Do you think it's time to start a sexuality shaming topic?

My DP isn't bothered, I wouldn't mention anything if he was.

Oo a Liverpool meet up?

Hot i would have had a face like a beacon.

Just a question. What do the partners/husbands of posters that overshare about their sex life either in public or on an internet forum think?
I would imagine people that don't do it out of respect for their husbands/partners IYKWIM. Because you are talking about them too remember.

I find all this really odd. I'm of the variety that does sit round a table in a bar with women friends, sharing various kinds of personal stuff. Sometimes this includes hilarious stories of sexystuff gone wrong.

Sometimes there is a group of men listening in. So fucking what? If they try to interfere, staff will remove them. No-one has the right to muscle in our our conversation; neither do we have the right to tell others what to listen to.

Sometimes, too, there's another group of women finding our conversation distasteful. They can move if they don't like what they're hearing, or we'd turn down the volume if asked. No-one has the right to tell us what we may talk & laugh about.

I agree with BOFster that Relationships wasn't the right board for the thread in question, but meh. Not all the threads in there are intense. It hasn't been overrun with frivolity, and I think the occasional thread like that probably is reassuring for many.

Never talked about my fanjo on here I don't think. Not much to say.

Sparkling

Or would that be another taboo?

But you'd happily talk about childbirth including torn fanjos and prolapses?

I couldn't imagine oversharing about sex on here then going to a meet up.

Like I've said before, I don't and won't limit what I do and like doing because of some numpty who gets off on reading the crap I write on here.

And to be quite honest I don't think they majority of these 'trolls' are actually knocking one out, I think they're just taking the piss in general. I also think some people are doing it to rival penis beaker, but if its a good discussion and other people's contributions are amusing to me - I'm not bothered.

As long as people are aware that this is an open forum, anyone can read, then they should be able to make their own decisions in regards to what they post. And others can chose what they want to read.

Mrs who is it you are thinking of in relation to it being me?

All information I am willing to share MrsM. Hence why I put it on a public forum.

But that does not take away from the fact that YOU cannot tell folk what they can and cannot put on here. It is not your job. If my behaviour leads to issues then that is my responsibility not yours. If you feel that the over sharers are getting in too deep then report to MNHQ and ask for a warning to be put on.

'I am anonymous here and nobody knows what I look like or who I am'

^This was in response to a question which you have now taken out of context to fit your argument.

You may know various bits of info but unless you know me in rl then it will be a little more difficult to find out my name or what I look like. But then again all that info is on my FB page so it is already out there again something I have chosen to do.

You are wanting to censor people and you cannot do that.

I have lost count of the threads I have hidden about hairy/not hairy fanjos and what names you have for them.

Sparkling I thought you had boundaries

I have said it before that penis beaker caused most of the damage as it made MN public and not in a good way. Also I don't see 10 sex threads going on in active convos so it's not like there rife is it?
I see more threads about bust sizes/bras, periods, what do you call yours, and other fanjo related stuff than I do about sex.

The problem comes when a sex thread is advertised such as twitter or fb then this peaks folks interest and they have a look. Most sex threads will go unnoticed by the general public as why would they join a web site to trawl through it hoping to read something naughty when they can just search for a specific genre or read 50 shades.

If there is a specific site for oversharing about sex on the internet that sounds great.

If some hairy handed troll wants to get off to my sex stories he is welcome to. I can't see why anyone who is openly sharing an experience with a bunch of strangers would really care if some perv finds those typed words so erotic he wants to knock one out.

Warning someone not to over share is a good idea if they are in danger of outing themselves or they are offering money or physical help to someone without considering their own safety, but it does feel to censorious to try and silence sex threads in case they attract 'the wrong sort'. MN is already made up of all sorts, with no shortage of bunfights and differences of opinion.

Anyone who posts regularly is aware that they will be judged and that the person at the other end of the internet may not necessarily be a like-minded individual. They just don't see it as that important.

Obviously I'd rather my family and friends don't read about my DP spunking on my face, but do I care if a bunch of internet randoms know? No. Do I care if some trucker likes the idea so much he gets wood reading my post? No.

I do report threads and have never posted a rude or abusive comment on any of these threads.

I have to say I disagree that some of the sex threads haven't damaged MN to a degree. However that is just my opinion.

I understand an uneasy feeling about a thread makes you want to protect those on it who appear to not see it and are happily giving out all their secrets. So given that wouldn't reporting the OP be the best course of action or asking MNHQ to post a 'Don't share more than you are happy to' warning on the thread?

The OP's upset was in regards to those that want to censor a sex thread by making unnecessary comments on it or those who blame sex threads for the downfall of MN because they feel it attracts sex trolls and perverts. When that just is not true.

I don't know about this. I hate the idea that women feel they are being shamed for talking about sex but I find the more graphic sex threads deeply uncomfortable.

The idea is always in my head when I read them that the posters doing the sharing are over sharing and making themselves vulnerable in the way the OP of this thread has described.

There was a period of time just after penis breaker when it felt like the tweeting of the thread had actually damaged the site.

I have read lots of very funny sex threads but it seems like they were a long time ago.

I really don't know about this one. Sex is a very valid thing to discuss. I never would but accept that others want to. I just wish I could shake the feeling that some of these threads are not started with the best of intentions and that some posters are not considering this when posting very intimate details of their lives.