Caitlin177

Oh Waltzing I'm truly sorry you had to contend with that

I can only echo what the others have said, in that the majority of posters were horrified by the goading that went on, but I understand why you feel the way you do.

Thanks folks for your continuing support. My problem is not with the mumsnet community, I could have went to other parenting sites but as a casual lurker and reader of this forum and a couple of others, this one was the best choice, I need real advice and help, not a bunch of people giving me virtual hugs (although they are nice too).

I want mumsnet hq to tell me why they were able to pull a thread within minutes of being started about my thread but wouldn't respond to my message to them. In fact they still haven't actually replied to me, they just deleted the thread this morning. By the time I logged in this morning it was gone so I didn't see anyone else's posts. There was a mod online last night, there must have been to delete the other one, so I'd like to know why they were so slow to act on mine. I wasn't the only person who reported that poster, I had several private messages from people saying they too had reported.

Echoing everything Hecate said. I'm so sorry for your loss.

If Caitlin177 isn't banned I will be deregistering.

Waltzing, I am really sorry about what happened. I know it is no comfort at all, but most of us are decent people who were truly revolted by that poster.
I am really sorry for your loss.

OP I am so sorry this has all happened. I completely understand why you no longer wish to post.

I hope you and your family recover from this terrible loss. Take care of yourself.

I am the OP who started the thread in question. On the whole everyone was lovely to me and I received lots of messages of support and hope. Last night I was very distressed and couldn't sleep well. However when I woke up I was very angry at mumsnet on the handling of things. Someone started a thread in aibu about the goody poster. This was quickly deleted and I think the same person started a new thread in chat. I reported my own thread long before mumsnet deleted the one another poster started in aibu so they were able to take quick action on that but didn't deal with mine until this morning. That's what pissed me off this morning. I won't be coming here again for advice, that's not a slur on the majority of members at all, they were and are fantastic, I am so angry that mumsnet hq seem to pick and choose what they can be bothered dealing with and have very strange priorities. I can't risk being made to feel the way I did last night again in the near future, I'm not strong enough at the moment.

Or is being deliberately cunt-esque to try and make the other poster look bad.

There are several issues here. firstly the context of which 177's comments were made. Yes the OP posted in AIBU which can be more gloves off than the bereavement/relationships boards however this was clearly someone looking for support and reassurance. She admitted in her op she realised the neighbour was not to blame for what happened but could not help her feelings of anger and was asking for advice on this aspect. 177's comments completely derailed the thread and weren't simply a different view point but were intended to rile.

Secondly is the fact that she is using a username that is so ridiculously similar to an established poster in an effort to give her bile credence. This is something that needs to be looked into as it is something more and more trolls will do.

not telling

(is also what it means)

It has been deleted.

I really hope the OP posts again as she was getting some real support and it allowed her to express how she felt (I got the impression she was finding it difficult to say in RL) and deal with her emotions.

Caitlin177 showed as much compassion as the neighbour. Her opinions were not relevant on that thread however real they were to her.

I feel really sad. How horrid to say AIBU is for "robust chat". Fuck. That. Shit. Maybe on a thread where the op is clearly an arse and inviting something "robust". But wheel that rake of shite out on a thread started by a grief stricken mother?! Give your heads a wobble. I've seen some fairly jaw dropping stuff over the years on here but that was a kick in the bollocks of humanity.

The Secret Service Does Not Comment On Procedure - it's a quote from The West Wing. And also, confusingly, a poster in MN.

Glad it's been picked up now, and hope fully it's stopped in its tracks.

Fucking vile.

What does TSSNCOP mean please?

Agree with Derek, hope it's a ban.

As an aside, why do people assume that posters know every other posting name when they register? I've never heard of either Caitlin before this thread.

And no, I'm not defending the stuff on that thread.

Certain other posters didn't cover themselves with glory on that thread with the use of disablist insults.

Multiple reports to HQ aren't working toapoint. Hopefully this will draw more people's attention to the problem, will result in more reports, and prompt a response from HQ.

I was appalled by the derailing of that thread, and I really don't want to associate myself with that particular poster, but come on, guys. Starting an open public thread to tear into another poster? Sounds like cyber bullying to me.

Do it in private direct with MNHQ, if you have a problem with an individual poster. I am sure this particular poster is already on their radar anyway.