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Original poster

Clarification please

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Hullygully · 05/12/2013 16:25

So I come back to find that you have deleted my thread asking why my Santa thread was deleted.

Of course it was a thread about a thread, it was asking a question about the thread.

Wtf else is one supposed to do?

I put it in site stuff.

It was also a really nice friendly thread full of poetry and laughs. Why why why why was it deleted? What the hell is going on there?

Secondly, if one wants to talk about something, and that something has been deleted purely owing to others mischief, does that mean that one is never to talk about that subject again??

How mad is that?

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BIWI · 05/12/2013 22:47

What is wrong with banter?

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RowanMumsnet · 05/12/2013 22:47

@Hullygully

Rowan, as I have explained to nauseating ad infinite

I missed the end of the thread. It wasn't bunfighty when I left. Everyone on it has said it wasn't bunfighty.

Hence my question in site stuff.

If I wanted to be "deliberately inflammatory" (FFS) I'd have done it in AIBU

You are being very rude and unfair.

I can only repeat that we think it's deliberately inflammatory to ask why a thread was deleted when the deletion message very clearly states that it was deleted for being a bunfight.

Apologies if I seem rude - I'm seeing extremely hard-working and talented members of our team being slagged off.

SconeForAStroll · 05/12/2013 22:46

Rowan, if the bunfighting aspects were personal attacks on hully, and she was happy to ignore them, why did the thread get deleted?

youretoastmildred · 05/12/2013 22:46

I wasn't at the meet up so I don't mean me, but if I were having a do and invited a bunch of people and some of them later referred to it as "having given up their evening", I don't think I would like it very much

I mean if you go to a pub, obviously the staff there have given up their evneing to work. but if you go to a pub one evening, and you offer an invitation to the staff who look after a completely different cafe where you have lunch often, and you know them a bit, and they decide to go along and say hi, and then refer to it later as "giving up their evening" I think I would cry snotty tears of humiliation into the pillow

BriarcliffBelle · 05/12/2013 22:46

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RowanMumsnet · 05/12/2013 22:46

@Mintyy

Again, Rowan, why not delete the one dodgy post? The whole thread does not need to go. Only one person out of however many on this thread said anything even slightly derogatory about a named person from hq.

Because the dodgy post was the OP, mintyy

And no - at least two posts made nasty remarks about a clearly identifiable MNHQer

Original poster
Hullygully · 05/12/2013 22:45

Rowan, as I have explained to nauseating ad infinite

I missed the end of the thread. It wasn't bunfighty when I left. Everyone on it has said it wasn't bunfighty.

Hence my question in site stuff.

If I wanted to be "deliberately inflammatory" (FFS) I'd have done it in AIBU

You are being very rude and unfair.

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ExitPursuedByAChristmasGrinch · 05/12/2013 22:45

Shit. It's like parallel universe. This us why I don't do flossfy on the net. Cos you are all fucking mad. MAD!

Mintyy · 05/12/2013 22:45

Well, until a moment ago Confused anyway

reelingaroundthechristmastree · 05/12/2013 22:44

It was a Saturday acksherly.

Mintyy · 05/12/2013 22:44

Again, Rowan, why not delete the one dodgy post? The whole thread does not need to go. Only one person out of however many on this thread said anything even slightly derogatory about a named person from hq.

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RowanMumsnet · 05/12/2013 22:44

@Hullygully

Really Rowan?

Really?

Yes really - all of it

MNHQ
RowanMumsnet · 05/12/2013 22:43

@youretoastmildred

"who gave up their Friday evening to attend a Mumsnet meet-up"
  • in order to patronise mn-ers by attending an event that they took no pleasure in for its own sake, finding the clientele utterly beneath them, in fact pitying them for regarding the event as leisure

Absolutely no idea where you're getting that from. As I understand it, a good (and extremely raucous) time was had by all.

ShreddedHoops · 05/12/2013 22:43
Shock

Really youretoast? No words

youretoastmildred · 05/12/2013 22:43

why infuriating, thecatfromjapan? that he awarded himself this and we can't?

Original poster
Hullygully · 05/12/2013 22:42

Really Rowan?

Really?

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youretoastmildred · 05/12/2013 22:41

"who gave up their Friday evening to attend a Mumsnet meet-up"

  • in order to patronise mn-ers by attending an event that they took no pleasure in for its own sake, finding the clientele utterly beneath them, in fact pitying them for regarding the event as leisure
ArtexMonkey · 05/12/2013 22:41

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thecatfromjapan · 05/12/2013 22:40

@ Artex.

I know it's very, very wrong ... so wrong that I know I mustn't do it ... but can't stop ...

but it is so nice to see so many of you on this thread.

Happy Christmas, lovely ladies.

(And that includes you, RowanMumsnet).

reelingaroundthechristmastree · 05/12/2013 22:40

Is this one shutting down soon too?

SconeForAStroll · 05/12/2013 22:38

Is this banter? Shirley not.

How can simply chatting be deemed excluding and spoken about pejoratively?

reelingaroundthechristmastree · 05/12/2013 22:38

Blimey Artex, just blimey. Grin

Original poster
Hullygully · 05/12/2013 22:38

Ooo I'm impressed, artex

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thecatfromjapan · 05/12/2013 22:37

Two things I like about T S Eliot: 1. I always read his poems as acknowledging doubt, and the existence of a great deal of doubt as part and parcel of the modern experience of religious belief. I just warm a bit to that: it seems vulnerable and cherishable.

  1. He wrote somewhere about supporting the idea of "set-aside time", a kind of spiritual/thoughtful "holiday", where you have a designated time where you contemplate non-utilitarian matters. I find that quite an amazing thought. Potentially both infuriating and astonishing.
MNHQ
RowanMumsnet · 05/12/2013 22:37

Hello

Just to clarify: the second thread was mostly deleted because we thought it was deliberately inflammatory - in the the sense that if you can clearly see (as the deletion message showed) that a thread was deleted for descending into a bunfight, it seems to us deliberately inflammatory to start a new thread asking why it was deleted Confused

Sorry for not making this clear earlier. RebeccaMumsnet wasn't on duty today - and indeed isn't on duty tonight either.

For what it's worth, however cross you are with our decisions, we think it's utterly out of order to cast pretty nasty aspersions on the professional competence of named members of MNHQ who gave up their Friday evening to attend a Mumsnet meet-up. We don't generally delete attacks on members of MNHQs, but some of the stuff that's been said here is incredibly unpleasant.