brew

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TensionWheelsCoolHeels · 31/08/2014 15:23

My concern, as I've stated already, is that despite MNHQ trying to deal with the nonsense going on on certain threads/boards, the nasty undercurrent isn't going away. Helped in part by the, still standing, threads where posters are being picked out for comments/bitching on both sides of the 'debate'. The FIGHT CLUB is still going, despite MNHQ's efforts to dampen things down because inflammatory threads are still going.

If MNHQ don't have a problem with threads that discuss threads, posts & posters, then that's a new one on me. MNHQ have already stated on this thread they don't tolerate fight clubs, outright nastiness or things 'beyond the pale'. That seems to contradict the threads where other threads, posters & posts are being discussed.

I'm now the subject on one of the threads, for having the audacity to highlight this, my motives being questioned and posters hoping ill just 'pipe down'. Oh, and now I'm being told I'm trying to shut down debate? Lacking the morals to comment?

Hmm
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Maryz · 31/08/2014 15:22

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Thumbwitch · 31/08/2014 15:16

Tis, Mary. Tis.

HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen · 31/08/2014 15:13

I don't need to see any other threads to disagree with the op. She's talking about MN as a whole, and faulting MNHQ.

Either she's talking about the site in its entirety and wrong.

Or it's a petty grudge op with leading statements and being purposefully antagonistic.

I'm not interested in a specific thread or topic when a generalisation is being made about an entire board and it's users.

From what I've seen of the op thus far, she's really not coming across as the sort of poster who should be moralising at other users.

Maryz · 31/08/2014 15:07

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chockbic · 31/08/2014 15:04

I haven't seen any fight clubs. Disagreements of course.

Perhaps I'm looking in the wrong places?

NickiFury · 31/08/2014 15:00

They are. It's been left to stand because that's NOT what is going on. Certainly we have been addressed by MN and they don't seem to have a problem. With or without those threads this is an ongoing debate that's not going away any time soon and considering the subject matter and those affected that is a good thing.

Anyway I won't post on this thread again but I do not agree with your perception of the threads OP and I am wondering what your motives are for starting this thread. Things are moving along and there actually seems to be a lot more understanding on both sides and far less viciousness and attacking. How about you butt out and let MN continue to deal with it because that seems to be working out alright. Unless of course your main focus is to shut down debate which is the main issue that led to this state of affairs in the first place.

Maryz · 31/08/2014 14:52

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