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Caitlin177

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FourForksAche · 12/06/2014 08:07

something ought to be done about her derailing of a thread that was supporting a grieving woman.

Many of us reported last night, the user is still at it.

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RebeccaMumsnet · 12/06/2014 13:15

Hi all,

Many thanks for coming on and we are pleased to see you posting Waltzing.

The first report about this thread was received at 11.27pm. The day shift have logged off by this point and the volunteer nightwatch are around. Their job is to remove blatant spam, huge trolls and vile images, not to make judgement calls.

As soon as we logged in this morning, we posted on this thread and the other thread and dealt with it all.

We are sorry that it took us a while to get to and we do hope the OP of that thread is ok (we have mailed her now).

Caitlin177 has been banned from Mumsnet. We do not normally post to confirm that we have done this, but in this instance we wanted to reassure you that we don't take this sort of thing lightly.

Waltzing, we do hope you will stick with us and that you can see that the vast majority of posters have bags of support and guidance for you and we also hope that you have some RL support too.

Apologies again.

LiberalLibertine · 12/06/2014 12:55

I thought all cats were bastards?

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FourForksAche · 12/06/2014 12:52

cats usually are right Wink Grin

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schlafenfreude · 12/06/2014 12:51

Or even caution...

schlafenfreude · 12/06/2014 12:51

I agree that nightwatch do, as they should, err on the side of cat

Maryz · 12/06/2014 12:48

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FourForksAche · 12/06/2014 12:47

my thread was very clearly against guidelines. The trolling of walzing's thread was much more a judgement call. I posted my AIBU to see if any hq people were around. I guess the person on last night wasn't 100% sure so waited, which is unfortunate but understandable.

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Maryz · 12/06/2014 12:44

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LineRunner · 12/06/2014 12:43

Waltzing, I totally get where you're coming from regarding MNHQ's apparent response priorities.

It does need explaining.

Thinking of you Thanks

Mintyy · 12/06/2014 12:40

Ok Worra, got you.

LiberalLibertine · 12/06/2014 12:32

waltzing I'm sorry you won't be posting here anymore, your point about fourforks thread getting deleted immediately is good one. I don't understand it either.

We will be here if you decide to come back at any point.

Best of luck with everything ahead.

Flowers
HavanaSlife · 12/06/2014 12:22

8th of june by the looks of it, seems like longer due to no sleep for a week

WorraLiberty · 12/06/2014 12:15

Mintyy I know we're talking about the troll Caitlin and not the original.

Caitlin177 has been around less than a week. She posted on a thread about name changing and was challenged by the original Caitlin.

177 has taken a pop at lots of people on other threads and been a permanent misery from what I've seen.

Mintyy · 12/06/2014 12:08

See, I think from Worra's post on this thread that she thinks we are talking about the original Caitlin. She hasn't clocked the subtle difference in the name?

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 12/06/2014 12:06

Waltzing for what it's worth I'm so sorry you were treated this way. I completely understand why you don't want to be here. Personally I stopped asking for advice and support a while back (I won't go into what or why but will admit to it paling into insignificance when considering your tragedy but I was in a dark place at the time) and was made to feel like I had no right to feel as I did. Now I just tend to stick to light and fluffy threads (mostly). Thinking of you op. X

Funnyfoot · 12/06/2014 12:06

Only this month Mintyy.

The thread where the original asked her why she had chosen that name is here

HavanaSlife · 12/06/2014 12:06

A few weeks I think, caitlin17 nc because people were confusing the two and she didn't want to be associated with some of the stuff caitlin177 was coming out with.

As caitin177 wouldn't answer why she chose such a similar name iy doesnt seem like they are willing to give it up for the original

Germgirl · 12/06/2014 12:04

The original Caitlin asked the new one several times why she'd chosen that name in particular but the goady twat new one didn't reply. This was on a thread about name changing.

Mintyy · 12/06/2014 12:00

How long has Caitlin177 been around for? Did the original Caitlin fight for her name?

WorraLiberty · 12/06/2014 11:58

Blimey, I knew she seemed permanently miserable but I had no idea she was vile.

So sorry that happened to you Waltzingmary Flowers

differentnameforthis · 12/06/2014 11:48

Agree wholeheartedly! She couldn't see anything at all wrong in what she was doing!

HavanaSlife · 12/06/2014 11:36

Waltzing im so sorry for your loss and also for what happened on your thread.

I can totally understand why you might not use mn again, if you change your mind thiugh there are some fantastic posters in bereavement. They were a real support to me when I lost my son in pregnancy.

Wishing you the best

HecatePropylaea · 12/06/2014 11:30

I think that you deserve to have that answered and I hope they do so.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 12/06/2014 11:28

I pm'd Caitlin177 last night, to try to appeal to her sense of decency, and got a message back basically focusing only on the 'abuse' she had received on that thread. I sent the pm before I realised that this was not the well-known poster, but someone with a very similar name, possibly hairy of hand. Had I realised that, I wouldn't have bothered with the pm, as there would have been no point appealing to a non-existent sense of decency.

Waltzingmary - I am so, so sorry at how that thread got derailed, and how it has upset you. My heart goes out to you at this difficult and painful time, and I would like to reiterate that I think your feelings of anger are completely valid. There is no excuse for your neighbour's behaviour.

As I said last night, I wonder if it might help to write a letter, saying all the things you need to say to this neighbour - a complete venting of everything you are feeling - not to send to her, but because it may help you to get it all out in some way.