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Warning messages when people offer to help OPs

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YourMotherChucksRocksInHull · 15/01/2014 13:02

Hello,

I'm just interested about the warning messages you post on threads where people are offering practical or financial help to Ops.

An example of one from today is here:

"As it's been flagged to us that some folk are very kindly offering RL help to the OP, we just wanted to post our usual in these circumstances, which is:

We do advise all our members to be aware that not everyone on t'internet is who they say they are, and that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

Thanks
MNHQ"

I just wondered how you decide which threads to post this on - is it reliant on an MNer flagging a thread to MNHQ, or do MNHQ keep an eye on threads in case there are any offers of help?

I'm just interested as to what the process is for deciding which thread gets a message, and which one doesn't?

I know I've donated money a couple of times in the past (once when a long-term poster had a bereavement, can't remember what the other one was). Is there a process for ensuring those appeals are legit?

Just curious, really (and not intending to single out the particular thread that message as on today, as I don't think it's relevant).

OP posts:
SPsMrLoverManSHABBA · 15/01/2014 13:12

MNera report and MNHQ read and decide whether a warning is necessary. It doesn't mean the poster is lying.

YourMotherChucksRocksInHull · 15/01/2014 13:12

Sorry, major - I see you were referring to their being no process to approve legitimacy - understood.

OP posts:
YourMotherChucksRocksInHull · 15/01/2014 13:11

Major - but that is a process, isn't it? The process being that MNers report and MNHQ post the message.

OP posts:
YourMotherChucksRocksInHull · 15/01/2014 13:11

My Op was obviously too waffly Blush I understand what the message is for. The bit I want an answer to is this:

"I'm just interested as to what the process is for deciding which thread gets a message, and which one doesn't?"

OP posts:
MajorMassSpecsMistress · 15/01/2014 13:10

Don't think there is a process to check they are legit. It's just down to if the post has been reported to MNHQ, if they can see offers are being made then they post the warning. If its a known troll they can delete but most offen they have to take if at face value.

SPsMrLoverManSHABBA · 15/01/2014 13:08

Its a post to warn people who offer help in RL as people have done this in the past and it was all bullshit.

Unless MNHQ visit the posters at their home they have no way of knowing. So this is beat thing they can do

PortofinoRevisited · 15/01/2014 13:06

It's usually becuase they have had reports. There is NO way MNHQ can validate that someone is genuine really.

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