High spend section in S&B

I remember your Louboutin thread

I guess as I like prada etc, you wouldn't need to post the price for me to be aware of what rough amount of money you were talking about. But I appreciate not everyone is as interested in bags as me.

But I certainly wouldn't ever start a thread on here now about anything designer, its just not worth it.

Maybe I speed check active convos differently then MrsCampbellBlack. Thread titles with money in jump out, as do thread titles with profanity for some reason.
I would easily scroll past a thread title with Prada in it but I notice threads with money in, as I suspect anyone for whom money is an issue does .

I don't know - I got my arse roasted for asking about repairing my louboutins but I personally just think that avoiding specific amounts in thread titles is a bit more...discreet.

But I don't see that saying you're looking for prada or gucci is more tactful than saying what your actual budget is?

I posted once specifically about chanel handbags as that's what I wanted comments on, I didn't mention the price though. And I'm not that person who posted about the chanel bags that some random bloke bought her - remember that thread, it went nuclear!

To be honest, I'd never post on here any more asking for a viewpoint on anything that cost more than £25 as just can't be doing with the comments. But like tethers I do love a bit of virtual shopping on behalf of others

I think the s&b section can be very helpful and supportive and have made some really lovely friends through it. But I wouldn't want anything I posted to make anyone feel bad.

I don't have £900 for a handbag. (Felt guilty buying my leather storksak though) but I can enjoy living vicariously through other people! A high spend section might be good but is it unnecessary and create to many topics to follow

And, you dont know whether the individual wanting to spend big on that bag has been saving every spare penny she had for the last year. (Havent read the original thread). She could go on to use that bag for the next ten years, which on a cost per wear basis, makes much more sense than those stinky plastic bags from Primark for £8 which will be in landfill by Crimble.

I am just as shocked that someone could spend £900 on a handbag - but then I am also shocked when someone says they can't afford £1 or whatever for a school mufti day.

That's what I like about Mumsnet I suppose - a huge range of views and opinions and always something new to think about .

But I do agree with Pagwatch that the thread could have been titled a little more thoughtfully - and maybe some sort of acknowledgement that you would know you are very fortunate to be able to spend £900 on a handbag.

And I do hate the comments that say 'I work very hard for my salary' - I am sure we all work very hard for our salaries - whether we earn the minimum wage or £100k plus.

I enjoy watching trashy YouTube hauls and 'whats in my bag'. More often than not those bags are Chanel, Balenciaga, Dior, LV. In some cases their bag cost more than my car. Maybe im a shallow cow but it doesnt really bother me what other people spend their dosh on.

How on earth do you cope seeing flashy cars, multi million pound houses in real life?

I agree with your sentiment OP, but I don't think segregation is the way to go, I did snort though when someone came onto the the thread to defend the OP saying that £900 was actually only mid range for a bag....

I don't have anywhere near that kind of money, but I love a good fantasy shopping thread.

The thought of £900 on a handbag does make me cringe. For that sort of money, I would expect something well designed, handmade, beautifully crafted, ethically sourced and for the people who made it to be paid fairly for their skills and labour - it's rare that the bags people are talking about fall into that category 100%. Given that for £900, I'd rather buy a £100 handbag (in the sale, if possible!) and a nice piece of furniture, I just stay out of those threads.

I can understand why the amounts quoted would seem obscene, or at least just plain bizarre to a lot of people.

I don't think it is a bad thing that you raised it although as others have said it is totally unworkable.
But I think there could be more of a meeting in the middle on some threads. I sometimes see thread titles and grimace a bit. It's fine to want help finding a designer bag and I think information about your budget is necessary. But some of the thread titles are a bit crass to be honest.
It's just as easy to post 'I am looking for a high end bag - Prada and Gucci or similar. Looking for suggestions'

I don't think people need to feel awkward about their disposable income but a bit of tact wouldn't go amiss.
I don't know - its tricky. I've posted about expensive stuffing i have, holidays I've been on etc. I just think thread titles could just be a bit less in your face.

No worries OP, it was a bit of a random suggestion considering I knew exactly ONE thing about you, but I figured it wouldn't hurt to throw it in there!

If I bought a £900 handbag (not an option anyway), it would probably get ruined scraping against the walls of the pebble-dashed stairwell in my council flat. So there's that.

Classic case of reverse snobbery.

Really disagree OP.

If people get pilloried by reverse snobs when posting a single thread, can you imagine the sneering a whole topic for wealthy MNers would attract? You'd basically make them an easy target for all those who think it is acceptable to be rude to people because they have money.

Also, what's the threshold? Is £50 for a pair of trousers high spend? £100? Daft idea through and through.

Also wonder how you cope in real life when presented with people's houses, cars, holidays, kitchens? Do you shun them? I imagine not - so why not afford MNers the same basic courtesy.

Different incomes, different spending habits. What is reasonable for you may not be acceptable for a high flying lawyer or investment banker. Don't let it make you feel bad as it is not important in the big scheme of things. If you cannot help but aspire to afford these things, think of ways you can improve your income prospects, but don't waste your energy on feeling jealous.

I agree with you, Gast. I'm currently torturing myself over whether to spend about £130 on a warm winter raincoat, that will hopefully last me several years. I walk a couple of miles to work & back every day & I'm fed up of arriving at work soaked & freezing.

I just click off the threads as they irritate me. But I agree, where would people draw the line - for some people, £130 is probably a lot to consider spending on a coat, it would have been unthinkable for me a couple of years ago.

Oh, I know it's just an opinion. And I keep it to myself around people I like for whom it is a major part of their world. I have friends and relatives who spend a fortune on designer things, in the same way that we spend money on stuff they wouldn't give garage space to.
I just don't see the point in wanting someone's love of handbags to be restricted.

If people spending ££ makes you agitated just hide the thread.

I could never spend £90 let alone £900 but I disagree that S&B is shallow. Fashion is just as real an interest as crafting, TV watching, camping etc. Some people, me included, enjoy shopping, discussing clothes and living vicariously through the rich, fabulous people who can afford to buy expensive clothes.

I think if you don't like a thread then hide it. Everybody has things in their lives, material or otherwise that could make someone else a little jealous. Such is life.

This probably sounds patronising but I don't mean it that way at all - have you considered doing things like positive affirmations about yourself? To build up self-esteem and happiness sort of thing? Because I can assure you that you are just fine as you are, with or without a pricey handbag. It makes me feel sad that you feel bad that you can't have something like that . Affirmations really can help with changing your attitude, which is a good thing because it can help you to feel happier and more satisfied with what you DO have.

I find the whole S&B section irrelevant and shallow, so I hide it.
Problem solved. If someone wants to discuss expensive stuff, or cosmetic surgery or perfumes at £450 a pop, then they should be free to do so.
There are so many people richer, cleverer and more beautiful than me it's a waste of time feeling sickened and bad and jealous.

Sorry, I disagree. I barely have 2 pennies to rub together, but I just ignore threads about £900 handbags and whatnot. Just like I would ignore threads about base jumping or skydiving. They simply don't interest me.

Agree that defining 'high spend' is impossible. I would balk at anything over £60 for a handbag. My in-laws are shocked at how much I pay the hairdresser (when I can afford to go). They run 2 cars (and MIL doesn't drive), I could/would never do that. We're all different.