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Troll-hunting and subsequent Thread-ruining

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oneofsuesylvesterscheerios · 07/04/2012 16:42

Yes, in some ways this is a thread about a thread, although its actually an interesting general point too. Plus, I don't want to carry on the discussion on the actual thread as it would be too damaging and would take it off in a completely different direction.

So... If a poster broke the rules and shouted troll, and then they were chastised (rightly) and the post removed, unless the offending surrounding comments reacting to the troll-hunt are removed too, the damage has been done surely?

We assume when someone posts regarding a personal trauma that they are telling the truth (well I hope we do) and if we suspect anything, we surely just ignore these days: we know the MN guidelines, etc.

And we know that certain situations in life happen to a lot of people (bereavement, loss, break-ups, etc). So when someone goes through a horrible time, the beauty of MN is that we don't just get sympathy and unmumsnetty hugs; we get empathy from folk who have been there themselves. We also often get bloody good advice, practical and emotional.

A thread that contains an accusation of troll-hunting is blindingly obvious even when the offending poster's comments have been removed. And thus, the damage is done.

When my dad died last I had some fantastic support from mnetters who'd suffered the loss of a parent and knew how 'rootless' it can make you. I'd have been confused and beyond upset if anyone had questioned my grief online. It doesn't matter how many positive posters there are on thread; just one snarky comment and the wave of a pitchfork is enough to send the OP packing, at a time when they might need the 'anonymous' support of MN most.

So, what I'm asking MN Towers is: if troll-hunting is banned, and it's fully acknowledged how damaging this could be on a thread that offers support to lots of people, often not just the OP, shouldn't all references and posts regarding an accusation be completely removed so the thread can remain intact and totally focused on the thread subject? Otherwise, it seems pointless.

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LeBOF · 08/04/2012 23:57

Woohoo!

SarahStrattonsEasterName · 08/04/2012 23:54

Any chance of being Clive Owen? Just for tonight, for me?

ArtexMonkey · 08/04/2012 23:53

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BeerChicksPotter · 08/04/2012 23:53

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SarahStrattonsEasterName · 08/04/2012 23:50

Aren't you? Really? So all these months of stalking you, flirting with you, and you're not he?

Dammit.

BTW I keep reading your nn as BareCheeks. [bugrin]

Apology wholeheartedly accepted oneof, and please accept mine of o have offended you on any way.

JustOneMoreQuestion · 08/04/2012 23:49

How would MN discover if a thread story was real or not?
Say I posted something, people cried "troll", thread was deleted as a precaution, HOW would I say or prove that the story really was something I/a friend or family member was going through?

LeBOF · 08/04/2012 23:49

Like this?

BeerChicksPotter · 08/04/2012 23:35

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oneofsuesylvesterscheerios · 08/04/2012 23:34

Like the dad in Meet the Parents ("I'm watching you, Focker") ?

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PaquesJeLeVauxBien · 08/04/2012 23:31

Sorry oneofsue - I was distracted by thoughts of my trainer and my underwear

PinotCantDoEasterNamesSoGaveUp · 08/04/2012 23:27

eye/point/eye

PinotCantDoEasterNamesSoGaveUp · 08/04/2012 23:27

What Beer said (not about the Hi-legs though)

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usualsuspect · 08/04/2012 23:24

I think to me , like others have said its more like I'm on to you , don't take the piss.

BeerChicksPotter · 08/04/2012 23:23

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oneofsuesylvesterscheerios · 08/04/2012 23:22

Sorry - I've intruded on a pants debate, so slow was I in composing my last post.

As you were...

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PaquesJeLeVauxBien · 08/04/2012 23:21

I tell you, when you're going to the gym regularly with a 23 year old trainer, you pay especial attention to your underwear. Blush

oneofsuesylvesterscheerios · 08/04/2012 23:21

Fwiw, SSEN, I wholeheartedly apologise for believing what the other poster on the other thread said regarding you having a 'history' of that kind of thing. Actually I was going to check it out for myself but that in itself felt too hunt-y and amateur-detective.

So that's another thing I shouldn't have taken on face value then, seemingly.

It's all so complicated.

Do some of us simply expect too much of our online dealings, do you think? Do we need to make more of a division between online and RL, and not expect too much between the two? I like to think I'm savvy about most things and what to get involved with and not. I'd never send money, rally round to someone's aid whom I didn't know in RL, etc. but it's not even as simple as that anymore, really. Maybe everything online needs to be taken with a bigger pinch of salt than would normally be exercised in RL.

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BeerChicksPotter · 08/04/2012 23:20

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usualsuspect · 08/04/2012 23:19

I like a nice big pair of pants tbh

BeerChicksPotter · 08/04/2012 23:18

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PinotCantDoEasterNamesSoGaveUp · 08/04/2012 23:15

boy shorts get eaten by my bum. I must have an odd arse then.

Nope, a nice sensible mini. I'm a simple gal.

OracleOnACrossacle · 08/04/2012 23:14

oooh, no tit tape will never hold these saggers in place!

BeerChicksPotter · 08/04/2012 23:12

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LeBOF · 08/04/2012 23:11

I like the M&S boy shorts knickers. My arse tends to eat other styles.

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